Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Visitors/family with kids, this is not a vacation from your parental duties just because aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins are around. Get off the iPad, peel away from the conversation, pause the DVR and go put your kids to bed properly.

Why are you letting your young kids stay up more than an hour past their normal bedtime, for several nights in a row? The rest if the adults in the house should be able to have some quiet, relaxing, kid-free time...we want to chat with the other adults. ESPECIALLY those of us who have kids and did the right thing and put them to bed properly.

This is one of the strangest posts I've ever seen. Do you hate everyone or just your extended family? What a weirdo.

Let's guess what kind of guest you are...

Happy? Fun? Not the prissy old bitty in the corner rolling my eyes at people, I can tell you that.

You seriously need to take a pill or something. So some other people's kids are awake later than normal... Who cares?! The adults can talk and laugh and drink and do whatever it is you do in your family, the kids can hang out with cousins they never see, watch movies, run around, shit kids do. It's boisterous and fun and the stuff that makes memories.

I'm sure you're a real good time though. All the responsible adult guests just on the edge of their seats for the moment the kids are in bed so they can chat you up. Merry Christmas!

NP here. I see your point, but I've also experienced the other side of things. We had close friends stay with us and they have a younger kid (not the quiet tween that will happily read or play computer games). I think my friend's kid was around 2.5 or 3 at the time. My similarly aged kids went down by 8pm each night but my friends were up with their f*cken kid until around 10pm each night. Being brutally honest, the kid wasn't cute, quiet, or fun to be around during the later evening hours. I can understand older kids hanging about while adults talk, drink, whatever... but when younger kids are up late it SUCKS for everyone. I don't think hosts can dictate when kids go to bed, but they can certainly decide to avoid inviting people over in the future if the experience is unpleasant.

OP here. I would never set a bedtime in my home. Nor would I tell my guests when to go to bed. It's just astounding to me that some parents are so oblivious to the fact that their kids are getting wired, tired and cranky, and the adults want and deserve time to relax!

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Anonymous wrote:For every relative making this complaint, another's complaining that DIL is so uptight about her schedule and doesn't even let the family hang out with their grandkids/nieces/nephews/cousins. I've given up trying to please.

+1 I'm the DIL who's considered too rigid and strict about bedtime (and for my kids that's 8:30) when I'm insisting that everyone's life would be much easier if we could just put them to bed on time. I try to go with the flow as much as possible until it's clear that the kids need better sleep, but my ILs like staying up late and want to have the kids hanging out too.

So? Are you the parent or not? Tell your ILs too bad!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.

Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.

What kind of host makes a rule about when his or her guests must go to bed??

The kind that want to enjoy talking with their adult friends and not the noisy baggage they came with?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.

Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.

What kind of host makes a rule about when his or her guests must go to bed??

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Visitors/family with kids, this is not a vacation from your parental duties just because aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins are around. Get off the iPad, peel away from the conversation, pause the DVR and go put your kids to bed properly.

Why are you letting your young kids stay up more than an hour past their normal bedtime, for several nights in a row? The rest if the adults in the house should be able to have some quiet, relaxing, kid-free time...we want to chat with the other adults. ESPECIALLY those of us who have kids and did the right thing and put them to bed properly.

This is one of the strangest posts I've ever seen. Do you hate everyone or just your extended family? What a weirdo.

Let's guess what kind of guest you are...

Happy? Fun? Not the prissy old bitty in the corner rolling my eyes at people, I can tell you that.

You seriously need to take a pill or something. So some other people's kids are awake later than normal... Who cares?! The adults can talk and laugh and drink and do whatever it is you do in your family, the kids can hang out with cousins they never see, watch movies, run around, shit kids do. It's boisterous and fun and the stuff that makes memories.

I'm sure you're a real good time though. All the responsible adult guests just on the edge of their seats for the moment the kids are in bed so they can chat you up. Merry Christmas!

Anonymous wrote:For every relative making this complaint, another's complaining that DIL is so uptight about her schedule and doesn't even let the family hang out with their grandkids/nieces/nephews/cousins. I've given up trying to please.

+1 I'm the DIL who's considered too rigid and strict about bedtime (and for my kids that's 8:30) when I'm insisting that everyone's life would be much easier if we could just put them to bed on time. I try to go with the flow as much as possible until it's clear that the kids need better sleep, but my ILs like staying up late and want to have the kids hanging out too.

Wait. The hosts get to decide when kids whom are not theirs get to go to sleep? GTFO.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For every relative making this complaint, another's complaining that DIL is so uptight about her schedule and doesn't even let the family hang out with their grandkids/nieces/nephews/cousins. I've given up trying to please.

Just do what's best for the kids...a bedtime that allows them plenty of sleep.

I'm pretty sure I know what my kids need better than you or my relations-if they've had long late naps, they will be cutting into your drinking time. And I'm not going to say thanks for the advice, because I don't do the passive aggressive thing anymore.

Anonymous wrote:For every relative making this complaint, another's complaining that DIL is so uptight about her schedule and doesn't even let the family hang out with their grandkids/nieces/nephews/cousins. I've given up trying to please.

Just do what's best for the kids...a bedtime that allows them plenty of sleep.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Visitors/family with kids, this is not a vacation from your parental duties just because aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins are around. Get off the iPad, peel away from the conversation, pause the DVR and go put your kids to bed properly.

Why are you letting your young kids stay up more than an hour past their normal bedtime, for several nights in a row? The rest if the adults in the house should be able to have some quiet, relaxing, kid-free time...we want to chat with the other adults. ESPECIALLY those of us who have kids and did the right thing and put them to bed properly.

This is one of the strangest posts I've ever seen. Do you hate everyone or just your extended family? What a weirdo.

Let's guess what kind of guest you are...

Anonymous wrote:Visitors/family with kids, this is not a vacation from your parental duties just because aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins are around. Get off the iPad, peel away from the conversation, pause the DVR and go put your kids to bed properly.

Why are you letting your young kids stay up more than an hour past their normal bedtime, for several nights in a row? The rest if the adults in the house should be able to have some quiet, relaxing, kid-free time...we want to chat with the other adults. ESPECIALLY those of us who have kids and did the right thing and put them to bed properly.

This is one of the strangest posts I've ever seen. Do you hate everyone or just your extended family? What a weirdo.

For every relative making this complaint, another's complaining that DIL is so uptight about her schedule and doesn't even let the family hang out with their grandkids/nieces/nephews/cousins. I've given up trying to please.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.

Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.

So if you're one of those people who puts your kid to bed at 6, and you come to my house, I can announce that bedtime is midnight? After all those are host's rules.

Sure, absolutely. And we'd be going to a hotel.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're assuming people have early bedtimes for their kids year round. Many don't.

Then they need to tell their host that. If the host objects and the guest doesn't like it, they are free to stay in a hotel. Host's house= host's rules.

So if you're one of those people who puts your kid to bed at 6, and you come to my house, I can announce that bedtime is midnight? After all those are host's rules.