Anonymous
Post 12/12/2015 02:44     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:More background is needed. Is there some reason to worry? If he's cheated yeah I'd need him to have his azz home at a reasonable hour. But if this is the case for you I'd contemplate if I even want to be married to someone I have to constantly monitor.

Also, my husband always takes me to his company Christmas party. Is there some reason you couldn't attend?


My firm has a no spouse/SO rule at our holiday party, which I think is ridiculous. Saves us money on a babysitter though. My DH will typically go for a glass of wine, make the rounds, then leave.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 15:34     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
My DH is not a drinker, but every time there is a work event (Xmas party, annual meeting, whatever) he hangs out just as late as everyone does, nursing a beer or two and being a company guy. He has ended up at a strip club before with his old boss, all sorts of ridiculous stuff. Its actually an impressive routine that he has down, because I am *not* able to fake having a fun time with a bunch of drunks when I am not. But, that is his company culture, so that is what he has to do to keep in the good graces of the higher ups.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 15:30     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder if his holiday party is anything like the one at my old company. We were all young and mostly single and child-free, and we would drink enormous amounts of alcohol whenever it was paid for by someone else. Someone got the brilliant idea to do car bombs at one happy hour, and after that, they seemed to get ordered at every party. (and yeah, we'd race to see who could finish fastest.)

There were no drunken shenanigans, though - nobody hooking up with anyone who wasn't their spouse. It was just us cutting loose, being stupid and feeling sh*tty the next day.

I miss that company.


I think we worked for the same company


I worked for a very similar company in my 20s too. It was amazing. Tons of fun young people, epic happy hours, and the best holiday party ever. No one cared if you drank a lot and they gave out probably 10k worth of prizes.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 15:24     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
More background is needed. Is there some reason to worry? If he's cheated yeah I'd need him to have his azz home at a reasonable hour. But if this is the case for you I'd contemplate if I even want to be married to someone I have to constantly monitor.

Also, my husband always takes me to his company Christmas party. Is there some reason you couldn't attend?
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 15:20     Subject: Re:DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:
You're so right, OP.

Instead of being at his work party and chatting and schmoozing with the higher-ups, as any sane person in his 20's would, he should have left at 7:15 to sit home with you and watch Top Chef.

Sure schmoozing with the higher ups....being drunk with your higher ups is great for your career. As a 20's some you should treat a holiday party as work, maybe one drink. It's work.


This depends a lot on industry, personalities, whether you're a cool guy or not, etc. I made partner mostly by developing close personal relationships with a few key guys, and a lot of that came from going out together and hitting the bars pretty hard. I would never trust a junior colleague who follows the "one drink and treat it like work" approach. Relax, dude. All the good work in the world doesn't make up for having no personality (or better yet being a transparently scheming little weasel).
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 15:15     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
OP have you gotten the message that you were being ridiculous about this? Don't let this be a habit.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 14:58     Subject: Re:DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Hi all. He came home at midnight and was all sweet and cuddly.

He had a great time! paying for it today though haha.


Bow chica bow bow??
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 14:57     Subject: Re:DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:
You're so right, OP.

Instead of being at his work party and chatting and schmoozing with the higher-ups, as any sane person in his 20's would, he should have left at 7:15 to sit home with you and watch Top Chef.

Sure schmoozing with the higher ups....being drunk with your higher ups is great for your career. As a 20's some you should treat a holiday party as work, maybe one drink. It's work.


In my experience, it's usually the higher ups that are drinking and cutting loose the most. While I would agree it's not advisable to try to match their level of inebriation, the reason they're throwing the party is to express gratitude for their employees' hard work and to give them a chance to let loose and forget about work for a few hours.

You would never last in my company!
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 14:52     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only thing wrong with this picture is that you are sitting at home, waiting up for him...

Why didn't he bring you along? Isn't that what company parties are for??


Not all holiday parties allow for spouses or significant others due to budgetary constraints.

My team is having our holiday party next week at a local lounge (about 25 of us). No spouses invited.


I was wondering this too. If spouses are not invited, then they should bail early. Show up to to show up but companies can't expect people will want to just.... be with the same exact people as work for hours outside of work.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 14:52     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:I wonder if his holiday party is anything like the one at my old company. We were all young and mostly single and child-free, and we would drink enormous amounts of alcohol whenever it was paid for by someone else. Someone got the brilliant idea to do car bombs at one happy hour, and after that, they seemed to get ordered at every party. (and yeah, we'd race to see who could finish fastest.)

There were no drunken shenanigans, though - nobody hooking up with anyone who wasn't their spouse. It was just us cutting loose, being stupid and feeling sh*tty the next day.

I miss that company.


I think we worked for the same company
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 14:41     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:The only thing wrong with this picture is that you are sitting at home, waiting up for him...

Why didn't he bring you along? Isn't that what company parties are for??


Not all holiday parties allow for spouses or significant others due to budgetary constraints.

My team is having our holiday party next week at a local lounge (about 25 of us). No spouses invited.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 14:39     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
OP, you sound like my best friend. She literally sits and waits for her husband to get home from work. She has very few friends. They've been married for almost 5 years now. Please get some hobbies or friends. PP is right. Why didn't you attend the party?
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 14:10     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
The only thing wrong with this picture is that you are sitting at home, waiting up for him...

Why didn't he bring you along? Isn't that what company parties are for??
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 12:34     Subject: DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Op, you are probably his biggest regret.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2015 12:32     Subject: Re:DH is still at his company holiday dinner/drinks
Anonymous wrote:
You're so right, OP.

Instead of being at his work party and chatting and schmoozing with the higher-ups, as any sane person in his 20's would, he should have left at 7:15 to sit home with you and watch Top Chef.

Sure schmoozing with the higher ups....being drunk with your higher ups is great for your career. As a 20's some you should treat a holiday party as work, maybe one drink. It's work.


A stick in the mud antisocial is absolute career suicide in my company.