Anonymous
Post 11/02/2015 09:55     Subject: Grandma thinks she knows my child better than I do
Anonymous wrote:I am a grandmother of 7 and try to keep my mouth closed, but I am exceptionally close to my grandkids and sometimes they tell me worries or reasons for things they don't share with mom or dad. So don't shut your mom out completely. Just ask her, why specifically she things Larlo isn't ready.Then think about what she has to say and then make up your own mind. It deosn't hurt to listen once.



Dear grandma: you're leaning perilously close to forbidden waters. Shut up. Kids also make stuff up for grandparents that has nothing to do with reality.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2015 01:24     Subject: Grandma thinks she knows my child better than I do
I am a grandmother of 7 and try to keep my mouth closed, but I am exceptionally close to my grandkids and sometimes they tell me worries or reasons for things they don't share with mom or dad. So don't shut your mom out completely. Just ask her, why specifically she things Larlo isn't ready.Then think about what she has to say and then make up your own mind. It deosn't hurt to listen once.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2015 15:54     Subject: Re:Grandma thinks she knows my child better than I do
"Glad you asked, mom. We're doing great. Larlo has been playing firefighter! When DH's meth lab caught fire the little imp knew to use water and not my jug of Everclear to put out the conflagration. I swear that boy is a genius. Larla absolutely loves our Mommy 'n Me pole dancing classes. I gotta run, mom. DH and I are late for swingers night at the biker bar. Toodles!"
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2015 15:38     Subject: Re:Grandma thinks she knows my child better than I do
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you need to share less and less info with your mom. When you talk with her on the phone, tell her everything is great and don't go into too many details.


LOL.. that's what I do. Mom asks... how are the kids, are they ok? I say yes everyone is fine, even if my kid has a really bad cold. I just don't want to hear the barrage that comes after that .... make sure you do xyz... try to prevent them from getting colds (seriously, she says shit like this). I only share really good news, like what they've accomplished. Thank god she lives across the country.



Seriously. It's sad and frustrating, because phone calls are stilted. ("How is everything?" "Fine." "Everything is fine, everyone is fine.") But any other response caused her to give unsolicited advice (like my dad suggesteing I wear a coat when it was 85 degrees) and then calling relatives to tell them about my ailments.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2015 15:35     Subject: Grandma thinks she knows my child better than I do
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Mom, if a couple hours of play based preschool is going to set you off, then I can't feel comfortable sharing normal updates on our family life with you. I'd like to be open and honest, but I don't have the bandwidth for the hysterics I'm getting in return. Call me when you've collected yourself" then hang up.


+1000



+1000000000
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2015 23:40     Subject: Re:Grandma thinks she knows my child better than I do
My mom and MIL used to be like this and my friend gave me the best advice. Tolerate it now and just hold on knowing there will come a day when the kids can talk and you will never have to worry about it again.

Grandma" Larla just loves mashed potatoes:
DS: : "No I don't grandma, I've always hated them."

Priceless.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2015 21:26     Subject: Grandma thinks she knows my child better than I do
Anonymous wrote:"Mom, we are happy with our decision, and I am not going to discuss it any more."

Don't go into the details, just repeat.


+1 direct is best.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2015 21:22     Subject: Grandma thinks she knows my child better than I do
C'mon. You just want a break an you know it. It's about you, not him.

Signed,
A SAHM who sent her kids 2 mornings at 2.5. BUT I owned it.