Notice that all of the young guys mentioned here are making good money and have good careers. That's why they were deemed acceptable.

I'm not seeing any examples of women who married younger guys because he was "so pretty" and sweet, even though he didn't really have much of a career. But men do that all the time. Women usually have zero interest in LTRs with men who don't have some kind of career.

All things being equal, young is better than old, but men in their 30s and 40s are more likely to have a decent career going then men in their 20s.

I married a man 4 years younger than me. He now makes more than me and was making 6 figures at 26. He is also very good looking. I feel I lucked out.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 36 and DH is 46, and I think this is the perfect age difference. In college/grad school, I was asked out by a few guys my age or a year or two younger, and I was never attracted to that. I used to think there was something desperate about girls who dated younger guys; I felt sorry for those girls.

That's funny because many would say a woman with a handsome younger man and a nice career is winning. I certainly would. I'm 32 and would prefer 28-31 over 40+ by a loooong margin.

I agree; I don't get why someone would feel sorry with someone a couple years younger. I actually assume that women dating men significantly older couldn't find anyone around their age and had to go to old dudes.

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Anonymous wrote:5 years younger. It might have mattered in our 20's but we were late 30's/early 40/s when we met.

Similar situation. Dh is four years younger but we met when I was 32. No big thing.

me too. I'm the same age as his older sister.

5 years younger here, he's the same age as my younger brother.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 36 and DH is 46, and I think this is the perfect age difference. In college/grad school, I was asked out by a few guys my age or a year or two younger, and I was never attracted to that. I used to think there was something desperate about girls who dated younger guys; I felt sorry for those girls.

That's funny because many would say a woman with a handsome younger man and a nice career is winning. I certainly would. I'm 32 and would prefer 28-31 over 40+ by a loooong margin.

Anonymous wrote:i met mine online and he's 3 years younger at 25 now 28 and making 6 figures. I'm not sure if i should stay with him even though he says he loves me and wants to get engaged. He once caught me with a dating profile while i was dating him and got very upset and demanded I take it down so I took it down and felt bad about it. But now I found that he has dating profiles that he did not tell me about and I'm unsure if I should confront him about it or just stop talking to him altogether and date others.

Get your own thread, please?

i met mine online and he's 3 years younger at 25 now 28 and making 6 figures. I'm not sure if i should stay with him even though he says he loves me and wants to get engaged. He once caught me with a dating profile while i was dating him and got very upset and demanded I take it down so I took it down and felt bad about it. But now I found that he has dating profiles that he did not tell me about and I'm unsure if I should confront him about it or just stop talking to him altogether and date others.

29 & 25 are pretty close in age.

I think it's when 25 year old men are with 40 year old women that people start raising eyebrows -- not that it really matters.

IMO, people are not numbers and if you keep an open mind, you never know who you will be smitten by.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question - why would ANY remotely desirable man marry a woman 5+ years older? Screw, sure. But marry? A 30 year old man with a 35 year old woman has to rush to have kids and missed all her hot years. Any man with options would prefer a 25 year old.

You cannot be real.

Wow. The most in love couple I know the wife is 4 years older than her husband. She was 29 to his 25 when they met. Now they have two beautiful children and are the happiest couple on the neighborhood.

These close friends of ours also have a 3 year age gap. The wife is 3 years older than her husband and they seem so happy and in love.
Clearly there are men who don't give 2 fucks about a few years.

5 years younger. He's way more mature even though biologically younger. He often tells me to "act my age".

The Major issue in our relationship and causes the most problems is he doesn't understand monster ballads. It almost ended our marriage. We've made it through....

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Anonymous wrote:A year and a half age difference is nothing to adults.

Tell that to my husband. He is 8 months younger and often makes comments-- Is so and so *my* age or yours? Oh, xx graduated in *my* year. LOL, he just does it cause he knows it ribs me. I do feel that my peers who are married to older men *have* more than I do. Bought a house earlier, had kids younger, etc. But it ain't no thing!

Good lord.

Anonymous wrote:Serious question - why would ANY remotely desirable man marry a woman 5+ years older? Screw, sure. But marry? A 30 year old man with a 35 year old woman has to rush to have kids and missed all her hot years. Any man with options would prefer a 25 year old.

You cannot be real.

I'm 36 and DH is 46, and I think this is the perfect age difference. In college/grad school, I was asked out by a few guys my age or a year or two younger, and I was never attracted to that. I used to think there was something desperate about girls who dated younger guys; I felt sorry for those girls.

It is funny, but I was seriously dating a woman 22 years older than me. It ended when I started realizing that I wanted a family....

As for the health difference, she is still chugging along at 73....I am 51, and will be lucky to make 55 (cancer)

Another thing to keep in mind is that how you look at 35 is probably more reflective of how you will look at 45, 55, etc.

I've known countless people who were "hot" at 22 and not-so-hot at 35. I've also known people who have barely aged and look terrific. It really depends on the individual.