Anonymous wrote:When you told him the bedroom was a bad idea, he recognized that you are looking for something more than a sexual relationship, and he's clearly not interested in the same. If you do get together again, and you have sex, you may have some fun but I highly doubt he would become your BF. You are looking for different things, and he has behaved disrespectfully toward you. if you weren't so sexually attracted to him you'd probably never want to speak to him again.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- thanks for all of the input.

We weren't suppose to have dinner at his house originally, we were going to meet out. The majority of that day I was at a funeral and he knew I had an emotional day. He text me while at the service and asked me if I'd be up for him making me this dish he had told me about earlier. In all honesty, I was tired from two days of funeral events that actually not going out to a restaraunt sounded great. Sex really was the last thing on my mind. We had a lot of great conversation, we started kissing and some heavy petting...mostly him playing with my breasts. he asked if I like to go to the bedroom and I said, no I thought it was a bad idea, that I didn't think we should have sex that night. . He was fine with that. We talked more, drank more wine and kissed more. Finally I said that I needed to head home, it was getting late and he was fine - we actually texted for awhile once I got home. It was a few days later that things started getting really icy. I'm far from naive or a prude and actually have slept with some guys on the first or second date....I just wasn't up to it. Maybe I led him on my kissing him but it's not like I was playing with his junk and then backed off. I didn't. All clothes on both of us stayed on. I talked to him on the phone two days afterwards and he debated me on everything I said, picked on me - seemed he was looking for a fight. The thing is I'm very attracted to him and probably would've slept with him next time I saw him. That night just wasn't the night.

I sent him brief text the next 2 days after our icy phone conversation, he would reply but very brief. I didn't text him yesterday or today and he hadn't text me. I may be crazy but I'd actually like to see him again. But at this point I'm not even sure what to say. I do think that if he's pissed that I didn't sleep with him because he thought I owed it to him, then it does show his true colors. Also, he's a very high ranking retired military officer and I think he's very use to getting his way. Which means he probably acts this way every time he doesn't get his way?

Ok, with that context, my best advice is to back off and move on. No matter how much you like him, if you don't back off you will end up chasing him, then he will sleep with you, then dump you. He resents what happened and, as a man I am almost certain this will not end well if you persist.

Move on.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- thanks for all of the input.

We weren't suppose to have dinner at his house originally, we were going to meet out. The majority of that day I was at a funeral and he knew I had an emotional day. He text me while at the service and asked me if I'd be up for him making me this dish he had told me about earlier. In all honesty, I was tired from two days of funeral events that actually not going out to a restaraunt sounded great. Sex really was the last thing on my mind. We had a lot of great conversation, we started kissing and some heavy petting...mostly him playing with my breasts. he asked if I like to go to the bedroom and I said, no I thought it was a bad idea, that I didn't think we should have sex that night. . He was fine with that. We talked more, drank more wine and kissed more. Finally I said that I needed to head home, it was getting late and he was fine - we actually texted for awhile once I got home. It was a few days later that things started getting really icy. I'm far from naive or a prude and actually have slept with some guys on the first or second date....I just wasn't up to it. Maybe I led him on my kissing him but it's not like I was playing with his junk and then backed off. I didn't. All clothes on both of us stayed on. I talked to him on the phone two days afterwards and he debated me on everything I said, picked on me - seemed he was looking for a fight. The thing is I'm very attracted to him and probably would've slept with him next time I saw him. That night just wasn't the night.

I sent him brief text the next 2 days after our icy phone conversation, he would reply but very brief. I didn't text him yesterday or today and he hadn't text me. I may be crazy but I'd actually like to see him again. But at this point I'm not even sure what to say. I do think that if he's pissed that I didn't sleep with him because he thought I owed it to him, then it does show his true colors. Also, he's a very high ranking retired military officer and I think he's very use to getting his way. Which means he probably acts this way every time he doesn't get his way?

Anonymous wrote:Men, this is why you only act cool with women until you have sex with them, aka you get what YOU want.

Anonymous wrote:Too much missing from this story.

The guy might have been led on. OP needs to connect for us how things moved from an acceptance for a dinner date, making out (on the sofa), and then put a cold stop to things progressing organically.

Every person, BOTH MEN AND WOMEN have a right to say yes or no to sex, but OP has omitted too much from this account for me to attempt painting this guy's true colors. He could have been a perfect gentleman, felt like things were right, and then can't handle the embarrassment/insult of rejection because OP checked out.

So OP has to be more forthcoming here.