Anonymous
05/23/2015 21:37
Subject: As a SAHM would this bother you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:6 years later my mom asks me all the time. I tell her to talk to my husband since he's the one who encourages me to stay home.
It's different when it's your own mom asking the question. I assume you know what is behind the questioning.
No, its worse. She is angry I didn't choose to copy her life. Work full-time, nanny/day care, etc. But, at the same time, she wasn't willing to step in and help with child care and medical/therapy appointments so it was impossible to work. She also had my sister asking. Its worse as I can just ignore my MIL but my mom I can't.
Sure you can. What is she doing for you that you allow her to interfere in your life?
I don't see her except when she picks up my kid to see him or we drop him off every other week or so. She doesn't interfere in my life anymore as we put a stop to it, but she'll still send emails with her opinions that just get deleted.
Anonymous
05/23/2015 21:32
Subject: Re:As a SAHM would this bother you?
Some MILs are worried their sons are burdened by the wife staying at home. They don't take into account that the husband is part of the decision.
Anonymous
05/23/2015 21:19
Subject: As a SAHM would this bother you?
MIL used to ask to the point of being highly annoying. I finally told her DH and I were fine with the decision. Since she seemed concerned me staying home was stressful for him, I informed her that DH doesn't want me to go back to work unless it's something I truly want to do.
She hasn't asked for a few months so at least it earned me a reprieve. I do expect her to "forget" that discussion and resume asking in various ways.
She hasn't asked for a few months so at least it earned me a reprieve. I do expect her to "forget" that discussion and resume asking in various ways.
Anonymous
05/23/2015 21:11
Subject: As a SAHM would this bother you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:6 years later my mom asks me all the time. I tell her to talk to my husband since he's the one who encourages me to stay home.
It's different when it's your own mom asking the question. I assume you know what is behind the questioning.
No, its worse. She is angry I didn't choose to copy her life. Work full-time, nanny/day care, etc. But, at the same time, she wasn't willing to step in and help with child care and medical/therapy appointments so it was impossible to work. She also had my sister asking. Its worse as I can just ignore my MIL but my mom I can't.
Sure you can. What is she doing for you that you allow her to interfere in your life?
Anonymous
05/23/2015 21:04
Subject: As a SAHM would this bother you?
I am a SAHM, and my Inlaws have begged me to stay home. They offer up hilarious anecdotes of people with working parents whose kids ended up in rehab, etc. I'm home because I love to be home, we can afford it, and my soul-sucking lawyer job was awful. I'm happy about my choice, but I'm not happy with my Inlaws' judgment. I will return to work one day, and I'm not concerned with their opinions.
Anonymous
05/23/2015 20:48
Subject: As a SAHM would this bother you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:6 years later my mom asks me all the time. I tell her to talk to my husband since he's the one who encourages me to stay home.
It's different when it's your own mom asking the question. I assume you know what is behind the questioning.
No, its worse. She is angry I didn't choose to copy her life. Work full-time, nanny/day care, etc. But, at the same time, she wasn't willing to step in and help with child care and medical/therapy appointments so it was impossible to work. She also had my sister asking. Its worse as I can just ignore my MIL but my mom I can't.
Anonymous
05/23/2015 20:45
Subject: As a SAHM would this bother you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's concerned for her son and worried that you'll never work again.
Probably. Especially if her son has been asking for financial assistance.
How in the hell did you get that from the OP? Especially because she said they had tons of savings so she could SAHM? Oh right, you are just bashing her because you have a bug up your ass about SAHMs.
You'd hate me. I've never had a paying job in my life, I spent almost 6 years as a housewife before children and I don't ever intend on going back to work even when my youngest graduates college, don't care what anyone thinks or assumes about my life. My choice and my DH's choice.
I'm really glad you are OK with this because I think that's a very tough choice to justify. Unless you were running the family farm, I can't imagine what a childless housewife would do for 6 years.
Running a family farm is not the same thing as being a housewife. It's a hell of a lot of work.
Anonymous
05/23/2015 18:12
Subject: As a SAHM would this bother you?
Anonymous wrote:6 years later my mom asks me all the time. I tell her to talk to my husband since he's the one who encourages me to stay home.
It's different when it's your own mom asking the question. I assume you know what is behind the questioning.