Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised at all the people who know of people whose nose piercing holes remained visible long after they closed. I pierced my nose as a young adult, let it close 6 years ago, and can't see it now. I barely remember I had it.

That's my experience too. I had mine pierced over 24 years ago.

Anonymous wrote:The message that a nose stud, or an eyebrow stud, or tats send is always a bad one. Always. The answer is no, with disappointment.

What message does it send? I was unaware of this. My only thoughts upon seeing facial piercings or body art are "oh, that person likes _(whatever it is)_ . Ouch, glad it's not on me. But good for them as long as they like it." Some tattoos and piercings are even rather pretty, in my opinion.

And why would you be disappointed in your child for having different aesthetic preferences than you do?

Or did you mean you would be disappointed to 'have to' say no because it's unfortunate that society still judges these things negatively? In which case I am glad you don't buy in fully, but I would assert that (1) it doesn't send as bad a message as you think, or at least not universally so, and (2) even if it did, it would be ok to support your child's individual choices in this matter regardless of what "society" may supposedly say.

The message that a nose stud, or an eyebrow stud, or tats send is always a bad one. Always. The answer is no, with disappointment.

No. Under no circumstances, NO!

My parents wouldn't have let me, but I did it anyway. The hole closed. You can't tell.

NO

This seems kind of silly to try, but has she done the fake stick on gems? She could see if it was something she really wanted to do, AND if it would look good.

I am relatively certain my boss took out her nose ring, but I only notice because I sit less than 4 feet away from her most of the day. Otherwise, no one can tell.

Her body, her choice assuming she is capable of taking care of it.

I know that's a pretty ableist stance, but if she were for some reason not capable of taking care of the piercing herself and would need someone else to do so, that would require more discussion. As someone with a physical disability and pierced ears I can't actually take care of myself even as an adult, it is actually a relatively significant annoyance and I somewhat regret having the piercing done. So if she can't be independent caring for the piercing I would ask her to consider carefully.

Otherwise, it's removable and it's on her body. That's not my battle or my hill.

Anonymous wrote:No way. Scarring could limit options.

LOL, what does that even mean?

OP, i would be okay with it. belly button, no, as PP noted the high rates of infections and the sexual connotations that it carries.

No way. Scarring could limit options.

Perhaps if a small stud, no hoop or septum. Zero tolerance for tattoos.

I'd be fine with it - although I am a 40-year-old fed who still has the small diamond stud in my nose that I got as a 15-year-old. I'm much less bothered by nose rings than other (non-ear) piercings; they tend to heal well and IMO can look quite pretty and unobtrusive on either teens or adults.

I'd be less psyched if one of my kids wanted to get a body piercing (difficulties with care and healing), and even less so if they wanted a tattoo (irreversibility).

It's pretty harmless and she can always take it out.

Anonymous wrote:My super conservative parents let my sister do this at 16 (she's younger by 3 years) when she was 16, so about 1999ish. I was shocked but honestly they thought it was pretty harmless to have a little diamond stud in her nose and it really was. She kept it thought college and then took it out. Sometimes in my mind's eye I still see her with it instead of the early 30s married woman in the pencil skirt going to work and it makes me smile.

If this is your hill to die on OP, fine. But I wouldn't let others' even factor into my decision on allowing this or not. Everything is going to be someone's "thing" that they find totally offensive and awful for kids. In the grand scheme I just don't see this being a huge deal.

Yes. This wouldn't be my hill to die on. But if you want it to be yours, then that's your decision.

Anonymous wrote:No. Just no.

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