Anonymous wrote:I live in the same universe as the other cheapo PP.

If anyone, INCLUDING my parents, had given me $2,500 as a wedding gift, I would have assumed it was a mistake and returned it. I would never even think of accepting that much money from someone. Fortunately, I don't know anyone who would ever think of giving me that much money.

$100, OP. Cash, check or registry item -- up to you.

I'm one of the "cheapo" pps you are referencing and I agree about the $2500. that is 'insanely high' in my view and too large a gift for me to feel comfortable accepting, as you say even from my parents or other close relative.

I think $75-125 depending on how close you are to the bride and groom. Since you don't know the bride (and the fact that you don't know her leads me to conclude you probably aren't that close to the groom either anymore), I'd tend toward the lower side of that scale.

$125

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Anonymous wrote:We would give $100.

That's insanely low. I would be embarrassed to give that.

It is not insanely low in the midwest, ESPECIALLY considering the travel. I got married 2 years ago in Illinois and $100 was about the average for a couple. Anything over $150 stood out as extremely generous. It was a decently upper middle class guest list.

I agree it would be low on the East Coast.

If you are close enough to the couple to attend a far away wedding. You are close enough to give more than I spend on a dinner with DH. $100 is pov.

How is the amount that YOU spend on dinner with your DH in any way relevant to my life?

NP but the OP asked how much would "we" spend. So this poster was giving perspective on how much they would spend.

As a bride, I would just be thrilled you came to my wedding and wouldn't even blink at no gift. Just want you to be there if you are a close friend. As an attendee, just bring your checkbook and figure out if it's a fancier shindig or what

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Anonymous wrote:We would give $100.

That's insanely low. I would be embarrassed to give that.

It is not insanely low in the midwest, ESPECIALLY considering the travel. I got married 2 years ago in Illinois and $100 was about the average for a couple. Anything over $150 stood out as extremely generous. It was a decently upper middle class guest list.

I agree it would be low on the East Coast.

If you are close enough to the couple to attend a far away wedding. You are close enough to give more than I spend on a dinner with DH. $100 is pov.

How is the amount that YOU spend on dinner with your DH in any way relevant to my life?

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Anonymous wrote:We would give $100.

That's insanely low. I would be embarrassed to give that.

It is not insanely low in the midwest, ESPECIALLY considering the travel. I got married 2 years ago in Illinois and $100 was about the average for a couple. Anything over $150 stood out as extremely generous. It was a decently upper middle class guest list.

I agree it would be low on the East Coast.

i totally agree w this. its different in different parts of the country, pps

+2 I am from Michigan, and $100 for a couple is not "insanely low" by any stretch. I would say anywhere between $100-$150 for a friend is pretty standard.

$100 is a perfectly acceptable gift.

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.

This.

In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.

Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?

(not so humble brag)

Will she get a cookie or applause? No? Because this is an anonymous forum.

Some orthodox religions give very very large cash gifts for weddings, regardless of relation.

For $2500 poster, are you Indian by chance? Indian friends (some Ethiopian) regularly receive $1-$2k. My non Indian friends rarely receive more than $200.

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.

This.

In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.

Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?

(not so humble brag)

I live in the same universe as the other cheapo PP.

If anyone, INCLUDING my parents, had given me $2,500 as a wedding gift, I would have assumed it was a mistake and returned it. I would never even think of accepting that much money from someone. Fortunately, I don't know anyone who would ever think of giving me that much money.

$100, OP. Cash, check or registry item -- up to you.

My college friends and our peer group make between $125-250K per year HHI. In that group, it is pretty customary for non-family to give/receive around $100 for a wedding gift. I might do more for a good friend or one that I didn't travel for, say $150, but that's about the norm. For the lower end families, $50-75 is not unusual.

It's a rare treat for me too but a friends wedding doesn't happen every day,

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Anonymous wrote:We would give $100.

That's insanely low. I would be embarrassed to give that.

It is not insanely low in the midwest, ESPECIALLY considering the travel. I got married 2 years ago in Illinois and $100 was about the average for a couple. Anything over $150 stood out as extremely generous. It was a decently upper middle class guest list.

I agree it would be low on the East Coast.

If you are close enough to the couple to attend a far away wedding. You are close enough to give more than I spend on a dinner with DH. $100 is pov.

disagree. sidenote: I rarely spend 100 on a dinner w my H.

100 for dinner for 2 is a 3x a year treat for us: on our anniversary and on our birthdays. we're not poor, we just don't like to spend a ton of $ on eating out. everyone has different priorities for how they spend their $ and, as a PP said, everyone has a budget.

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Anonymous wrote:We would give $100.

That's insanely low. I would be embarrassed to give that.

It is not insanely low in the midwest, ESPECIALLY considering the travel. I got married 2 years ago in Illinois and $100 was about the average for a couple. Anything over $150 stood out as extremely generous. It was a decently upper middle class guest list.

I agree it would be low on the East Coast.

If you are close enough to the couple to attend a far away wedding. You are close enough to give more than I spend on a dinner with DH. $100 is pov.

disagree. sidenote: I rarely spend 100 on a dinner w my H.