Anonymous
08/12/2015 16:08
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
What about the marriage in which the husband is so bad in bed that the wife never orgasms and has to satisfy him twice a week, then take care of business for herself?
Why would anyone marry someone who is so bad in bed?
I don't know why, but I did. (NP)
Most women are bad in bed and guy just put up with it. Let's face it most think if they have an orgasm they are good in bed.
How many women have you had sex with?
Anonymous
08/12/2015 16:05
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
What about the marriage in which the husband is so bad in bed that the wife never orgasms and has to satisfy him twice a week, then take care of business for herself?
Why would anyone marry someone who is so bad in bed?
I don't know why, but I did. (NP)
Most women are bad in bed and guy just put up with it. Let's face it most think if they have an orgasm they are good in bed.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 15:43
Subject: In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
It constitutes marital abandonment once you hit the one year mark without sex. Aside from that, I think of a sexless marriage as one in which the couple goes months without and never know or if they'll do it again. Effectively, that part of the marriage is not a regular feature.
But that's different IMO than having different levels of desire or being into different things.
But that's different IMO than having different levels of desire or being into different things.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 14:37
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:If it were up to me I'd give it up forever but to keep the peace I put out. 5 minutes a month won't kill me.
I don't think you understand what the phrase "put out" actually means. Just sayin'.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 14:32
Subject: In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What qualifies as a sexless marriage? The numbers seem to be all over the place, with some posters claiming that once a week is "frigid" or "near sexless."
I think it's in the eye of the beholder. My dh and I are percutaneous content in our once a week sex marriage. Sometimes dcum makes me think we're weird frigid people lol. I rink it has to do with people's libido being met essentially and that's different for everyone.
10 am every Sunday, in the same position?
Nope! Its passionate and adventurous and not usually on the same day. Just tends to average out to about once a week, sometimes even up to 10 days, scandalous I know!
Anonymous
08/12/2015 14:31
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
If it were up to me I'd give it up forever but to keep the peace I put out. 5 minutes a month won't kill me.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 14:31
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another DW that is really frustrated by her DH's laziness in bed. Before we were married, the sex was great. He was really eager to please. I did orgasm with him. I have a high drive as a woman and that was made clear. He appeared to have a high drive.
Then we got pregnant on our wedding night. No sex for duration of pregnancy and then until baby was 14 months. His request. Got pregnant on that one time 14 months later. No sex until that baby was 8 months. Then he told me I was unattractive because I had a little baby weight left. I was also a "nympho" and a "sex fiend" for wanting him to compromise on 1x a week during this time period. Lost the weight and went on vacation with him. Had sex 3 or 4 times that week. Got pregnant while on BC. Lost that baby and really realized I wanted one more. Was up to 1-2x a month until we got pregnant again. Then wasn't touched until I had that baby. Tubes tied. Lost the weight, but DH was not interested. Maintained 1x a week and thought I should be thankful he showed up for that. Didn't orgasm with him ever. Read some articles to get better in bed to maybe entice him to want to have sex more. Got super good at blow jobs. Now we have sex maybe 1-2x a week, maybe a blow job just pleasuring him on top of that. I still don't orgasm with him, and can barely get wet anymore. His idea of foreplay now is rubbing my general genital area a few times and nudging my head down. Then he feels me up while I do so. Still thinks he is doing me a favour by having this sex at all. No idea how to bring it up anymore. I am really resentful. This is a main part of a marital relationship to me. Feeling desired and wanted by your spouse is a big thing. My self esteem about this is really in the crapper.
I feel like I was completely lied to going into this marriage. I don't want to break up my family. I love my children. We are good and caring to each other in other ways v(considerate of each other, doing chores, planning vacations together), and coparent well. I think he is a great dad, and I am thankful for our three boys, but if I had known he would switch to this kind of sexual relationship I wouldn't have married him. So yeah, I would define our marriage as partially sexless. We may have it 1-2x a week, but he never ever considers bringing me to orgasm or trying to turn me on. I feel really unwanted.
