I don't want to be told I matured well, etc. It sounds condescending that you start with the bit about being over 30. Way too long and awkward.

I'm occasionally told I have pretty eyes or a nice smile by strangers in passing. That's nice. Keep it short and sweet.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think just about all of the women here are telling you they would prefer a short and sweet compliment to anything else. If you refuse to believe us that's your prerogative, but we don't have any reason to mislead you about this!
Fewer words=more smiles/appreciation

Yes, a compliment without expecting anything back

I am a lady and occasionally I have compliment a woman, like "I love your dress, bw" or something.

I have also had girls pay compliments to me. I have had girls say things like "You're so beautiful!" or "you're really pretty!"

Short and sweet, that's all you need. Way less creepier than dragging it out and asking a million questions beforehand.

OP

Your points are well said and taken in kind. As I have posted to others I have apologized and gave a further explanation if you care to read it.

And the only thing I ever hope to get back is a smile or comment...on all compliments not just the few as I described...that they appreciated what I expressed.

Thanks!

Anonymous wrote:If the people you are approaching do not seem to appreciate your comments than you should stop making them. Something about your delivery is off putting. Not every thought has to be verbalized.

OP

Thanks and I did explain further above if you care to read it.

Everything about how I wrote that btw was lousy and offputting.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll get compliments on my hair and my outfits from acquaintances when I go out of my way to dress nicely. Strangers will sometimes compliment me on a perfume that I'm wearing or my hands/nails.

I used to have strangers compliment me on my looks when I was in my late teens/20's. I had guys stop me on the street to tell me how beautiful I was....and of course cat calls and whistles (yes, annoying but compliments in their own way)

That has not happened in a while!

OP

Any man who can only compliment a woman when she is young has no idea of the beauty of a mature woman.

Question...your at the post office, a man saw you coming and you were having a rough day and not looking your best...sort of like me in my grubs and not having shaved...lol...how would it make you feel if that man waited for you while he held the door and greeted you with a smile and wished you a nice day.

BTW...I could never stare and have never cat called or whistled at a woman that wasn't my GF or wife and have never understood men that do.

I get simple polite common courtesies like that quite often. Gentlemen who treat women with respect and courtesy are nice - and appreciated. But I don't get those blatant - "OMG You are breathtaking can I please have your phone number!" I'm o.k. with that stopping, really. I'm an older married lady now and I wouldn't expect that sort of reaction.

OP

Glad to hear that.

Contrary to what I put forth...I do treat women with respect, have a great admiration for what women go through...I come in contact with women of all ages in my business every day, men too, who can easily choose to do business elsewhere and I am happy to say I get a lot of referrals.

Thanks again

If the people you are approaching do not seem to appreciate your comments than you should stop making them. Something about your delivery is off putting. Not every thought has to be verbalized.

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a major creeper. When I am out and about, my goal is to avoid men like you. In fact, just today at Starbucks I was so upset Bc I made it in there while no one was around, but they took so long with my coffee that the place got crowded and lo and behold at least 3 creepers started in on me. Ugh. I'm even past the white woman 'expiration date' so commonly referred to on the relationship board.

OP

Never heard that before and I have no idea what that is.

And I did write a further explanation above and an apology if you care to read it.

Anonymous wrote:Op What is your point? What do you mean "would you be receptive to this?" What does that mean?? are you trying to pick women up or be charming or are you wondering if it is socially acceptable to compliment a woman?
You seem a bit full of yourself and managing to make giving a compliment about YOU. What is your goal when you do this? If you want to give a compliment just do it - just say "you look great" or whatever and leave it at that and move on. Or just give an approving smile. Weird/creepy is not hot! And as handsome and fabulous as you are, the ladies are not depending on your "compliments" to feel good about themselves. Hint: we like compliments without strings attached - yours most definitely have strings since you are really just trying to demand attention.

OP

Please read what I wrote above.

As to your questions.

No, not full of myself and as I explained above I did a lousy job on what I wrote and it isn't about me.

