Anonymous wrote:Be grateful they want to help. I'll trade.

+1 nobody has ever knocked on my bedroom door offering to feed either of my kids

Anonymous wrote:OP I got the impression that both you and your husband work. Are you able to stay home with your son for the rest of the calendar year? or you need your in-laws there?

If it is space issue, have you thought about why your mother's 3-week stay did not bother you but your in-laws does?

You are under a lot of stress: sick child and crammed in a small space with a number of people. Is it possible you are reacting a bit unreasonable because of these stresses?

As far as I can tell from your story, your MIL is trying very hard to be helpful: ask if you want her to take the baby, clearing food choices with you, even recording a video of milestone that you may have missed so I really do not get why you are angry with her.

My mother has also offered to take our son for a month to another country/continent. She does it because she would love to be with him longer but I know she knows that I will not go a along with it. But that request let me know my son is loved and we are lucky - read the thread about the husband with the sick wife and nobody from her family care.


I hope you find a way to deal and give your husband the respect and patience that he has shown toward you and your family.

NP. Let's review. Hmm, why would one extra person (OP's mom) bother her less in the small space than two extra people? HMM...I can't imagine! OP even said in her original post that just having MIL would be easier than MIL AND FIL. Why crowd a space with an extra person like that?!

OP I got the impression that both you and your husband work. Are you able to stay home with your son for the rest of the calendar year? or you need your in-laws there?

If it is space issue, have you thought about why your mother's 3-week stay did not bother you but your in-laws does?

You are under a lot of stress: sick child and crammed in a small space with a number of people. Is it possible you are reacting a bit unreasonable because of these stresses?

As far as I can tell from your story, your MIL is trying very hard to be helpful: ask if you want her to take the baby, clearing food choices with you, even recording a video of milestone that you may have missed so I really do not get why you are angry with her.

My mother has also offered to take our son for a month to another country/continent. She does it because she would love to be with him longer but I know she knows that I will not go a along with it. But that request let me know my son is loved and we are lucky - read the thread about the husband with the sick wife and nobody from her family care.

I hope you find a way to deal and give your husband the respect and patience that he has shown toward you and your family.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Bringing this back because MIL and FIL suggested that they take our child with them back to the midwest, because MIL said she can't imagine living without him. I replied with "That's how I feel every morning when I go to work." I mentioned it to DH when he came home, and he admitted that they had already asked him if they could take our baby the first week they came. WHO OFFERS SUCH A THING? Are they not thinking about their own son and daughter in law?

Wow, OP. That is WAY out of the norm. Seriously, who says such a thing other than in extreme jest, like I say, "I just want to eat him up!" If they were even remotely serious, those are some creepy, creepy people.

Is there any way that they can stay somewhere other than your one bedroom apartment? Honestly, this seems like the opposite of helpful. I would be exploding with stress after a 2-hour visit, not multiple days. I have to take breaks from my in-laws every 20 or 30 minutes -- go for walks, go to the other side of the house, get FAR away so I can't even hear their voices. I would be crawling out of my skin if I had to share a 1 bedroom apartment with them, my husband, and our son.