Anonymous wrote:Update:

Apparently SIL feels we were rude and unwelcoming to her dog (please note- TO HER DOG NOT HER) and should not have told MIL that next time the dog should stay home. She is not speaking to us apparently because we don't treat her dog as a family member. Um okay. I feel like we now have the perfect reason to stop visiting MIL. Fine by me. I am not going to engage at all, just stop visiting.

Sounds like she's doing you a favor. Sorry for the family drama, but stick to your guns.

Anonymous wrote:Update:

Apparently SIL feels we were rude and unwelcoming to her dog (please note- TO HER DOG NOT HER) and should not have told MIL that next time the dog should stay home. She is not speaking to us apparently because we don't treat her dog as a family member. Um okay. I feel like we now have the perfect reason to stop visiting MIL. Fine by me. I am not going to engage at all, just stop visiting.

Just curious, OP, how is your MIL handling the situation?

Also, good for you!

Anonymous wrote:Update:

Apparently SIL feels we were rude and unwelcoming to her dog (please note- TO HER DOG NOT HER) and should not have told MIL that next time the dog should stay home. She is not speaking to us apparently because we don't treat her dog as a family member. Um okay. I feel like we now have the perfect reason to stop visiting MIL. Fine by me. I am not going to engage at all, just stop visiting.

Actual LOL.

Update:

Apparently SIL feels we were rude and unwelcoming to her dog (please note- TO HER DOG NOT HER) and should not have told MIL that next time the dog should stay home. She is not speaking to us apparently because we don't treat her dog as a family member. Um okay. I feel like we now have the perfect reason to stop visiting MIL. Fine by me. I am not going to engage at all, just stop visiting.

Anonymous wrote:My mom had a dog who was a dominant/aggressive and who bit my then-toddler once on the hand (kid startled dog). It was minor, but she put the dog down the next day. Said she couldn't/wouldn't risk it.

This is simple, common sense.People who conflate dogs with humans are seriously unbalanced.

Only a fool keeps a dog that bites. If the dog cannot be rehomed/retrained, it should be put down.

Either don't go out there again, or for the next visit, have your DH (if possible, you if not) make clear that you will only visit if that dog isn't there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are these actual bites? Or nips? You mentioned one of the bites drew blood .... but so do cat scratches. Obviously children shouldn't be around such a dog, but calling for it to be euthanized may be a tad over dramatic.

Nips and bites. I am not calling for the dog to be euthanized (unless that's deemed to be the only appropriate solution). I just don't want it around any kids, especially mine.

-op

Does it matter? A dog should not be allowed to nip at people either. Especially children.

Anonymous wrote:Are these actual bites? Or nips? You mentioned one of the bites drew blood .... but so do cat scratches. Obviously children shouldn't be around such a dog, but calling for it to be euthanized may be a tad over dramatic.

Nips and bites. I am not calling for the dog to be euthanized (unless that's deemed to be the only appropriate solution). I just don't want it around any kids, especially mine.

-op

Anonymous wrote:I'm stunned by people who take their dogs to other people's homes. That would not fly with me. Op, is sil asserting her right to have her dog there because you take your dog to your ils house? I agree you sil is an ass. She will pay eventually but you take your dog to the ils, right?

I don't have a dog. Honestly if I did, I would never take it to anyone's house.

My MIL has dogs that are territorial and agressive. They are small, but that doesn't matter to me. I made it clear once I had my DD that the dogs needed to be locked up when we came to visit. I also limit visits to her house, invite them to ours, meet at restaurants, that type of thing. When at her house, I usually make it look like I'm looking out for the DOG. Saying things like "Oh DD likes to pull tails and poke eyes, it might be better for Cujo 1, 2 and 3 to be in the bedroom while we're here so she doesn't hurt them." That usually gets the message across.

If the dogs are let out, I keep my DD in my arms or on my lap. Over time, my MIL has gotten better about it because she knows one small nip and I will never take my DD to her house again. She obsessed with her dogs, so she doesn't want to have chose between grand-daughter and dogs. So yes, she helps keep them apart most of the time.

"SIL, your dog bites people. I will not have your dog around my children. As you know, children are often unpredictable and I don't trust them to not do something that could provoke Fido. It's best if they are kept 100% apart. I am sure you understand."

If she doesn't, feel free to explain that IF the dog so much as nipped at your child, you would be calling to report it and have the dog put down. Does she want her dog put down? No? Ok, then keep it away from my kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That dog needs to be put down Its owner is crazy.

+1000
No reputable rescue or shelter will take a dog that bites. This is nuts.

Nor should they.

Are these actual bites? Or nips? You mentioned one of the bites drew blood .... but so do cat scratches. Obviously children shouldn't be around such a dog, but calling for it to be euthanized may be a tad over dramatic.

Anonymous wrote:That dog needs to be put down Its owner is crazy.

+1000
No reputable rescue or shelter will take a dog that bites. This is nuts.