Anonymous wrote:My cat/baby died, and I feel like I didn't wait long enough or didn't finish grieving. When my cat was dying, I promised her that I would never love a cat more than I loved her. I missed her so much that we got a kitten within a month of her passing. I loved this kitten but have always had trouble having the strong bond that I had with my other cat especially because of the death bed promise I made. I feel like I should have gone through my grieving and been able to accept that I would be able to love another cat before getting my kitten.
I'm not sure if any of this applies to you though, just my experience. I am so sorry for your loss.
My husband feels this way, too. We lost our beloved cat very very suddenly in the fall. I brought home a new kitten a few weeks ago and my husband is still feeling guilty for bonding with the new guy. For me, I don't feel like this kitten can ever replace the cat who died; he's a new little creature to love and live with.
In any case, I am just so sorry. For you, OP, for everyone who's lost their sweet furry friend. It hurts a lot.