Anonymous
Post 07/07/2015 07:34     Subject: Re:I'm a mom with just girls - tell me about middle school boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
There's been a lot posted about MS boy/girl behaviors but not much advice on how you might handle your daughter's concern that boys won't talk to or text her. While it's easy for adults to say, oh, it's so normal for boys this age not to want to talk to girls--or conversely, for us to say, boys (or girls) are so aggressive about texting etc.--that doesn't really help your daughter if she's feeling confused or concerned. She doesn't want to hear you, an adult, tell her that "Lots of parents tell me their MS boys just don't talk to or text girls, MS boys are less mature socially than you girls are" and so on. It's true, but that doesn't make it a comfort to your kid.


I don't know that it's even a question of social maturity. I have multiple boys, and even the most mature, thoughtful, social one wasn't that into texting as a means of communication. Nor is his father -- when I am texting my friends, he wants to know what I'm doing, because to him, if you want to interact with someone, you have a phone call or have them over. MAYBE you e-mail. But texting is for one-off questions.

Texting to chat is just not how either of them are wired.


I actually think girls are more immature, they have had their period and have gotten women's bodies but they are too young and immature to understand it.

Boys are really just into their own thing and mostly that is not girls.

Tell you girls, stop being immature, go play soccer, go to the movies, do something other than makings boys the center of your world. It is not "more mature" to be dating. Create you own world without boys before you start wanting to date/chat/text/etc. Have interests other than boys.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2015 07:29     Subject: Re:I'm a mom with just girls - tell me about middle school boys
Anonymous wrote:
There's been a lot posted about MS boy/girl behaviors but not much advice on how you might handle your daughter's concern that boys won't talk to or text her. While it's easy for adults to say, oh, it's so normal for boys this age not to want to talk to girls--or conversely, for us to say, boys (or girls) are so aggressive about texting etc.--that doesn't really help your daughter if she's feeling confused or concerned. She doesn't want to hear you, an adult, tell her that "Lots of parents tell me their MS boys just don't talk to or text girls, MS boys are less mature socially than you girls are" and so on. It's true, but that doesn't make it a comfort to your kid.


I don't know that it's even a question of social maturity. I have multiple boys, and even the most mature, thoughtful, social one wasn't that into texting as a means of communication. Nor is his father -- when I am texting my friends, he wants to know what I'm doing, because to him, if you want to interact with someone, you have a phone call or have them over. MAYBE you e-mail. But texting is for one-off questions.

Texting to chat is just not how either of them are wired.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 19:01     Subject: I'm a mom with just girls - tell me about middle school boys
Anonymous wrote:My MS DS is so enthralled with his sport that that is literally all he wants to do, watch, talk and read about. This too shall pass, I know, but he cares about his small group of guy friends and isn't girl crazy...yet.


Same!
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 18:20     Subject: I'm a mom with just girls - tell me about middle school boys
OP ~ does DD have a circle of girlfriends? I would encourage some activities - the movies, chipotle - - that type of things. A parent drives/picks-up the girls. Another parent, the boys.
Why not at your house in the family room (not a basement-type room)
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 18:13     Subject: Re:I'm a mom with just girls - tell me about middle school boys
PP makes a really good point about feeling left out. I recall a neighbor's MS DD a couple years ago was flat out annoyed that her friends had turned boy crazy and persuaded her parents to send her to a sleep away camp they wouldn't otherwise have done so she get some all girl time away from the drama/boy talk.