Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You attract what you are looking for.

This is the only correct response in this entire thread. Nail on the head.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It all goes back to childhood OP.

As kids, our definition of love first comes from our home/parents. The way they show us love, and even model true love for each other can impact us more than we care to admit.

Suppose you had a dad with no ambition. We are taught as kids to love our parents, respect them. Bar nothing.

So we do as we are obligated to do. Then as adults, we find ourselves in relationships with losers.

Why so?? Because we naturally cling to what made us comfortable as young children. People like to gravitate toward what is comfortable, esp. regarding love.

It is like a vicious pattern from our youth.

Nope. I had a wonderful, caring, involved father but dated losers my entire adult life. But married a wonderful, caring, involved man.

I disagree PP above.

This advice is spot-on as well.

Anonymous wrote:It all goes back to childhood OP.

As kids, our definition of love first comes from our home/parents. The way they show us love, and even model true love for each other can impact us more than we care to admit.

Suppose you had a dad with no ambition. We are taught as kids to love our parents, respect them. Bar nothing.

So we do as we are obligated to do. Then as adults, we find ourselves in relationships with losers.

Why so?? Because we naturally cling to what made us comfortable as young children. People like to gravitate toward what is comfortable, esp. regarding love.

It is like a vicious pattern from our youth.

Anonymous wrote:You attract what you are looking for.