Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry you're going through this and I don't want to be a jerk, but feel like this is a story younger women who insist on waiting need to see. Your dh was ready when you were 30 but you wanted to wait until you were 35? I know there are many women with no issues even after 35 but that's a risk you (or he, since he was the one who was ready) shouldn't have taken. He's probably kicking himself for not insisting harder earlier or for not getting out.

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I'm really sorry you're going through this and I don't want to be a jerk, but feel like this is a story younger women who insist on waiting need to see. Your dh was ready when you were 30 but you wanted to wait until you were 35? I know there are many women with no issues even after 35 but that's a risk you (or he, since he was the one who was ready) shouldn't have taken. He's probably kicking himself for not insisting harder earlier or for not getting out.

OP here. Just wanted to clarify something. Before we started TTC #1, we agreed we would have one child. We did not talk about having more than one at that time. We got pregnant quickly and easily and I assumed my fertility was fine. Now that we have one child, my husband really wants to have a second. I am ambivalent about having a second, for a variety of reasons. However, despite my ambivalence I agreed to start TTC #2 because my husband wanted a second so much. I was happy to try to make his dream for a larger family come true by TTC naturally, and we started TTC when our child was 15 months. I did not feel ready any sooner than that. However, after 6 months of TTC and no pregnancy, I had some tests done and came to find out that I have very poor numbers for ovarian reserve. Now, things have changed. The idea of starting infertility treatments is completely overwhelming to me and not a very appealing idea, but I am willing to meet with REs, learn about the process and keep an open mind while learning what options would be open to us given my decreased ovarian reserve.