I have two sisters, one older and one younger who look much better than me. It's never been a problem for me. But I grew up in a culture where book smarts was the most important thing. We are all smart, but I was the smartest.

The irony is they are both more professionally successful even though I was the best test taker. They worked harder than I did since I never had to study to do excellent until grad school, and they developed great work ethic earlier on in life than I did.

I don't think I have ever been jealous of anyone in my life. I know that everyone has their struggles, and I wouldn't trade mone for someone else's.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister is three years younger than me and was always the one that boys chased after and she let them catch her. She is very arty and stylish while I am more of the girl next door type with an MBA. Now we are both in our 50's and people think I'm the younger sister as she hasn't aged well and I still look pretty darn good. I've been happily married for 30+ years with three great kids. Her first marriage at 35 lasted 10 years and was miserable. Fortunately she is now happily remarried but struggling financially. Whatever jealousy I had back then is long gone.

Yuck, what an evil person you are.

I am not picking up on evil,

i am the loud, talkative, notvery good at studies and the one they say to shut up at times too!!

i have older sister 2 years older than me we have pretty similar height but ITS ALL ABOUT GENETICS i took after me father i am kind of darker, thicker, fatter, and someone who have always loved eating food on the other hand my sister takes after my mother she have pale skin, slender figure and is also very good academically and tbh we share the same room and it been forever that we have shared our clothes i am now 18 and she is 20 even if we wear the same clothes i would look so horrible and in the same attire she would be called too pretty

we are so different even after born from the same parents tbh i have always liked my sister for the way she is i don`t hate her but i hate myself now to the point that everytime i look at her i can`t help but compare myself from her
I HATE MYSELF FOR THAT

I am the pretty sister, my sister is more successful and she has bullied me since i can remember and still does. We are in our 50s and her resentment still festers. I avoid her now. Pretty is as pretty does.

Anonymous wrote:My sister is three years younger than me and was always the one that boys chased after and she let them catch her. She is very arty and stylish while I am more of the girl next door type with an MBA. Now we are both in our 50's and people think I'm the younger sister as she hasn't aged well and I still look pretty darn good. I've been happily married for 30+ years with three great kids. Her first marriage at 35 lasted 10 years and was miserable. Fortunately she is now happily remarried but struggling financially. Whatever jealousy I had back then is long gone.

Yuck, what an evil person you are.

My sister is three years younger than me and was always the one that boys chased after and she let them catch her. She is very arty and stylish while I am more of the girl next door type with an MBA. Now we are both in our 50's and people think I'm the younger sister as she hasn't aged well and I still look pretty darn good. I've been happily married for 30+ years with three great kids. Her first marriage at 35 lasted 10 years and was miserable. Fortunately she is now happily remarried but struggling financially. Whatever jealousy I had back then is long gone.

My sisters are both prettier than me. But my sisters are such a part of me that i can't imagine being jealous of them. I am insecure about some things and am fairly competitive - just so glad this hasn't been an issue for me.

Do you hope to be a mother? Do you want to raise a daughter who's petty like this? Not a good thing, is it? Not good for others, not good for you

Looks aren't everything! If I were a teenager then maybe I could relate. But in my 30s, seriously, it's not the most important thing in life. Is your sister a good person and a good sister to you? Is she a good aunt to your children? My sister and I are 1 year apart and are both pretty without being stunningly beautiful. But I honestly couldn't care less how "hot" guys think she is because she's an incredible person, a wonderful wife, mom, sister, daughter, aunt, etc. Try focusing on her as a person rather than just her looks.

Some of the sad people in this thread remind me of my sister. She has been overweight all her life and is currently 60lbs heavier and 4 inches shorter. We come from a very unkind family in which she was called fat and her looks were negatively compared to mine. But I was also mocked and constantly attacked as "the mean one." The difference is that she wrapped her entire self-esteem around the insults she received and it made her a jealous and bitter person. When we were younger, I looked out for her, I took care of her, and I even went as far as to be the one to take on all her college tours and pay her application fees even though I'm only five years older.

Nonetheless, she kept striking out at me and betraying my trust, trying to get even with me for insults she had received that had nothing to do with me. Now, we are acquaintances at best. She now tells me she misses our closeness and that she is very lonely. I am not moved. My husband and kids are my family and I keep her and her issues at arm's length. Be careful how you let jealousy and bitterness poison your relationships.

I am 8 years younger than my older adoptive sister. She has never made one nice comment to me. When I was growing up, I was not that pretty, but now I'm often told I'm very beautiful and get a lot of compliments. When I was growing up she was told she was pretty a lot and I was relatively unnoticed. But now the tables have changed and she has become nastier and nastier. It was easy for her to be nice to me when she thought she was better looking than me. It really hurts. Please be nice to your sister. Just remember that beauty is not everlasting on the outside. How you treat people will be remembered for many years to come.

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely - although the age difference between us is 8 years. But she was always slender, beautiful, popular, sought after by men, etc...

I am significantly heavier, far less attractive to or skilled with the opposite sex, and have always felt like the ugly duckling next to her.

But. Now we're both in our 40's (opposite ends of the decade). I'm happily married w/ two healthy kids. She's extremely unhappily married w/ one deeply messed up stepchild, one young kid who is being slowly destroyed by the chaotic/nasty home environment, and ongoing significant health/emotional problems.

As it turns out, I'm the lucky one. So try not to let the green eyed monster run your world.

Go live your life. Do things that you love and that are totally separate from her. Focus on having as much fun and getting as much out of life as you can. Trust that it will all turn out as it should.

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Your feelings are normal and natural. Just try not to assume things are always "easy" or that she is somehow necessarily an expert or more knowledgeable.

Focus on what makes you an engaging, respectable, and interesting person. Cultivate those parts of yourself. Know that as long as you are healthy and in shape and take care of yourself, you are likely very attractive too.

Well, age is a great equalizer. Pregnancy was really hard on my sister because she was "so fat" (she was not), and now at 42 she is one of those women who constantly posts wide-eyed, ridiculously contrived selfies on Facebook fishing for compliments. She is literally unable to take a picture of her kid without sticking her face in it. It's weird.

She is still very pretty but after years of getting positive attention for her looks it is sad that she seems to be kind of clinging to that instead of growing up and working on her self worth outside of her appearance.

Definitely don't let your sister's appearance define you. Life is short. Find worthwhile issues to focus on.

My Irish Twin younger sister was Homecoming Queen. Yes, I can relate. No, I don't lose any sleep over it. She can't take credit for her natural beauty any more than I can take credit for my, well, whatever. It is what it is and you get what you get...but it is important to make the most of what you have so I've never let it stop me from being the best me I can.