Anonymous wrote:I agree the sport is great. What happens when you have a terrible coach? My son missed practice and texted the coach that he would miss the am practice. Unfortunately, the number was wrong so it never got to him. Now my DC is off the 1st boat and probably won't race this coming weekend. They won't even put him on the novice boat. He has been in purgatory this whole week. The coach will not acknowledge him at practice. The sad thing is my DC crewed this summer and this fall to get ready for his first spring crew season. He is the only one who has experience among the Freshman team. Character building ? Stick it out hopefully the tide changes.
Though I don't condone moving him out of the boats, at least I understand there could be a rationale - if the coach is making the point that showing up is the most important thing, then you just have to live with it. I certainly don't understand the silent treatment, though. That's just terrible coaching. The coach should explain the rationale - assuming there is one - and tell your son what he can expect moving forward regarding boatings.
That being said, just stick with it! In the grand scheme of things, freshman year means little - there is by far the biggest attrition between freshman and sophomore year, as people who realized crew is not really for them will not return.
I don't necessarily believe that being subjected to poor coaching character-building. But having the determination to stick with things through time tough times is character-building. Plus, if he keeps on showing up and giving his best effort, even if he's not in the top boat, the coach will see that and begin to believe that the missed practice was truly an unavoidable thing and not an indicator of lack of commitment.