Just straight up tell him that you don't like it. He didn't have one when you got together and you really tried to like it but at this point it is uncomfortable for you when you kiss him and you think that he was much more attractive to you without it.

I have had a big beard my whole adult life, before hipsters got to it, and if my wife came to me in a non bitchy way and said "hey, i really don't like it" that would be fine, I'd see if I could manage living without it because I care about her. In turn if I felt ridiculous without it I would tell her and she would hopefully say thanks for trying and tell me to grow it back because she loves me. Be direct, if women would just say what they actually want from their men matter of factly they will respect it and more often than not respond to it. Its when we have to guess what you actually want us to do that shit gets annoying.

If it is a big deal for him then you have two have to compromise and one person caves. You decide if its worth having the argument over.

Anonymous wrote:Does he also have a man bun? The man bun and beard are both awful, but together the horror of it all is multiplied by 10.

OP here- haha no he doesn't.

Anonymous wrote:Does he also have a man bun? The man bun and beard are both awful, but together the horror of it all is multiplied by 10.

Amen.

Does he also have a man bun? The man bun and beard are both awful, but together the horror of it all is multiplied by 10.

Get him a red & white suit and some black boots and ask him to wear them when he meets your family.

Anonymous wrote:Ooh, Girl, beards are sooooo sexy though. I live in San Francisco so I guess I am biased. Ultimately it is an acquired taste, if you don't like it, you don't like it

Woman married forever here: I have eczema. The beard has to go because I'm not putting up with a rash.

Here's an article/listicle on beard oils at the end of the list there are guides of beard shaping.
http://www.themanual.com/grooming/manuals-best-beard-oils/

I think instead of turning it into a stand off talk about compromise. Ask nicely if he'll trim it, get him a nice beard oil- he needs to keep it hydrated so it's not looking all mountain man scraggly. Pick out one that has a nice scent that you like. You could get him a gift certificate for a shave at a men's lounge/art of shaving, etc. Where they could teach him how to shape it nicely. Find pictures of beard shapes that you are okay with (even if you're not crazy about them.) If you tell him you think it would be sexy if... I think you have lots of options.

Anonymous wrote:Ooh, Girl, beards are sooooo sexy though. I live in San Francisco so I guess I am biased. Ultimately it is an acquired taste, if you don't like it, you don't like it

Op here: I do think some beards can be sexy and I think I mentioned that I don't mind it when it's nice and trimmed up and close to his face. I just don't find the whole duck dynasty beard look attractive.

DW of 15 years with a DH who nearly always has a scruffy beard going...honestly, sometimes it feels so scratchy, especially in some sexual situations. Ouch. I think I said something once that it scratched me down there and next thing I knew, he was in the bathroom shaving his scruff right off.

This reminds me of the recent thread asking if engagement ring size matters.

I hate when my husband is stubbly. If he is, he is not allowed to kiss me. If my husband grew facial hair, I'd just cut it off when he's sleeping. When he starts to snore and gets in a good sleep, off it would go.

Anonymous wrote:Just not a fan of trying to control a partner's appearance either actively or passively (withholding affection? Really?). Too much like the threads where guys complain they aren't attracted to their wives because of the baby weight, etc.

Difference is, one has 100% control over how much facial hair they grow. One doesn't get to choose how much baby weight they gain, or how easy it is to get it off afterward.

OP, tell him flat out that you hate it. Then the ball is in his court. You get to decide what to do after he has your honest opinion.

I hate when my husband grows facial hair. He loves it. He stays clean shaven (most of the time) for me. He likes long hair on me. I keep it long, even though it would be easier to cut it short, because I know it's a big deal to him. Relationships are about compromise and giving in to the other person about things that aren't Super. Big. Deals.

Ooh, Girl, beards are sooooo sexy though. I live in San Francisco so I guess I am biased. Ultimately it is an acquired taste, if you don't like it, you don't like it

I hate my boyfriend's beard too. He's always taking her to work events and business trips, leaving me at home. Oh, maybe you meant something different...