Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:41     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Anonymous wrote:Don't we read the EXACT OPPOSITE ISSUE regularly here, where men are told to "man up" and not be so insecure about a woman's past (gangbangs, threesomes, weird shit)?

Men are then referred to as losers for not having an equally exciting past.

Therefore, on behalf of all men who have been berated for this EXACT question, STFU.


There's a big difference between sluts and cheaters. Sorry. I have a high tolerance for slutty behavior. I have less tolerance for cheaters and their affair partners.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:41     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Feeling glad i don't know what you are talking about...cuckold, ran a train, bdsm.
And I thought I was lost in the food forum...pate', making a rue, soft boil
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:33     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Anonymous wrote:He's not an escort. He's traveled for his job all over the country. He met majority of these women at bars, craiglist, and other hookup sites.


Which means he was trolling for it. If highly suspect sex addiction. Not sure if that can be "cured". Just depends on if you can trust him. I wouldn't.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:30     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Jeff tries to avoid use of the F word on the non-explicit forums, so your post may get deleted too.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:29     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
The 50 women wouldn't bother me as much as that they are married and some cuckold. How was he meeting these people? Was he on some sex site? This seems to me that he was some sort of escort or addict or something. If probably just move along if you aren't too emotionally invested.
I'd also assume that he's been with men.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:22     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Why was the description of cuckholding deleted? It was frank and accurate. It involves fucking a man's wife in front of him.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:22     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You ought to see what he has going on that has all the girls so interested.


yeah like what diseases he's walking around with? If this guy has been with all these women, you don't think he's got at least one thing that you are going to catch?

He doesn't respect the vows, OP. He's got no boundaries. In fact, sounds like he's telling you all this not in an attempt to 'fess up and start clean, but as a way to push past your boundaries--to hear what you've been up to in the past (and get off on breaking that boundary), and move you past other boundaries you may have, all to satisfy his sexual insatiability. Because that's what it is--he's insatiable--and that's why you should break up, because whatever you have to offer will never be enough for him, so you want to break it off before he uses you up and dumps you.


uh, these people are in their late 20s. I think this is a bit much. People do change over time, especially in how they express themselves sexually. I would hate to be judged by the way I acted 25 years ago since it is such a poor reflection of who I am today (or even who I was 20 years ago).
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:18     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Anonymous wrote:My new guy of two months wanted to discuss sexual past experiences this past weekend. He divulged to me that he slept with at least 50 married women, some cheaters, some cuckold. I can't fathom sleeping with a married man, regardless of the situation. I believe the past should be the the past but I am disgusted and don't know d I could move past this.


What's his secret?
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:00     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Anonymous wrote:You ought to see what he has going on that has all the girls so interested.


yeah like what diseases he's walking around with? If this guy has been with all these women, you don't think he's got at least one thing that you are going to catch?

He doesn't respect the vows, OP. He's got no boundaries. In fact, sounds like he's telling you all this not in an attempt to 'fess up and start clean, but as a way to push past your boundaries--to hear what you've been up to in the past (and get off on breaking that boundary), and move you past other boundaries you may have, all to satisfy his sexual insatiability. Because that's what it is--he's insatiable--and that's why you should break up, because whatever you have to offer will never be enough for him, so you want to break it off before he uses you up and dumps you.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 16:22     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Ain't looking promising...
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 13:03     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Anonymous wrote:Up until this weekend I didn't know much about his sexual past and I didn't think it was my business to know. So long as he didn't had an STD.

He was and is a great guy. This sexual part is the only issue. I love rough sex and bdsm type stuff. That's not the issue. The issue is seeking out married women. He does have a fetish. He has also told me he did couples, threesomes, and ran a train on a woman. He has been single 4 years before I met him.


I'm the pp who recommended that you look at this as a kink and you've confirmed this. What you need to know is how he feels about this looking forward. So he wants to get serious with you and is coming clean. OK, now what? Is this how you're going to play together in the future? Would he give it up? If you don't know that, you can't decide whether or not to work to accept that this is his past. I know what I'm talking about--my DH was a monger.

Keep the lines of communication open, or end the relationship.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 12:38     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Sounds more like a sex addiction or something. In any event, it's the ethical side, not the sexual side, that would bother me.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 12:37     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
Anonymous wrote:He's not an escort. He's traveled for his job all over the country. He met majority of these women at bars, craiglist, and other hookup sites.

He sounds like a horny guy. If you like him, have at it and let your inhibitions go.
You might find yourself swinging soon.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 12:29     Subject: I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
This is a relationship. We are already exclusive. He says he is serious enough about me to be honest. I have only had one casuals experience when I was 21. I've also only been with 5 men in total compared to his 100+.

Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 12:08     Subject: Re:I can't get past my new guys sexual past.
gross