Anonymous
Post 07/11/2015 15:29     Subject: Am I right to be made over lost urn?
Ashes are not someone's possession.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2015 11:31     Subject: Am I right to be made over lost urn?
I think it's appalling that your cousin lost his grandma's ashes (how???). But there isn't anything you can do about it now. What's gone is gone. And it sounds like it must have been an accident on your cousin's part. Try to forgive, Op. Life is for the living.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2015 11:25     Subject: Am I right to be made over lost urn?
Anonymous wrote:I've seen people on dcum get more upset about a relative taking a family heirloom than they are getting about someone managing to lose an urn.


Do you mean like stealing an heirloom? Because I definitely find theft more upsetting than someone misplacing their own possession. You don't?
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2015 11:23     Subject: Am I right to be made over lost urn?
Who on earth even keeps track of a distant relative's cremains?
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2015 23:27     Subject: Am I right to be made over lost urn?
I've seen people on dcum get more upset about a relative taking a family heirloom than they are getting about someone managing to lose an urn.
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2015 21:12     Subject: Am I right to be made over lost urn?
Anonymous wrote:I would be upset because I would have wanted her to be buried or scattered somewhere I could visit and leave flowers.


The ashes didn't belong to OP- they belonged to the grandmother's next of kin who is presumably the cousins. She's free to do with them whatever she wants. I personally find it weird that she kept them but it's up to her. Keep them, scatter them, lose them. It doesn't matter anyway, they're not the grandmother anymore.