^ I agree. MIL isn't paying for your vacation, is she?

You need to be an equal, independent adult in her eyes, in all ways, to have her respect. Then she will act better.

Op ~ don't put up with crap you wouldn't from a friend. You are equals. You are both adults. She has no power over you. Mention directly and firmly when you have a problem. If mentioning it does no good, then be cordial - but no reason to fake closeness or affection. And you and DH have power over what your children do. Certainly, do not put yourself in a position where you ask for favors - babysitting or financial. When you and DH don't "owe" her, you have the power, and you can decide.

Is your MIL from New England? That could explain the rudeness in the morning. Esp if you are southern. The boy thing? Maybe she's Italian.

My point is, she is who she is. She may be trying, and you don't see it just like she doesn't see it. Even if she isn't trying, she made your husband who he is. And you married that. So accept it and move on. If she doesn't say good morning back, then embrace that, or just don't say good morning. If you don't want to cook for anyone, then don't. Don't do it for a thank you.

But stop fretting and enjoy your day.

Anonymous wrote:OP - your kid is six months old. Let's see what you're saying a year and a half from now

- Signed someone who used to think just like you and now is required by the pediatrician to drench things in fat in order to get her kid to put some weight on.

Okay, okay, I have to add that I still don't feed my kid crap but I've seriously loosened up about lunch meats, bacon, and my kid eats so much butter you have no idea.