Sorry, PP here. The 1x a week is a typo for the first two times mentioned in the 2nd paragraph. It was wanting him to compromise 1x a month, then we stayed at 1x a month until we conceived again and now it is finally up to 1-2x a week. Sorry about that if anyone misunderstood.
As a high drive husband, I just don't get this. My enjoyment of sex with my wife is inseparable from her enjoyment. I can make her cum very easily but even if it were more difficult (and there was a time when that was the case) I ENJOY the process of making her cum so much that I can't conceive of not doing it. These stories about husbands who don't want to make the effort to please their wives just leave me shaking my head.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 14:18
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Another DW that is really frustrated by her DH's laziness in bed. Before we were married, the sex was great. He was really eager to please. I did orgasm with him. I have a high drive as a woman and that was made clear. He appeared to have a high drive.
Then we got pregnant on our wedding night. No sex for duration of pregnancy and then until baby was 14 months. His request. Got pregnant on that one time 14 months later. No sex until that baby was 8 months. Then he told me I was unattractive because I had a little baby weight left. I was also a "nympho" and a "sex fiend" for wanting him to compromise on 1x a week during this time period. Lost the weight and went on vacation with him. Had sex 3 or 4 times that week. Got pregnant while on BC. Lost that baby and really realized I wanted one more. Was up to 1-2x a month until we got pregnant again. Then wasn't touched until I had that baby. Tubes tied. Lost the weight, but DH was not interested. Maintained 1x a week and thought I should be thankful he showed up for that. Didn't orgasm with him ever. Read some articles to get better in bed to maybe entice him to want to have sex more. Got super good at blow jobs. Now we have sex maybe 1-2x a week, maybe a blow job just pleasuring him on top of that. I still don't orgasm with him, and can barely get wet anymore. His idea of foreplay now is rubbing my general genital area a few times and nudging my head down. Then he feels me up while I do so. Still thinks he is doing me a favour by having this sex at all. No idea how to bring it up anymore. I am really resentful. This is a main part of a marital relationship to me. Feeling desired and wanted by your spouse is a big thing. My self esteem about this is really in the crapper.
I feel like I was completely lied to going into this marriage. I don't want to break up my family. I love my children. We are good and caring to each other in other ways v(considerate of each other, doing chores, planning vacations together), and coparent well. I think he is a great dad, and I am thankful for our three boys, but if I had known he would switch to this kind of sexual relationship I wouldn't have married him. So yeah, I would define our marriage as partially sexless. We may have it 1-2x a week, but he never ever considers bringing me to orgasm or trying to turn me on. I feel really unwanted.
Sorry, PP here. The 1x a week is a typo for the first two times mentioned in the 2nd paragraph. It was wanting him to compromise 1x a month, then we stayed at 1x a month until we conceived again and now it is finally up to 1-2x a week. Sorry about that if anyone misunderstood.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 14:00
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Another DW that is really frustrated by her DH's laziness in bed. Before we were married, the sex was great. He was really eager to please. I did orgasm with him. I have a high drive as a woman and that was made clear. He appeared to have a high drive.
Then we got pregnant on our wedding night. No sex for duration of pregnancy and then until baby was 14 months. His request. Got pregnant on that one time 14 months later. No sex until that baby was 8 months. Then he told me I was unattractive because I had a little baby weight left. I was also a "nympho" and a "sex fiend" for wanting him to compromise on 1x a week during this time period. Lost the weight and went on vacation with him. Had sex 3 or 4 times that week. Got pregnant while on BC. Lost that baby and really realized I wanted one more. Was up to 1-2x a month until we got pregnant again. Then wasn't touched until I had that baby. Tubes tied. Lost the weight, but DH was not interested. Maintained 1x a week and thought I should be thankful he showed up for that. Didn't orgasm with him ever. Read some articles to get better in bed to maybe entice him to want to have sex more. Got super good at blow jobs. Now we have sex maybe 1-2x a week, maybe a blow job just pleasuring him on top of that. I still don't orgasm with him, and can barely get wet anymore. His idea of foreplay now is rubbing my general genital area a few times and nudging my head down. Then he feels me up while I do so. Still thinks he is doing me a favour by having this sex at all. No idea how to bring it up anymore. I am really resentful. This is a main part of a marital relationship to me. Feeling desired and wanted by your spouse is a big thing. My self esteem about this is really in the crapper.
