Anonymous
Post 07/27/2015 11:01     Subject: Re:Can i just get some shit off my chest?
OP I don't know if you have a car but Über pays REALLY well!! I think you can drive even if you don't have a car.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 22:17     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP about housecleaning. You can make pretty good money. To start, charge less than someone else would. Even if you charge $60 for a smallish house and did that 3 times per week-you're bringing in every week what you have left over for the month now.

Babysit.
Sell things on eBay.
Petsit
Dog walk
Yard work

You have to learn to hustle. i promise that getting out there and being around people and making our own money will help you get out of your funk. I do a lot of these things on the side and you would be absolutely amazed at the networking possibilities. I know people in so many different fields. Get out there OP. You can do this.


And volunteer with a food bank or some other organization that helps those in need. It gives you perspective.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 22:15     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
It's NOT bad luck, OP. DOn't hide behind that, otherwise you'll be borderline homeless all your life.

Do you have ADHD? Are you manic-depressive, or chronically depressed? Something must be wrong for you to not be able to hold down jobs.

I know, because DH has ADHD and has often been asked to leave a post.

A little self-introspection is needed here.


I have ADHD and have never been fired or let go.
I've been at my current job 7 years and have been promoted from Lead-Manager-Director-Vice President. I have risen fast in my industry and for being a woman, that says alot, considering I'm in engineering.

ADHD tends to be the current excuse du jour for ordinary losers. When in fact ADHD, when managed can be an asset.


21:27 here. ITA. Key phrase being "when managed". Therein lies the rub. I have kids with ADHD, and they are brilliant, creative, out-of-the-box thinkers, and I help them manage their ADHD by teaching them strategies, the importance of diet, exercise, sleep, responsibility, and appropriate meds. My goal is for them to build their own tool kit and become functioning, happy adults. My ex refuses to take responsibility for his own care, refuses outside help, and he is sadly non-functioning.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:59     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Why not just work a cash job such as housekeeping and babysitting? You can then still collect unemployment and maybe give yourself some breathing room.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:57     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:
It's NOT bad luck, OP. DOn't hide behind that, otherwise you'll be borderline homeless all your life.

Do you have ADHD? Are you manic-depressive, or chronically depressed? Something must be wrong for you to not be able to hold down jobs.

I know, because DH has ADHD and has often been asked to leave a post.

A little self-introspection is needed here.


I have ADHD and have never been fired or let go.
I've been at my current job 7 years and have been promoted from Lead-Manager-Director-Vice President. I have risen fast in my industry and for being a woman, that says alot, considering I'm in engineering.

ADHD tends to be the current excuse du jour for ordinary losers. When in fact ADHD, when managed can be an asset.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:42     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Why not get a waitressing/hosting job? You'll have cash on hand, and some food. And it's pretty easy to get. The job can be physically hard but you'll adjust.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:35     Subject: Re:Can i just get some shit off my chest?
what kind of job are you looking for? Because if it is low skill job you could try Costco - they are hiring. Or Starbucks. I know it is not fancy but at least get you out of the door everyday and some money to buy the basics and pay rent (even if with roommates).

I am really sorry op.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:27     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:
It's NOT bad luck, OP. DOn't hide behind that, otherwise you'll be borderline homeless all your life.

Do you have ADHD? Are you manic-depressive, or chronically depressed? Something must be wrong for you to not be able to hold down jobs.

I know, because DH has ADHD and has often been asked to leave a post.

A little self-introspection is needed here.


yeah - this sounds a lot like my ex. And I don't mean that in a cruel way, but he was his own worst enemy. Always.

OP - please go to a shelter or outreach center for some basics, please don't start a gofundme campaign. You are depressed, you need a shower, you need to get to a place that is equipped to give you a helping hand, then you need to get seriously resourceful. And bail on your SIL's babyshower. You are in survival mode now.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:13     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:15:51 here. Mail the damn gift of you have cash for it. Don't bother attending it will just make you sadder .
What are your skills?
Without skills (Amazon and Hilton ) are hiring work from home folks. Also, is your landlord a big company or a 1 person deal?
I can help you on this. BTDT


Oh, I definitely don't have the cash to mail the baby gift - it'd be way too much money.
My skills are office work - like office assistant. Landlord is a building - the guy who owns the building hired a management company. I will check Amazon and Hilton for work from home jobs - thank you so much for the tip.


Have you tried working for temp agencies? That is always my fall back. You get paid weekly and often it turns into a permanent position if you are really good at what you do and people like you. Register for a few at a time and you will always be in circulation. Request long term assignments. I also used to earn extra money being a secret shopper. Also try the site 5er to sell your skills. Come on, you have get some hustle. Explain your situation to your landlord and ask if you can help our around the complex in exchange for reduced rent until you get back on your feet. If you don't mind retail I saw Five Below and some other stores are hiring since all of the kids are going back to school after the summer. Now is the time to land something if you put yourself out there.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:10     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP about housecleaning. You can make pretty good money. To start, charge less than someone else would. Even if you charge $60 for a smallish house and did that 3 times per week-you're bringing in every week what you have left over for the month now.

Babysit.
Sell things on eBay.
Petsit
Dog walk
Yard work

You have to learn to hustle. i promise that getting out there and being around people and making our own money will help you get out of your funk. I do a lot of these things on the side and you would be absolutely amazed at the networking possibilities. I know people in so many different fields. Get out there OP. You can do this.


This is great advice.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:08     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:I am seriously sitting here trying to figure out how I can give you contact information without putting my information out here on the web.

If I can figure it out, I will buy you some soap and shampoo. And feminine products if you need them.


You might want to go to website feedback to first ask Jeff if this is a troll.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 21:04     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
I am seriously sitting here trying to figure out how I can give you contact information without putting my information out here on the web.

If I can figure it out, I will buy you some soap and shampoo. And feminine products if you need them.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 20:29     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:Not sure where you are, but there are places that can help. If you are in DC, go to the Friendship House tomorrow. You can get food, toiletries, and talk to a doctor. They can also connect you to people who can help with a job and living arrangements.


+1 Go to Friendship House. They can help you.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 20:05     Subject: Can i just get some shit off my chest?
I agree with PP about housecleaning. You can make pretty good money. To start, charge less than someone else would. Even if you charge $60 for a smallish house and did that 3 times per week-you're bringing in every week what you have left over for the month now.

Babysit.
Sell things on eBay.
Petsit
Dog walk
Yard work

You have to learn to hustle. i promise that getting out there and being around people and making our own money will help you get out of your funk. I do a lot of these things on the side and you would be absolutely amazed at the networking possibilities. I know people in so many different fields. Get out there OP. You can do this.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2015 20:03     Subject: Re:Can i just get some shit off my chest?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you were my sister I'd take you in right now. Work or no work.


Thanks. My older brother is not that type. He thinks "tough love" is always appropriate even though his wife's little sister (late 20's) is currently living with them for an undetermined number of months. He also thinks if anyone helps me I'll have no incentive to help myself, and lastly he thinks I don't do everything I can to get work so I don't deserve help. Oh, and he doesn't understand anything about depression at all.


Why are you gifting this person?


Um, it's my only niece. My only brother, my only SIL, this will be the only grandchild in both families. This is kind of a big deal. It's not like I'm a Duggar and have 46 siblings and there's always a baby shower. This will be the third one I've ever attended in my life. [/quote

If you are forgoing bathing because you are afraid you can't buy a bar of soap, you should return the gift you got the baby. You can offer to babysit as your present.