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Anonymous wrote:That's what he wears - Nike, Under Armour and Addidas! It's a fight to get him to wear other clothes. He does have a suit for services and a couple polo shirts.

Same with our 12-year old.

+1. I think all of the 12 year old boys are like this.

No, no they are not. We have always viewed athletic wear for athletics not casual wear and certainly not for school. At some point, you have communicated through your purchasing that this is scceptable for daily wear. It may be difficult to change at this stage without a huge battle.

I agree with this. For my 11 year old it is jeans/slacks/polos/shirts to school and other events. He wears athletic wear for when he is doing athletics or lounging around at home. He has asked to wear athletic clothes to school and the answer is no. I liken this to how you dress in the workplace - it should look like you are coming to work and not to a sporting event.

You are dictating what your 11 year old can wear to school??? Loosen up, lady.

I don't dictate what he wears, but there are a few things that are unacceptable for school i.e athletic wear, pajamas, clothes that are soiled or ripped.

Obviously, if the school dress code allows athletic wear, it is not unacceptable for school. It is just unacceptable to his mom.

My 12 yr old wears khaki pants, 5 pocket corduroys, and cargo pants/shorts every day along with a graphic T and a patagonia pull over or his swim team hoodie.

He has never liked jeans, used to attend a school with a uniform so always wore khaki's or cords from about 4 yrs old on.

Wears running shoes most days.

Occasionally he will on his of accord dress in a button down shirt or gold shirt, but definitely wears those for picture day, or if he needs to give a presentation in school and out to dinner.

My 10 year old would live in "active" wear, but I ask him to restrict it to just PE days b/c I think it just looks like PJs, but I am not strict about it.

Anonymous wrote:I would prefer to wear sweatpants or other elastic-waistband pants all day long. However, it is not acceptable to do so at work. I feel that these 11/12-year-olds who will not wear jeans will grow into 15/16-year-olds who still will not wear jeans. They are in for a rude awakening when they get their first job.

I make my kids wear some type of buttoned pants (jeans, khakis, etc) 2-3 times a week. Gotta get used to the real world!

I really cannot imagine how letting my kids choose their clothes has any effect on how they adjust to dressing for work. I taught my kids that they have to follow the dress code. Athletic clothing fit well within the dress code at their schools, so long as there are no forbidden graphics on the t-shirts. One of mine wore only shorts, t-shirts and hoodies, all year round. Another put together the craziest outfits and the third wears only dresses. Each to their own because all fit within the dress code. And, we haven't seen any difficulty adjusting to the first job - at least as far as clothes go.

My 12 yo DS also mainly wears athletic wear for school. He likes to wear shorts when he can get away with it. He also has some jogger khaki pants, skinny cut, that he likes. While I would rather he wore non-athletic pants more often, this is not a worthwhile battle to me.

I think of tween/teen clothing choices as an expression of identity and an opportunity for low-stakes decision-making, and so long as the look is not offensive or against my values (low pants with the butt hanging out, rude language on tee shirts), I'll allow it. My DS looks like a sporty bro, which is not how I would choose to dress him, but it is how he dresses himself, so be it.

If there is a family function that requires nice attire, then I enforce that, khakis and a button down shirt, something like that. Shirt and tie for dressier events.

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Anonymous wrote:I would prefer to wear sweatpants or other elastic-waistband pants all day long. However, it is not acceptable to do so at work. I feel that these 11/12-year-olds who will not wear jeans will grow into 15/16-year-olds who still will not wear jeans. They are in for a rude awakening when they get their first job.

I make my kids wear some type of buttoned pants (jeans, khakis, etc) 2-3 times a week. Gotta get used to the real world!

In the "real world" I am required to wear a suit every day...wasn't really a rude awakening even though I had never owned a suit, let alone worn one, until adulthood.

Not to mention, khakis and jeans aren't acceptable at many places of work so OMG your kids are in for a rude awakening when they have to wear dress pants!!!

Just keep telling yourself this to justify your kid going to school in lounge wear.

Anonymous wrote:I would prefer to wear sweatpants or other elastic-waistband pants all day long. However, it is not acceptable to do so at work. I feel that these 11/12-year-olds who will not wear jeans will grow into 15/16-year-olds who still will not wear jeans. They are in for a rude awakening when they get their first job.

I make my kids wear some type of buttoned pants (jeans, khakis, etc) 2-3 times a week. Gotta get used to the real world!

In the "real world" I am required to wear a suit every day...wasn't really a rude awakening even though I had never owned a suit, let alone worn one, until adulthood.

Not to mention, khakis and jeans aren't acceptable at many places of work so OMG your kids are in for a rude awakening when they have to wear dress pants!!!

