Anonymous wrote:In the real world, I'd hope my kid had the guts to call off the wedding if s/he were having real doubts. Another part of being an adult is recognizing when you've made or are about to make a bad decision and cutting your losses.

But would you encourage them to come to the conclusion that they had made a bad decision based solely on some Facebook posts by some random college kids? Part of being a grownup is also knowing that Facebook and reality are not always the same thing.

In the real world, I'd hope my kid had the guts to call off the wedding if s/he were having real doubts. Another part of being an adult is recognizing when you've made or are about to make a bad decision and cutting your losses.

Part of being a grownup is following through on your commitments, and I expect my kids to do that. It 's one thing to give the college you've committed to attending a real chance, putting forth your best effort, and then making a well thought out change (not based on Facebook) because it is a bad fit. It's another to not even try. In the real world, you (hopefully) don't file for divorce a month after getting married or quit a new job because you have a tough first week. I would tell my kids that they needed to go and give the first semester 100%. And that over winter break or after freshman year, DH and I would be glad to sit down with them and take a real look and whether a course correction was necessary.

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with that. Two days after my parents dropped me off at college even before classes began I called my mom and told her "This isn't going to work out. I don't want to stay here."

I made no friends and failed every single class I took, and had to leave at the end of the semester.

If she can figure it out before getting there good for her.

Wow, you were a spoiled brat.

I changed my college choice mid July before freshman year. My selected school just never felt "right" and my roomMate assignment freaked me out ( she emailed me from an account named " C*mOnIWannaLayYa" it was the last straw, I knew I needed a smaller school I was much happier at the school I needed up attending! If it just "more fun" then I would advise against switching. If there is more, I'd discuss options