Anonymous wrote:A lot of this can be done here. I sold DD's stroller when she was a few months shy of 3, and I carried for her only a diaper, small pack of wipes, one small snack. When she started asking to bring toys on errands, I would say "Only if you carry it". We only lost one once (she left her stuffed panda on a city bus; I told her he had gone on vacation to Florida). While I couldn't let her walk to a store from the house by herself, I could let her go INTO a store by herself with money to purchase something.

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Anonymous wrote:I live in Japan as a non Japanese. The U.S. is simply not set up in the same way. First, Japanese people are much more mindful of pedestrians and cyclists. Driving down my narrow Japanese street is terrifying, bc if someone walks out in front of me, it is totally my fault (even if they are negligent). Cars are "stronger" than people or bikes, so the driver is always blamed for not being more careful. Also, the crime rate is significantly less. Child abduction is linked to family members, not pedophiles (although sex crimes exist-groping on trains etc).[i][u] Schools are set up so that kids can walk to schools in groups with teacher chaperones. Trains are accurate and perfectly timed. Society has to be set up like this bc the Japanese want their workforce at work, not encumbered by school drop off. It is pretty amazing.

That is *exactly* the same in the US. Stranger child abduction in the US is extraordinarily, exceedingly, rare. And yet, for some reason, US parents are fixated on it in a way that isn't the case in most of Europe and Asia.

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Anonymous wrote:Japan has a much lower crime rate than the U.S. The murder rate is extremely low there. Also, pedophiles are everywhere in this area. Just pull up the sex offender map and they are everywhere.

Most people on the sex offender list are not pedophiles who are danger to your children. You can be an 18 yr old having sex with your 17 yr old girl friend and end up on the sex offender list. I have absolutely no faith that it tells me anything useful.

Most men on the sex offender list are not 18 year olds that had sex with 17 year old girlfriends. Do you understand how one gets on that list?

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Anonymous wrote:Japan has a much lower crime rate than the U.S. The murder rate is extremely low there. Also, pedophiles are everywhere in this area. Just pull up the sex offender map and they are everywhere.

Most people on the sex offender list are not pedophiles who are danger to your children. You can be an 18 yr old having sex with your 17 yr old girl friend and end up on the sex offender list. I have absolutely no faith that it tells me anything useful.

The sex offender list doesn't even limit itself to pedophiles. Some people on that list are convicted of assaulting another adult. Not that that makes them less dangerous, but the sex offender registry isn't a map of pedophiles.

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Anonymous wrote:Japan has a much lower crime rate than the U.S. The murder rate is extremely low there. Also, pedophiles are everywhere in this area. Just pull up the sex offender map and they are everywhere.

Most people on the sex offender list are not pedophiles who are danger to your children. You can be an 18 yr old having sex with your 17 yr old girl friend and end up on the sex offender list. I have absolutely no faith that it tells me anything useful.

Anonymous wrote:I live in Japan as a non Japanese. The U.S. is simply not set up in the same way. First, Japanese people are much more mindful of pedestrians and cyclists. Driving down my narrow Japanese street is terrifying, bc if someone walks out in front of me, it is totally my fault (even if they are negligent). Cars are "stronger" than people or bikes, so the driver is always blamed for not being more careful. Also, the crime rate is significantly less. Child abduction is linked to family members, not pedophiles (although sex crimes exist-groping on trains etc). Schools are set up so that kids can walk to schools in groups with teacher chaperones. Trains are accurate and perfectly timed. Society has to be set up like this bc the Japanese want their workforce at work, not encumbered by school drop off. It is pretty amazing.

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What I do notice in my travels is that European and Asian families don't carry their house contents with them when they go on outings! Fewer sightings of huge diaper bags, double strollers, minivans spilling out their overflow onto the sidewalk, etc. Even toddlers carry their own little bags with small water bottles. The parent has a normal bag, with a diaper and little packet of wipes. No need for food or toys if the outing lasts less than a few hours. In the US their peers in similar conditions are often fed and entertained constantly to keep them well-behaved and as a result develop patience and coping skills somewhat later in life.

Anonymous wrote:I live in Japan as a non Japanese. The U.S. is simply not set up in the same way. First, Japanese people are much more mindful of pedestrians and cyclists. Driving down my narrow Japanese street is terrifying, bc if someone walks out in front of me, it is totally my fault (even if they are negligent). Cars are "stronger" than people or bikes, so the driver is always blamed for not being more careful. Also, the crime rate is significantly less. Child abduction is linked to family members, not pedophiles (although sex crimes exist-groping on trains etc). Schools are set up so that kids can walk to schools in groups with teacher chaperones. Trains are accurate and perfectly timed. Society has to be set up like this bc the Japanese want their workforce at work, not encumbered by school drop off. It is pretty amazing.

Anonymous wrote:I live in Japan as a non Japanese. The U.S. is simply not set up in the same way. First, Japanese people are much more mindful of pedestrians and cyclists. Driving down my narrow Japanese street is terrifying, bc if someone walks out in front of me, it is totally my fault (even if they are negligent). Cars are "stronger" than people or bikes, so the driver is always blamed for not being more careful. Also, the crime rate is significantly less. Child abduction is linked to family members, not pedophiles (although sex crimes exist-groping on trains etc).[i][u] Schools are set up so that kids can walk to schools in groups with teacher chaperones. Trains are accurate and perfectly timed. Society has to be set up like this bc the Japanese want their workforce at work, not encumbered by school drop off. It is pretty amazing.

Anonymous wrote:Omg. Soooo cute!!!

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As a Japanese, let me tell you that generalizations are always wrong. Yes, there are toddlers who run errands in Asia - it's prevalent in China too. Yes, the main danger is being hit by a car (there are often no sidewalks and the residential streets can be narrow). Many families do not do this errand thing, or plan it so that the toddler has a safe route to the nearest store. It's orchestrated, in other words, and the goal is development of self-esteem and self-reliance.

In Japan, some schools pair up Kindergartners by geographic location and expect them to walk to school and back as a pair. Again, this is a tradition and not always implemented for safety reasons.

What I do notice in my travels is that European and Asian families don't carry their house contents with them when they go on outings! Fewer sightings of huge diaper bags, double strollers, minivans spilling out their overflow onto the sidewalk, etc. Even toddlers carry their own little bags with small water bottles. The parent has a normal bag, with a diaper and little packet of wipes. No need for food or toys if the outing lasts less than a few hours. In the US their peers in similar conditions are often fed and entertained constantly to keep them well-behaved and as a result develop patience and coping skills somewhat later in life.