Anonymous wrote:This is not healthy for your children to be around.

+1. My father was like your husband and eventually became abusive. I then dated man who was similarly always negative before realizing he was just incapable of happiness. I am now married to a very laid-back and loving DH who only gets angry extremely infrequently. My life is so much better with him.

Therapy. Meditation. Even then some people just have low frustration tolerance or other issues such as narcissistic traits. My ex is like this. The longer I am out of the marriage the more it slaps me in the face when we get together for family events. For example, we went to one of the kid's swim meets and he complained the whole time about how poorly it was being run and how long it was taking. I've started telling him to stop it. He is less angry with the kids now post-split, maybe because he is afraid at some point they will stop hanging out with him. Still, I can't believe I lived with that for 18 years!