I feel like I was completely lied to going into this marriage. I don't want to break up my family. I love my children. We are good and caring to each other in other ways v(considerate of each other, doing chores, planning vacations together), and coparent well. I think he is a great dad, and I am thankful for our three boys, but if I had known he would switch to this kind of sexual relationship I wouldn't have married him. So yeah, I would define our marriage as partially sexless. We may have it 1-2x a week, but he never ever considers bringing me to orgasm or trying to turn me on. I feel really unwanted.
Then we got pregnant on our wedding night. No sex for duration of pregnancy and then until baby was 14 months. His request. Got pregnant on that one time 14 months later. No sex until that baby was 8 months. Then he told me I was unattractive because I had a little baby weight left. I was also a "nympho" and a "sex fiend" for wanting him to compromise on 1x a week during this time period. Lost the weight and went on vacation with him. Had sex 3 or 4 times that week. Got pregnant while on BC. Lost that baby and really realized I wanted one more. Was up to 1-2x a month until we got pregnant again. Then wasn't touched until I had that baby. Tubes tied. Lost the weight, but DH was not interested. Maintained 1x a week and thought I should be thankful he showed up for that. Didn't orgasm with him ever. Read some articles to get better in bed to maybe entice him to want to have sex more. Got super good at blow jobs. Now we have sex maybe 1-2x a week, maybe a blow job just pleasuring him on top of that. I still don't orgasm with him, and can barely get wet anymore. His idea of foreplay now is rubbing my general genital area a few times and nudging my head down. Then he feels me up while I do so. Still thinks he is doing me a favour by having this sex at all. No idea how to bring it up anymore. I am really resentful. This is a main part of a marital relationship to me. Feeling desired and wanted by your spouse is a big thing. My self esteem about this is really in the crapper.
I feel like I was completely lied to going into this marriage. I don't want to break up my family. I love my children. We are good and caring to each other in other ways v(considerate of each other, doing chores, planning vacations together), and coparent well. I think he is a great dad, and I am thankful for our three boys, but if I had known he would switch to this kind of sexual relationship I wouldn't have married him. So yeah, I would define our marriage as partially sexless. We may have it 1-2x a week, but he never ever considers bringing me to orgasm or trying to turn me on. I feel really unwanted.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 14:00
Subject: In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What about the marriage in which the husband is so bad in bed that the wife never orgasms and has to satisfy him twice a week, then take care of business for herself?
That is still sex. Start a new thread if you want to talk about something other than the topic.
All depends on what your definition of sex is.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 13:38
Subject: In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No sex means no sex. We have not had sex since DS was born 8 years ago.
So, then, not sexless - by your definition.
Sounds like it has been sexless for 8 years now.
My marriage has been sexless for 3 weeks now.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 13:21
Subject: In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:NP. Tired if hearing the DH wants it. This DW wants it. DH has a lame dick-soft even when he's hard. It's been years....
+1. We have a sexless marriage due to ED issues even with help from the little blue pills. What little sex there is is not enjoyable at all.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 13:00
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
I like that we have an official definition of sexless that is actually a number greater than zero.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 12:32
Subject: Re:In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Sexless by definition is 10x per year or less.
I think the better question is whether a couple is reasonably sexually satisfied in a marriage.
I think the better question is whether a couple is reasonably sexually satisfied in a marriage.
Anonymous
08/12/2015 12:17
Subject: In all seriousness: What qualifies as a sexless marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No sex means no sex. We have not had sex since DS was born 8 years ago.
So, then, not sexless - by your definition.
Sounds like it has been sexless for 8 years now.