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Anonymous wrote:If a woman doesn't want her picture shared she should take care not to send it, especially to someone who only rises to the fuck buddy category.

Who said she sent it? The guy probably took pics of her with his phone and she's clueless he's shopping them around.

That's actually less likely than her sending the risque shots herself. And unless the guy is her boyfriend (doesn't sound like it) or husband, she should know better. You can tell when a picture is a selfie vs taken of someone unawares. If you didn't date while cell phone cameras were prevalent you won't quite get this phenomenon (and I'm not saying that as a slam, it's just a thing).

Anonymous wrote:If a woman doesn't want her picture shared she should take care not to send it, especially to someone who only rises to the fuck buddy category.

Who said she sent it? The guy probably took pics of her with his phone and she's clueless he's shopping them around.

This is totally unacceptable, specially if the girlfriend doesn't know that he is sending her naked pictures to his friends. I would cut out friends that disrespect so much their partners and my husband would be in big trouble for condoning this behaviors. Absolutely unacceptable, and i am not prude, but this is just so disrespectful and immature.

Anonymous wrote:I would also be cautious that your dh isn't sending pics of you.

I don't think there is any reason at all to assume this. Him having a friend who overshares says nothing about whether he does the same thing.

If he doesn't have her permission then your husbands friend has no business sharing those photos.

I would also be cautious that your dh isn't sending pics of you.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm generally very easygoing and chill about sex. I could care less if my husband watches porn or looks at pictures of naked women...as long as they are of people I have no chance of running into. I don't want to see or know these women. When they are videos or pictures of a stranger, it's harmless.
When they start viewing naked pictures of women they know, it can lead to problems.
I'd have a big problem if my husband did this.

what do you think this will lead to? exactly what in your mind you think is going on in your husbands head if he's looking a pics his friends sends of some woman hes fucking? you think hes going to seek more photos via your friend? will he start working with his friend to see if the girl can send more racy photos? do you think it will lead to cheating?

and even if he meets this woman, its his friend who is fucking her. guys dont share photos with the idea of sharing the woman with the friend.

i guess im trying to understand what in your mind you think is going on if your husband gets pics from his friend of a girl hes fucking. walk me through the path that a husband is going down that is apparently causing a problem in your marriage.

I'm the PP you're quoting.
1. It would piss me off that DH is looking at/asking for more pictures of a woman who (presumably) doesn't know her naked pictures are being shared with strangers. NOT cool.
2. I would have no fear that DH would attempt to have sex with the woman. That wouldnt even play into it.
3. My husband fantasises about other women sometimes. All men do. I'm under no illusion that I'm the only woman he has sexual thoughts about.
I'm fine with it as long as long as I don't have to personally know any of the woman he thinks about. Knowing that the bastard had looked at (and enjoyed) pictures of his friend's lady would bother me if I ever had to meet her. I do not want to know who he thinks about.
4. This wouldn't cause a problem in my marriage.

The question is WWYD... I would say "Hey, Joe, I was looking at your phone and saw the text Rob sent you. I don't really want your friends sending you pictures of other women I feel it's disrespectful to the woman and to me."

My H would say, "Yea, not problem, I'll delete them and I'll stop encouraging him to send them, my bad."

Why is it so hard for people to discuss things with their husband?

Anonymous wrote:I'm generally very easygoing and chill about sex. I could care less if my husband watches porn or looks at pictures of naked women...as long as they are of people I have no chance of running into. I don't want to see or know these women. When they are videos or pictures of a stranger, it's harmless.
When they start viewing naked pictures of women they know, it can lead to problems.
I'd have a big problem if my husband did this.

what do you think this will lead to? exactly what in your mind you think is going on in your husbands head if he's looking a pics his friends sends of some woman hes fucking? you think hes going to seek more photos via your friend? will he start working with his friend to see if the girl can send more racy photos? do you think it will lead to cheating?

and even if he meets this woman, its his friend who is fucking her. guys dont share photos with the idea of sharing the woman with the friend.

i guess im trying to understand what in your mind you think is going on if your husband gets pics from his friend of a girl hes fucking. walk me through the path that a husband is going down that is apparently causing a problem in your marriage.

I'm generally very easygoing and chill about sex. I could care less if my husband watches porn or looks at pictures of naked women...as long as they are of people I have no chance of running into. I don't want to see or know these women. When they are videos or pictures of a stranger, it's harmless.
When they start viewing naked pictures of women they know, it can lead to problems.
I'd have a big problem if my husband did this.

I'd be very bothered by him saying 'send more'... mostly because you can be reasonably certain that the woman did not consent to having her pic shared. That's a dick move on the friend's part. I'd be bothered if my DH didn't put the kibosh on that.

And 40 year old men have no business acting like sex-crazed teenagers. Grow the fuck up already.

if he did anything wrong its that he kept the pics on the phone archived in the text history of the convo. i would have deleted them after seeing them and not for reasons of "hiding it from my wife". pics like that shouldnt be hanging around on my phone past any conversation of said topic with my friends. that i will agree with.

Anonymous wrote:My husband would never have naked photos of other women on his phone.

Never say never

It tells you more about what a douche DH's friend is IMO (DH here).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be most bothered by the violation of the non-girlfriend's trust and your husband's role in that.

I agree. Does the woman know that he is sending naked photos of her to other men?

If it were me, it would really bother me, and I would mention it to my husband (and I have a good marriage). I would probably also lose some respect for the friend.

but you get that your DH's friend doesn't care about that.

And this is no different than ladies sharing dick pics of their BF with their GFs.

if the friend is single, why lose respect for him. hes dating around and fucking women. i have single friends like this. this is what goes on these days and im not talking as a 20 something. im late 30s.

so long as the hubby is sharing any pics of his own, of the wife or otherwise, its two friends talking shit. some of you need to step back and not get all emotional and crazy about this.

if he shared a picture of this woman, the guy clearly doesnt see her a wife potential or anything more than a fuck. it is what it is.

guys who respect their wife/girlfriend/etc are not sending nude pics or sharing racy photos of any kind with their friends.

sure its "bad" and "wrong" to spread pics like that and the woman on her end should know who shes sending pics to and shouldnt assume they wont be shared if theres any question about the man.