Our school has a dress code, so he wears khakis or similar pants and long-sleeved polos or t-shirts in the winter, shorts and polos or t-shirts in warmer weather. No jeans, no athletic wear, no sweats except for during sports. He wears sneakers most days and sperrys when getting dressed up for church or family get-togethers. He mostly wore the same clothes when he went to public school, but he wore jeans also. I never allowed him to wear sports attire to school, even though a lot of the other boys did. It felt wrong to me, but I'm sure it's comfy.

Anonymous wrote:I would prefer to wear sweatpants or other elastic-waistband pants all day long. However, it is not acceptable to do so at work. I feel that these 11/12-year-olds who will not wear jeans will grow into 15/16-year-olds who still will not wear jeans. They are in for a rude awakening when they get their first job.

I make my kids wear some type of buttoned pants (jeans, khakis, etc) 2-3 times a week. Gotta get used to the real world!

High school boys wear jeans. I am not too worried.

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Anonymous wrote:That's what he wears - Nike, Under Armour and Addidas! It's a fight to get him to wear other clothes. He does have a suit for services and a couple polo shirts.

Same with our 12-year old.

+1. I think all of the 12 year old boys are like this.

No, no they are not. We have always viewed athletic wear for athletics not casual wear and certainly not for school. At some point, you have communicated through your purchasing that this is scceptable for daily wear. It may be difficult to change at this stage without a huge battle.

I agree with this. For my 11 year old it is jeans/slacks/polos/shirts to school and other events. He wears athletic wear for when he is doing athletics or lounging around at home. He has asked to wear athletic clothes to school and the answer is no. I liken this to how you dress in the workplace - it should look like you are coming to work and not to a sporting event.

You are dictating what your 11 year old can wear to school??? Loosen up, lady.

Yes, I dictate. I am the parent. I buy the clothes. DH agrees as well. DS does not care all that much so it is not a big deal. We are actually plenty loose and have a great kid. We parents all have the things that we decide are important. I hardly think this is all that crazy.

Depends on the kid.
My skinny DS, now an 8th grader doesn't wear athletic clothes to school. It's too much of a struggle to find pants that stay up. Slim sized, skinny cut with a belt! he ads a plain tee shirt and a button down shirt worn open, sleeves rolled.
Screen printed shirts are limited to school logo tees. But, screen printed is very out!
As my DS says it's a sheep, moose or whale day.
I wish he would wear shorts, he wouldn't be outgrowing pants at every turn.

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Anonymous wrote:That's what he wears - Nike, Under Armour and Addidas! It's a fight to get him to wear other clothes. He does have a suit for services and a couple polo shirts.

Same with our 12-year old.

Same here. Won't wear anything else and absolutely hates jeans. We bought two under armour polo shirts for church and special occasions and he has one pair of black pants. Of all the things I can put my foot down about, this one is NOT worth the fight. Peer pressure will change it when the time comes.

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Anonymous wrote:That's what he wears - Nike, Under Armour and Addidas! It's a fight to get him to wear other clothes. He does have a suit for services and a couple polo shirts.

Same with our 12-year old.

+1. I think all of the 12 year old boys are like this.

No, no they are not. We have always viewed athletic wear for athletics not casual wear and certainly not for school. At some point, you have communicated through your purchasing that this is scceptable for daily wear. It may be difficult to change at this stage without a huge battle.

I agree with this. For my 11 year old it is jeans/slacks/polos/shirts to school and other events. He wears athletic wear for when he is doing athletics or lounging around at home. He has asked to wear athletic clothes to school and the answer is no. I liken this to how you dress in the workplace - it should look like you are coming to work and not to a sporting event.

You are dictating what your 11 year old can wear to school??? Loosen up, lady.

I don't dictate what he wears, but there are a few things that are unacceptable for school i.e athletic wear, pajamas, clothes that are soiled or ripped.

Mine wears shorts or jeans depending on the weather. And a logo tshirt from some event he has participated in. And a hoodie from Target if cold. He is not athletic at all so it would seem odd for him to wear the athletic wear that all boys seem to wear. I've offered flannel shirts but he isn't interested and would get too hot anyway. He really doesn't care what he wears yet.

Anonymous wrote:I would prefer to wear sweatpants or other elastic-waistband pants all day long. However, it is not acceptable to do so at work. I feel that these 11/12-year-olds who will not wear jeans will grow into 15/16-year-olds who still will not wear jeans. They are in for a rude awakening when they get their first job.

I make my kids wear some type of buttoned pants (jeans, khakis, etc) 2-3 times a week. Gotta get used to the real world!

I didn't wear a suit as a kid, but somehow I adjusted to it when I got a job that required one. Silly to think that you have to dress them now in the way they will dress later as adults (not that you know what job they will have or what clothes it will require). They are kids; let them be comfortable.