Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 15:44     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
I really don't believe that they're not serving food or drinks. I bet they're just not having a formal sit down dinner. I refuse to believe it!!
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 15:36     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
Anonymous wrote:A childhood friend is getting married on July fourth, late in the evening - there is no served dinner and guests are told to leave by 930. Would it be totally tacky to just attend the ceremony and then go out with our normal July 4th festivities? We were invited to other events that day and would love to attend.


If there's no meal being served, WHAT is happening afterwards but only until 9:30? Go the ceremony and then continue about your plans
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 15:26     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
Just skip it. You'll be glad you did.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 15:23     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
Anonymous wrote:It's a small wedding in her backyard so she just verbally told everyone.


Damn. That's really rude. They aren't even serving BBQ or anything? I would just go to the ceremony, but definitely tell her so she won't buy an extra bottle of water for you or anything.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 14:53     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
Anonymous wrote:If it were me I would probably go to the ceremony and then leave (saying I had July 4 plans). I try not to miss weddings, especially if they are nearby.


We will be traveling 45 mins, if we leave right when it ends - we will be driving during fireworks..bummer.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 14:47     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
If it were me I would probably go to the ceremony and then leave (saying I had July 4 plans). I try not to miss weddings, especially if they are nearby.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 14:34     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
I would see this as a good reason to have a 4th of July BBQ with a wedding g ceremony thrown in.

Do what you can.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 14:25     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
Anonymous wrote:

Jesus, eat a sandwich and head to the event and have some drinks and dance and have fun.


Are the bride and groom even providing drinks?

Look, you want a low-key wedding, go for it. But if you want people to come on the 4th, at least throw some weenies on the grill, slice a watermelon, and tap a keg. Exchange vows at 9 and let your guests see whatever fireworks they can see from your backyard.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 14:07     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
A wedding from 7:30-9:30 pm, on the Fourth of July, with no meal? I have no problem with a small backyard wedding, but just because your wedding isn't expensive and fancy doesn't mean that the obligations of a host don't apply. If they don't want to serve dinner, don't have the wedding during dinnertime.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 13:55     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's a small wedding in her backyard so she just verbally told everyone.


This sounds lovely. So many people complain about huge, super planned, over the top weddings. Instead, she's having a small party in her back yard. And instead of being excited about the low level of commitment and expense on your part, you are whining about missing out on a BBQ or some fireworks? Your close friend is getting MARRIED, in a small intimate back yard wedding. And you can't be bothered to attend? Sure, it'd be nice if they were serving dinner, but perhaps they can't afford it but still wanted to do something small and lovely.

I'd say skip it bc you sound horrible.


Hmmm....I'm guessing this poster got married on a holiday.

Sorry, but for some of us, the 4th comes with annual traditions that are important to keeping close with our neighborhoods and family. A wedding can be held on any day. Especially a simple wedding. I totally embrace the simple part, but that means it could be on July 5th or the next weekend....or the next. It is totally self-absorbed to hold a 2-hour event in the middle of 4th of July that will prevent people from going to see fireworks and then telling them they have to leave at 9:30.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 13:50     Subject: Re:Wedding on July 4th
Honestly, I'd be tempted to RSVP no, and say we have plans....as it would be true...it is the 4th of July. To see fireworks around here, you have to go early and get a spot. So the timing of their event is so wrong.

I like the simplicity of the event, but why on July 4th? If that was the only day available, they should have embraced the darn thing, had a BBQ reception in their back yard complete with sparklers and legal fireworks. Now that is wedding to remember.

Any other day, I'd eat an early dinner and attend.
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 13:43     Subject: Wedding on July 4th
Anonymous wrote:Weddings on holidays are just stupid.


ITA.