Goal...this is one area in which I have paid a few compliments...read the above.

And as to strings...never and it's never about picking up a woman, it's never been where I have walked up to a woman...even though what I wrote wouldn't have let anyone know that...and I have never considered it an attempt to be charming. Again...it was but one example that I spoke to further, did a lousy job of describing and frankly sorry that I chose that.

As to my point...was just trying to get a conversation started where people could share good random compliments that happened with people they didn't have a relationship with. Look through the threads on DCUM...not a lot of positive.

I appreciate your directness..really do as I prefer that approach...and the fact you didn't call me a creep. Did I set myself up? Yes. But this is the first time that term has ever been used toward me, I have been around a long time, and it sucks.

You sound like a major creeper. When I am out and about, my goal is to avoid men like you. In fact, just today at Starbucks I was so upset Bc I made it in there while no one was around, but they took so long with my coffee that the place got crowded and lo and behold at least 3 creepers started in on me. Ugh. I'm even past the white woman 'expiration date' so commonly referred to on the relationship board.

Anonymous wrote:Male

And since I have NEVER...and I don't do this often...had a woman reject me...perhaps it's in the delivery and sincerity in my voice.

And no...I don't consider myself unique...I was just curious how often etc.

Oh, jeeze. It gets even creepier.

-DH

Op What is your point? What do you mean "would you be receptive to this?" What does that mean?? are you trying to pick women up or be charming or are you wondering if it is socially acceptable to compliment a woman?
You seem a bit full of yourself and managing to make giving a compliment about YOU. What is your goal when you do this? If you want to give a compliment just do it - just say "you look great" or whatever and leave it at that and move on. Or just give an approving smile. Weird/creepy is not hot! And as handsome and fabulous as you are, the ladies are not depending on your "compliments" to feel good about themselves. Hint: we like compliments without strings attached - yours most definitely have strings since you are really just trying to demand attention.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll get compliments on my hair and my outfits from acquaintances when I go out of my way to dress nicely. Strangers will sometimes compliment me on a perfume that I'm wearing or my hands/nails.

I used to have strangers compliment me on my looks when I was in my late teens/20's. I had guys stop me on the street to tell me how beautiful I was....and of course cat calls and whistles (yes, annoying but compliments in their own way)

That has not happened in a while!

OP

Any man who can only compliment a woman when she is young has no idea of the beauty of a mature woman.

Question...your at the post office, a man saw you coming and you were having a rough day and not looking your best...sort of like me in my grubs and not having shaved...lol...how would it make you feel if that man waited for you while he held the door and greeted you with a smile and wished you a nice day.

BTW...I could never stare and have never cat called or whistled at a woman that wasn't my GF or wife and have never understood men that do.

I get simple polite common courtesies like that quite often. Gentlemen who treat women with respect and courtesy are nice - and appreciated. But I don't get those blatant - "OMG You are breathtaking can I please have your phone number!" I'm o.k. with that stopping, really. I'm an older married lady now and I wouldn't expect that sort of reaction.

Anonymous wrote:Do you mind if I pay you a compliment = creepy

Hey you look nice today = not creepy

Exactly.

Do you mind if I pay you a compliment = creepy

Hey you look nice today = not creepy

Anonymous wrote:I think just about all of the women here are telling you they would prefer a short and sweet compliment to anything else. If you refuse to believe us that's your prerogative, but we don't have any reason to mislead you about this!
Fewer words=more smiles/appreciation

Yes, a compliment without expecting anything back

I am a lady and occasionally I have compliment a woman, like "I love your dress, bw" or something.

I have also had girls pay compliments to me. I have had girls say things like "You're so beautiful!" or "you're really pretty!"

Short and sweet, that's all you need. Way less creepier than dragging it out and asking a million questions beforehand.

I think just about all of the women here are telling you they would prefer a short and sweet compliment to anything else. If you refuse to believe us that's your prerogative, but we don't have any reason to mislead you about this!
Fewer words=more smiles/appreciation