I think the gift suggestions are fine, and good ideas but I think it's inappropriate to remind someone they owe you a gift. I would let it go and if she remembers later, say you forgot all about it as well.

I'm voting don't mention it. and I'm not a formal etiquette person.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she was thinking of $20 gifts, not $500 gifts.

This. Classes and photos can be expensive. Don't bring it up. But I don't think it was a problem that you suggested those gifts since she asked.

My MIL and mom would probably have also agreed so as not to disappoint the mother of their grandchildren. However, they would have preferred to shop for toys, clothing or decorative room items/furniture for their beloved grandchildren instead. You took that pleasure away from your MIL. You are basically asking her to write a check and she could have done that without your input.

Your husband has to walk her through it, naturally. Neither my mother or my MIL would know where to start.

It's not rude - older people become forgetful.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, sorry, I do not agree with the PPs.
You all sound spoiled and entitled.

When someone asks for suggestions, you give them once.

When someone gives you a gift - wanted or not - the response is, 'thank you!'

Be grateful your children even have grandparents who are alive to spend time with them.

I agree with ^ 100%!

Me too. Talk about grabs-ville. Leave it alone.

WTH is wrong with you people? Grandma will prob be mortified she forgot. I would have your DH ask if the offer was still on the table since we'd like to schedule the photographer. If she said no or doesn't agree at this point, she can say so.