Anonymous
Post 08/18/2015 12:55     Subject: Re:Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. Any woman who is 35 and has never been married is obviously crazy.



LMAO.

Kind of like that nutcase Leonardo Dicaprio... he's 40 and unmarried. Watch out for the crazy train, folks!


Men can still have children in their 50s, women don't have that luxury.


They can if they freeze their eggs.

And men really shouldn't.. much greater risk of birth defects and disabilities


Sure they "can". But the success rates using frozen eggs later are very low.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2015 00:47     Subject: Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
You cannot apply a "One Size Fits All" rule when it comes to who is a good candidate for a relationship and who isn't.

Just because someone hasn't married by a certain age does not de-value her as a potential mate.

Perhaps she hasn't met the right person yet.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 18:00     Subject: Re:Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
OMG. So many young women spend their twenties with the wrong guys and waste precious time in dead end relationships. All of a sudden they wake up one day and end their relationships but find themselves single at like, 34. Its mostly bad luck.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 17:15     Subject: Re:Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
I am a single mom. Never been married. The only thing "wrong" with me is that I have a 24/7/365 child. Apparently this is quite a turn off to men. Even divorced men with kids of their own. They don't get that I don't have 50/50 custody until a few months into us dating. Since I already have a child, I am not desperate to get married so I can have kids like I imagine many women in their late 30s are. I'd be totally fine never getting married. It's all good for me.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 15:42     Subject: Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
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Anonymous wrote:I met my husband at 35. He was 49. Neither of us had been married before. Neither of us is crazy. I did waste some time on knuckle-draggers like you and your friend in my 20s and early 30s. That's why I was so old.


How long have you been married, if you don't mind me asking? (NP here)


2 1/2 years.


Hope it's going well for you guys. I'm also 35 and some of my friends who have gotten married recently have been so stressed with trying to get pregnant right away that it's impacting their marriages. I don't think that has anything to do with never being married before, though! OP's question seems a little silly to me.


Well, I married at 37 and got pregnant right away, but have lost several pregnancies and still have not been able to have a child as I stare down the barrel of 40. Now we're spending a fortune on IVF, and we are not wealthy people. This has all been tough on the marriage, but getting married later in life is tough even without bringing children into it. It's hard to merge lives and homes after being on your own and independent for so long. My husband has been a much better sport about it than I have.

OP's question is absurd, though. It's completely normal for people - especially in this area - to marry later in life. D.C. is a very career-oriented town, and I think society has developed a resistance to commitment. You have to be so open and accepting to fully let someone else into your life - at any age, but particularly the older you get. People are generally not that way anymore, even if they think they are. Yet our culture is still built for couples - hopefully it'll become more singles-friendly.


PP here. I really hope everything works out for you. You sound like a very genuine and thoughtful person.


Thank you - you're sweet. All the best to you.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 15:17     Subject: Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
*couple after being single so long. I'm pretty set in my ways as is DW in hers. We have grown together and put up w each other, but I don't know if I would want to put up w a new person's peculiarities.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 15:16     Subject: Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
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Anonymous wrote:I met my husband at 35. He was 49. Neither of us had been married before. Neither of us is crazy. I did waste some time on knuckle-draggers like you and your friend in my 20s and early 30s. That's why I was so old.


How long have you been married, if you don't mind me asking? (NP here)


2 1/2 years.


Hope it's going well for you guys. I'm also 35 and some of my friends who have gotten married recently have been so stressed with trying to get pregnant right away that it's impacting their marriages. I don't think that has anything to do with never being married before, though! OP's question seems a little silly to me.


Well, I married at 37 and got pregnant right away, but have lost several pregnancies and still have not been able to have a child as I stare down the barrel of 40. Now we're spending a fortune on IVF, and we are not wealthy people. This has all been tough on the marriage, but getting married later in life is tough even without bringing children into it. It's hard to merge lives and homes after being on your own and independent for so long. My husband has been a much better sport about it than I have.

OP's question is absurd, though. It's completely normal for people - especially in this area - to marry later in life. D.C. is a very career-oriented town, and I think society has developed a resistance to commitment. You have to be so open and accepting to fully let someone else into your life - at any age, but particularly the older you get. People are generally not that way anymore, even if they think they are. Yet our culture is still built for couples - hopefully it'll become more singles-friendly.


PP here. I really hope everything works out for you. You sound like a very genuine and thoughtful person.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 15:16     Subject: Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
20 years ago I would say a never married 35 yo woman would probably have issues of some kind, but now women have different priorities and often delay marriage and family for career advancement. There is also no stigma to being a single woman, and often no need to comingle finances.

My only issue would be will they be able to really be a cou
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 15:11     Subject: Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
Anonymous wrote:Is she "crazy".

Friend is dating a woman who is never married at 35. Good looking and has had a lot of boyfriends including a number of long term relationships. She talks about marriage and kids but has all these nebulous reasons for why she never got engaged or married. Run away?


Well, she's a woman isn't she?

Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 15:06     Subject: Re:Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. Any woman who is 35 and has never been married is obviously crazy.



LMAO.

Kind of like that nutcase Leonardo Dicaprio... he's 40 and unmarried. Watch out for the crazy train, folks!


he's a celebrity who has his pick of supermodels. he should get married?
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 14:59     Subject: Re:Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
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Anonymous wrote:Definitely. Any woman who is 35 and has never been married is obviously crazy.



LMAO.

Kind of like that nutcase Leonardo Dicaprio... he's 40 and unmarried. Watch out for the crazy train, folks!


Men can still have children in their 50s, women don't have that luxury.


They can if they freeze their eggs.

And men really shouldn't.. much greater risk of birth defects and disabilities


So you recommend a 55 year old women birth a baby?
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 14:59     Subject: Re:Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
Anonymous wrote:My sister is 44 and never been married. Lucky shit.

Is she crazy ? No. VERY PICKY. And she works a lot so she really doesn't have time but she's rich.

most people are rich if they don't have kids at that age
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 14:16     Subject: Re:Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Definitely. Any woman who is 35 and has never been married is obviously crazy.



LMAO.

Kind of like that nutcase Leonardo Dicaprio... he's 40 and unmarried. Watch out for the crazy train, folks!


Men can still have children in their 50s, women don't have that luxury.


They can if they freeze their eggs.

And men really shouldn't.. much greater risk of birth defects and disabilities


Yeah, just what the world needs. More 50+ year old women with babies.


Better than 50+ men with babies
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 14:15     Subject: Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
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Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know in this age group who is unmarried, both male and female, are so picky it is unbelievable. Over the weekend, my 36 yr old friend told me she had to break up wtih her wonderful biochemist boyfriend, because he's "not the type to go up in a hot air balloon and what if she wants to do that one day". Seriously, people.


Oh, God. I think people like that really want to be alone. They say they "deserve better," but deep down they don't believe they deserve someone as good as the one they've got.


You could be on to something. I think it's partially commit-phobic. They say they want to settle down but nit pick people down to death so they don't actually have to settle down.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2015 14:08     Subject: Re:Woman is 35 never married but dates a lot
My sister is 44 and never been married. Lucky shit.

Is she crazy ? No. VERY PICKY. And she works a lot so she really doesn't have time but she's rich.