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Anonymous wrote:My DS has ADHD. Highly functioning. Able to socialize in school with a small group of kids--from one of the popular kids. One of my neighbors has a boy with AS and asked me one day what kind of autism my son had. I was totally taken aback but responded politely. But looking back, I wish I had let her know how inappropriate her question was.

Sorry for typo...should have read "far" from one of the popular kids.

Wow. Maybe she thought you both would have a connection and become more friendly over shared circumstances. Maybe she needs someone to talk to. Thanks for not reaming her out for her apparent faux pas.

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB. My goodness.

By the way, learning passions and most of what you describe are evidence of giftedness. Check out hoagiesgifted.org. Tired of the culture of diagnosis in the DC area.

Absolutely. This would describe my child 10 years ago. I had to deal with so many "well-intended" meddlers. He is profoundly gifted, not ASD. There was so much judgment about my supposed denial--as if I hadn't already had him test at the first sign of my own concern. MYOB it doesn't really matter why a child doesn't fit in it still is hard for a parent to watch a child struggle. She doesn't need your meddling.

My DS8 is like you describe-- exceptionally gifted and ADHD. I guarantee OP, that your neighbor has already heard about her DC's social challenges from a teacher. I think you are concerned, not meddling, but I am certain the parents have been made aware by teachers.

what is the point of this post? You feel that you've made a diagnosis and should make this child's parent's aware? mind your own business and learn tolerance and appreciation for others' differences!

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has ADHD. Highly functioning. Able to socialize in school with a small group of kids--from one of the popular kids. One of my neighbors has a boy with AS and asked me one day what kind of autism my son had. I was totally taken aback but responded politely. But looking back, I wish I had let her know how inappropriate her question was.

Sorry for typo...should have read "far" from one of the popular kids.

similar thing happened to us. DS is in middle school. ADHD with expressive language challenge. Came home one day and said "MOM, DO I HAVE AUTISM...". apparently some kid at school told him he had ASD.

Anonymous wrote:My DS has ADHD. Highly functioning. Able to socialize in school with a small group of kids--from one of the popular kids. One of my neighbors has a boy with AS and asked me one day what kind of autism my son had. I was totally taken aback but responded politely. But looking back, I wish I had let her know how inappropriate her question was.

What kind of autism? That question doesn't even make sense, especially from a mom of an ASD child.

Anonymous wrote:My DS has ADHD. Highly functioning. Able to socialize in school with a small group of kids--from one of the popular kids. One of my neighbors has a boy with AS and asked me one day what kind of autism my son had. I was totally taken aback but responded politely. But looking back, I wish I had let her know how inappropriate her question was.

Sorry for typo...should have read "far" from one of the popular kids.

My DS has ADHD. Highly functioning. Able to socialize in school with a small group of kids--from one of the popular kids. One of my neighbors has a boy with AS and asked me one day what kind of autism my son had. I was totally taken aback but responded politely. But looking back, I wish I had let her know how inappropriate her question was.

I have a child with AS and I also have a neighbor that thinks that she can get my DD to change her ways of interacting with others.

People with AS are wired differently than most of the non-AS population. I recently watched a video of a bike that engineers added a set of gears to the handle bars, so that when you turned them the wheel actually went in the opposite direction. A guy decided that he was going to ride it a little every day until he learned how to ride it. It took him 8 months! Once he tried to ride a regular bike, he couldn't. He had to relearn how to ride a regular bike! This is how people with AS are. Some of the basic things that most people don't give a second thought about are very difficult to do.

Everyone has their own struggles in life. Some like to project theirs onto others. Most can keep to themselves, while other cannot. That's life.

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB. My goodness.

By the way, learning passions and most of what you describe are evidence of giftedness. Check out hoagiesgifted.org. Tired of the culture of diagnosis in the DC area.

Absolutely. This would describe my child 10 years ago. I had to deal with so many "well-intended" meddlers. He is profoundly gifted, not ASD. There was so much judgment about my supposed denial--as if I hadn't already had him test at the first sign of my own concern. MYOB it doesn't really matter why a child doesn't fit in it still is hard for a parent to watch a child struggle. She doesn't need your meddling.

You can have a profoundly gifted child who also has ASD... and ADHD in our case. My kid's current passion is Pokemon so he does not look any different from his NT peers.

of course you can, but it us still presumptuous of a neighbor to meddle in this family's lives. I never wanted or needed to discuss my child's diagnosis or intellect with casual acquaintances. It is his story to reveal or not to reveal. Much like the circumstances of my daughter's adoption is her story to tell. Random people are not in entitled to their private information.

I did not mean to imply that you have to share anything with anyone but equating social difficulties = a high IQ does not help kids who DO have a diagnosis because there is help for social issues. My kid with ASD/ADHD has an IEP for social issues mainly and OT. He does not need help with academics. My profoundly gifted child is much happier at school and has a large group of friends since he gets supports for his social issues. While your child may not have a diagnosis, too many parents dismiss social issues simply bc their kid is "soooo smart". That's all I meant.

But my first post already indicated that he had been tested and had an ADHD diagnosis. I am not sure what point you are trying to make. People are quick to make arm chair diagnosis and assume parents haven't already addressed the issue. Not everyone over shares their children's personal issues--whether giftedness, ADHD, or asd.

