Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 09:49     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She told relatives of mine at my wedding that she hopes our marriage lasts.


Whats wrong with that?
Thats a nice thing to say.


First off it was her tone. She had been saying bad things about me to my relative and was frustrated my relative kept ignoring her or saying something nice in response. So she commented "well I hope this marriage lasts" and walked away.

It's inappropriate and insulting. It's implying it might not last. It would be like visiting a newborn in the hospital and telling someone you hope the mom is a good mother.



Implying it might not last?
Half of marriages end in divorce. Its a fact.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 09:48     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She told relatives of mine at my wedding that she hopes our marriage lasts.


Whats wrong with that?
Thats a nice thing to say.


First off it was her tone. She had been saying bad things about me to my relative and was frustrated my relative kept ignoring her or saying something nice in response. So she commented "well I hope this marriage lasts" and walked away.

It's inappropriate and insulting. It's implying it might not last. It would be like visiting a newborn in the hospital and telling someone you hope the mom is a good mother.

Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 09:41     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:She told relatives of mine at my wedding that she hopes our marriage lasts.


Whats wrong with that?
Thats a nice thing to say.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 09:35     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
She told relatives of mine at my wedding that she hopes our marriage lasts.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 09:33     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:My MIL makes fun of my mom (who has mild dementia) to my kids.



I'd shut that down. It's insensitive, it's disrespectful to your mom and to you, and it also teaches your children to be insensitive and make fun of others.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 09:25     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
DH used to date "x" but he ended up with you. It was said with sarcasm. She once "jokingly" put a bag on my head.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 08:41     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. My MIL has been my savior. I love her more than life itself. She is my best friend.


+1
My MIL has passed away, but when she was alive, we had a wonderful relationship. She was so kind and considerate and helped tremendously when my children were born.
My parents taught me early on (through their examples and with their words) that when one marries, they are not just marrying their spouse - they are marrying into their spouse’s family. While it is important to be in love, it is also important to feel love for the family of your significant other.
I have to say that I chose well.


Could you be any more smug?
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 07:08     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. My MIL has been my savior. I love her more than life itself. She is my best friend.


+1
My MIL has passed away, but when she was alive, we had a wonderful relationship. She was so kind and considerate and helped tremendously when my children were born.
My parents taught me early on (through their examples and with their words) that when one marries, they are not just marrying their spouse - they are marrying into their spouse’s family. While it is important to be in love, it is also important to feel love for the family of your significant other.
I have to say that I chose well.


I'm glad you lucked out and had a wonderful relationship with your mil but the rest of your post is absolutely absurd. It's hard enough to find a good man, now you've only "chosen well" if you love the extended family as well?? My mil is a nightmare but the man I married is an amazing husband and a wonderful father to our children. He puts our family first and always supports me when issues arise with mil. I'd say I chose well, despite getting shafted in the in-law department. I'm glad I didn't run when I met his family bc I would've missed out on the greatest joy of my life, the family we created together.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 06:21     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:No. My MIL has been my savior. I love her more than life itself. She is my best friend.


+1
My MIL has passed away, but when she was alive, we had a wonderful relationship. She was so kind and considerate and helped tremendously when my children were born.
My parents taught me early on (through their examples and with their words) that when one marries, they are not just marrying their spouse - they are marrying into their spouse’s family. While it is important to be in love, it is also important to feel love for the family of your significant other.
I have to say that I chose well.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 05:03     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
On our wedding day, mil said to DH, "well, I guess if you're happy, I'll try to be happy for you."

Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 02:35     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
I am due with my MILs first grandchild any day now. She has offered since thanksgiving to buy us a glider. She waits until today to tell me the one I picked out was too expensive while in the same breath asking if I think I'll have the baby this weekend because she and FIL want to travel to tysons to go to the Nordstrom sale to "stock up on stuff we don't need."
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 23:01     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This isn't something she said, but something my MIL did that I'm just finding odd. I am 4 months pregnant, my husband is an only child and this will be her first (and only) grandchild and she's yet to either call/text/email me about the pregnancy. She and I aren't particularly close, but do reach out to each other on birthdays and when other big things happen (her companion went to hospital, so I called to check in, etc). Maybe protocol is that I should be reaching out to her as grandmother-to-be, but just struck me as odd never got even a text saying how thrilled she is at the news (which she is, according to my husband).


I am a DIL. I think the protocol should be that you call your MIL and tell her the news. It is your news to share. Maybe she thinks that you are waiting to announce the pregnancy and she does not want to steal your thunder.

Pick up the phone and call her.


What? Her husband already shared the news. And it's appropriate that he did that. It's his mother, and he gets to share that, yes? The MIL should contact her.


Why? Why should the MIL contact her? The DH shared the news with his mom and she was excited about it. Now, the MIL has no idea how the DIL will react if she calls congratulating her.

Women tend to be touchy when they are pregnant. Many do not share the pregnancy news until after the first trimester and sometimes even until the 2nd trimester. People also do not want to announce stuff too prematurely etc. I think the MIL is doing the right thing. The DIL should call. What is the big deal?


Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 23:00     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
My MIL makes fun of my mom (who has mild dementia) to my kids.

My MIL implied strongly that I don't bathe.

My MIL hints that my parents and sister and poor and low class (which is totally false).

My MIL said that my DS was too fat when he was 6-months.

My MIL raves about the beauty and intelligence of her other DIL.

We actually have a decent relationship. I've been married to my DH for 29 years, and I see her comments about her not about me. The things about my family do hurt my feelings a bit.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 22:50     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This was said repeatedly over the course of 3 years during which i had 2 children:

"I really want blue-eyed grandchildren, at least one"

It was literally an impossibility given my skin tone, but one of her other children had a child with bluish eyes and guess who the world revolves around?



Whoah. So racist. Sorry you have to deal with that.


+1

I could see my ultra pale MIL saying something like this. Also reassuring herself that other MILs say worse things. Sadly.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 22:49     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


Why do you hate her for that?




People, this is a vent what your rude MIL has said thread - NOT analyze DIL thread. Make your own thread if you want the latter.