Anonymous
Post 07/16/2015 12:05     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MIL is a cult leader. I'm not kidding.


Thread winner!!!


+1

Do tell!


Okay so it's so fucking crazy I should start a separate thread...but she's a self-proclaimed prophet. She lives in a different country and has about twenty followers who live with her. We see her once or twice a year. It doesn't matter what I say to her, she believes she can read my thoughts. She's told me I'm lying (about the randomest shit) on too many occasions to count. She also has been visited (regularly) by aliens.


Mine too! But she's not a cult leader.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2015 12:03     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like an immature young woman... I am guess still in 20s or at least mentally.


Because no one else would be tired (exhausted) of a nasty MILs dramatics and feigned ignorance??!! [Cue: feigned ignorance. LOLZ.]
No. Presumably anyone oats their 20s would have the emotional maturity and control to handle conflict with a family member in a more positive and productive way.


Oh, brother. You weren't there to hear the conversation. You're projecting. OP already clarified more of what was said and addressed her MIL's history of not wanting to have meaningful conversations.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2015 11:59     Subject: Re:Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I did years ago. It felt great. She is the real loser though. Her son is not a planner so she only sees our family when I plan visits. If she wasn't so selfish, she would see us a lot more. Remember mothers of sons, your DIL will be the one managing the family schedule. If you want to on it more than just holidays, make friends with the one who makes the plans.


Truth.


Absolutely. Also, unless you have daughters, your DIL will likely be the one looking after you in your senior years and during times of illness. Some sons are amazing caregivers, but daughters and DILs are usually the ones who help out with the ugly stuff.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2015 11:40     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
I am always amazed at the lack of introspection of posters on this site. I am not a mil (or even close) but agree that "telling someone off" smacks of gross immaturity and says more (negatively) about the sender than the receiver. My mil is a real bitch but I would never stoop so low as to "tell her off". As an adult, I discuss issues maturely and rationally. For those who passively aggressively, get pleasure out of ensuring your mil doesn't see your dh, you not only demonstrate your immaturity but lack of love for your spouse. You all must be really young or really insecure.


I'm sure you do discuss issues maturely and rationally. I'm surprised, though, that you haven't had enough life experience to know that not everyone does. When you're dealing with crazy, rationality and logic get you nowhere.


I'm not. She seems preoccupied with posting here. Supposedly, she has stated her thoughts, but she doesn't know when to stop. So, I would say that she is not mature OR rational.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2015 11:39     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
I am always amazed at the lack of introspection of posters on this site. I am not a mil (or even close) but agree that "telling someone off" smacks of gross immaturity and says more (negatively) about the sender than the receiver. My mil is a real bitch but I would never stoop so low as to "tell her off". As an adult, I discuss issues maturely and rationally. For those who passively aggressively, get pleasure out of ensuring your mil doesn't see your dh, you not only demonstrate your immaturity but lack of love for your spouse. You all must be really young or really insecure.


I'm sure you do discuss issues maturely and rationally. I'm surprised, though, that you haven't had enough life experience to know that not everyone does. When you're dealing with crazy, rationality and logic get you nowhere.



+10000

Life happens. This PP is going to be hit hard, if she ever leaves her house!
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2015 11:38     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MIL is a cult leader. I'm not kidding.


Thread winner!!!


+1

Do tell!


Okay so it's so fucking crazy I should start a separate thread...but she's a self-proclaimed prophet. She lives in a different country and has about twenty followers who live with her. We see her once or twice a year. It doesn't matter what I say to her, she believes she can read my thoughts. She's told me I'm lying (about the randomest shit) on too many occasions to count. She also has been visited (regularly) by aliens.


I should add: I've never seen her eyes. Ever. She wears gigantic sunglasses 24/7.


OMG. PP, I am so sorry. I have been meaning to collect MIL stories as part of a project, to be turned into a book, and this would certainly be a direct lead in! I am sorry you have to deal with such craziness. Do you have to see her? Or can you just send DH? Are you okay with DC being near her? Are they safe in her presence?

Anonymous
Post 07/16/2015 11:36     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am always amazed at the lack of introspection of posters on this site. I am not a mil (or even close) but agree that "telling someone off" smacks of gross immaturity and says more (negatively) about the sender than the receiver. My mil is a real bitch but I would never stoop so low as to "tell her off". As an adult, I discuss issues maturely and rationally. For those who passively aggressively, get pleasure out of ensuring your mil doesn't see your dh, you not only demonstrate your immaturity but lack of love for your spouse. You all must be really young or really insecure.