I have a kid with ASD and a kid who is ADHD/profoundly gifted. Never in a million years would I have a conversation about that with one of my neighbors. It's not the neighbors' business. The process of diagnosis, treatment and accommodation has been very difficult. School IEP meetings are painful enough. I don't think it's necessary to have a neighborhood IEP meeting, too.

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB. My goodness.

By the way, learning passions and most of what you describe are evidence of giftedness. Check out hoagiesgifted.org. Tired of the culture of diagnosis in the DC area.

Absolutely. This would describe my child 10 years ago. I had to deal with so many "well-intended" meddlers. He is profoundly gifted, not ASD. There was so much judgment about my supposed denial--as if I hadn't already had him test at the first sign of my own concern. MYOB it doesn't really matter why a child doesn't fit in it still is hard for a parent to watch a child struggle. She doesn't need your meddling.

You can have a profoundly gifted child who also has ASD... and ADHD in our case. My kid's current passion is Pokemon so he does not look any different from his NT peers.

of course you can, but it us still presumptuous of a neighbor to meddle in this family's lives. I never wanted or needed to discuss my child's diagnosis or intellect with casual acquaintances. It is his story to reveal or not to reveal. Much like the circumstances of my daughter's adoption is her story to tell. Random people are not in entitled to their private information.

I did not mean to imply that you have to share anything with anyone but equating social difficulties = a high IQ does not help kids who DO have a diagnosis because there is help for social issues. My kid with ASD/ADHD has an IEP for social issues mainly and OT. He does not need help with academics. My profoundly gifted child is much happier at school and has a large group of friends since he gets supports for his social issues. While your child may not have a diagnosis, too many parents dismiss social issues simply bc their kid is "soooo smart". That's all I meant.

But my first post already indicated that he had been tested and had an ADHD diagnosis. I am not sure what point you are trying to make. People are quick to make arm chair diagnosis and assume parents haven't already addressed the issue. Not everyone over shares their children's personal issues--whether giftedness, ADHD, or asd.

Dear DCUM,

I strongly suspect my neighbor is an obnoxious busybody. She is always armchair-diagnosing people she doesn't know. Should I say something to her?

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like you suspect him of a crime. Or as if you have evidence of diphtheria or Ebola.

What, exactly, do you expect to occur here? I mean, if we were all to advocate as you wish and say "Tell them right away!"

He sounds absolulety wonderful! How rare is it when a kid takes a deep interest in something that may one day lead to an important discovery and advance mankind or educate others about all that they have taken the time to learn? The parents have been blessed with a genius and so glad the schools had the sense to recognize it! I am shaking my head wondering what is the problem?? Yesterday, I was at my neighborhood park with my kid. There were a bunch of kids hanging out, ages between 7 and 11. Do you know what deeply intellectual conversation they were having? They were talking about who they "like" and and who is "dating". Oh and one mentioned that he had a large private part!! (Thank God my DD was not their friend). I'd much rather that a kid talk about dinosaurs any day of the week then that!

I concur with the previous poster. Talking about dinosaurs and the sciences beats constant discussion about video games. I love it when my 7 year old DS play dates that did not involve playing on the wii or being so competitive that the kids would resort to cheating to win in sport.

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB. My goodness.

By the way, learning passions and most of what you describe are evidence of giftedness. Check out hoagiesgifted.org. Tired of the culture of diagnosis in the DC area.

Absolutely. This would describe my child 10 years ago. I had to deal with so many "well-intended" meddlers. He is profoundly gifted, not ASD. There was so much judgment about my supposed denial--as if I hadn't already had him test at the first sign of my own concern. MYOB it doesn't really matter why a child doesn't fit in it still is hard for a parent to watch a child struggle. She doesn't need your meddling.

You can have a profoundly gifted child who also has ASD... and ADHD in our case. My kid's current passion is Pokemon so he does not look any different from his NT peers.

of course you can, but it us still presumptuous of a neighbor to meddle in this family's lives. I never wanted or needed to discuss my child's diagnosis or intellect with casual acquaintances. It is his story to reveal or not to reveal. Much like the circumstances of my daughter's adoption is her story to tell. Random people are not in entitled to their private information.

I did not mean to imply that you have to share anything with anyone but equating social difficulties = a high IQ does not help kids who DO have a diagnosis because there is help for social issues. My kid with ASD/ADHD has an IEP for social issues mainly and OT. He does not need help with academics. My profoundly gifted child is much happier at school and has a large group of friends since he gets supports for his social issues. While your child may not have a diagnosis, too many parents dismiss social issues simply bc their kid is "soooo smart". That's all I meant.

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB. My goodness.

By the way, learning passions and most of what you describe are evidence of giftedness. Check out hoagiesgifted.org. Tired of the culture of diagnosis in the DC area.

Absolutely. This would describe my child 10 years ago. I had to deal with so many "well-intended" meddlers. He is profoundly gifted, not ASD. There was so much judgment about my supposed denial--as if I hadn't already had him test at the first sign of my own concern. MYOB it doesn't really matter why a child doesn't fit in it still is hard for a parent to watch a child struggle. She doesn't need your meddling.

You can have a profoundly gifted child who also has ASD... and ADHD in our case. My kid's current passion is Pokemon so he does not look any different from his NT peers.

of course you can, but it us still presumptuous of a neighbor to meddle in this family's lives. I never wanted or needed to discuss my child's diagnosis or intellect with casual acquaintances. It is his story to reveal or not to reveal. Much like the circumstances of my daughter's adoption is her story to tell. Random people are not in entitled to their private information.