I'm sure you do discuss issues maturely and rationally. I'm surprised, though, that you haven't had enough life experience to know that not everyone does. When you're dealing with crazy, rationality and logic get you nowhere.
Responding in kind simply demonstrates your own immaturity.


"I know you are but what am I?" Really? Please stop responding to this nut. Clearly, she is a MIL in sheep's clothing!

Anonymous
Post 07/15/2015 22:14     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
I am always amazed at the lack of introspection of posters on this site. I am not a mil (or even close) but agree that "telling someone off" smacks of gross immaturity and says more (negatively) about the sender than the receiver. My mil is a real bitch but I would never stoop so low as to "tell her off". As an adult, I discuss issues maturely and rationally. For those who passively aggressively, get pleasure out of ensuring your mil doesn't see your dh, you not only demonstrate your immaturity but lack of love for your spouse. You all must be really young or really insecure.


I'm sure you do discuss issues maturely and rationally. I'm surprised, though, that you haven't had enough life experience to know that not everyone does. When you're dealing with crazy, rationality and logic get you nowhere.
Responding in kind simply demonstrates your own immaturity.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2015 21:05     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MIL is a cult leader. I'm not kidding.


Thread winner!!!


+1

Do tell!


Okay so it's so fucking crazy I should start a separate thread...but she's a self-proclaimed prophet. She lives in a different country and has about twenty followers who live with her. We see her once or twice a year. It doesn't matter what I say to her, she believes she can read my thoughts. She's told me I'm lying (about the randomest shit) on too many occasions to count. She also has been visited (regularly) by aliens.


I should add: I've never seen her eyes. Ever. She wears gigantic sunglasses 24/7.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2015 21:03     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MIL is a cult leader. I'm not kidding.


Thread winner!!!


+1

Do tell!


Okay so it's so fucking crazy I should start a separate thread...but she's a self-proclaimed prophet. She lives in a different country and has about twenty followers who live with her. We see her once or twice a year. It doesn't matter what I say to her, she believes she can read my thoughts. She's told me I'm lying (about the randomest shit) on too many occasions to count. She also has been visited (regularly) by aliens.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2015 19:14     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:"Telling someone off " is childish and immature. Emotionally mature adults address issues as they arise in a mature and controlled manner.


This
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2015 19:06     Subject: Telling MIL off
I am always amazed at the lack of introspection of posters on this site. I am not a mil (or even close) but agree that "telling someone off" smacks of gross immaturity and says more (negatively) about the sender than the receiver. My mil is a real bitch but I would never stoop so low as to "tell her off". As an adult, I discuss issues maturely and rationally. For those who passively aggressively, get pleasure out of ensuring your mil doesn't see your dh, you not only demonstrate your immaturity but lack of love for your spouse. You all must be really young or really insecure.


I'm sure you do discuss issues maturely and rationally. I'm surprised, though, that you haven't had enough life experience to know that not everyone does. When you're dealing with crazy, rationality and logic get you nowhere.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2015 18:55     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like an immature young woman... I am guess still in 20s or at least mentally.


Because no one else would be tired (exhausted) of a nasty MILs dramatics and feigned ignorance??!! [Cue: feigned ignorance. LOLZ.]
No. Presumably anyone oats their 20s would have the emotional maturity and control to handle conflict with a family member in a more positive and productive way.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2015 16:54     Subject: Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like an immature young woman... I am guess still in 20s or at least mentally.


Because no one else would be tired (exhausted) of a nasty MILs dramatics and feigned ignorance??!! [Cue: feigned ignorance. LOLZ.]
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2015 16:44     Subject: Re:Telling MIL off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I did years ago. It felt great. She is the real loser though. Her son is not a planner so she only sees our family when I plan visits. If she wasn't so selfish, she would see us a lot more. Remember mothers of sons, your DIL will be the one managing the family schedule. If you want to on it more than just holidays, make friends with the one who makes the plans.


Widow here. Haven't seen the ILs for decades after DH's death. You reap what you sow.


Signed, MIL from Hell



NP - Now, that's too much, bit*h.