Anonymous
Post 04/01/2015 12:08     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
We stay in MIL and FIL home everytime we visit our hometown. They are always very friendly and welcoming. They have a full finished basement that we stay in when visiting and purchased new beds so we'd have our own separate bed from the kids. She is a great cook also. She is also a nurse and gave me some good advice when I was having health issues.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2015 19:25     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Anonymous wrote:MIL - who I haven't spoken to in 15 years and was the reason DH and I almost divorced ever week for years 3-8 of our marriage, smoked cigarettes and is opting out of a lung transplant.

She is a horrible woman.

Many of you who have posted are VERY lucky. I am green with envy.


That's awful. Your husband's mom is dying and this is what you post? Why are you so green with envy? It sounds as though you are finally getting what you want.

Remember - your MIL can not undo the past and two wrongs do not make a right. Be kind, or you might make memories that you will regret and that's all you will have,
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2015 19:13     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Anonymous wrote:MIL - who I haven't spoken to in 15 years and was the reason DH and I almost divorced ever week for years 3-8 of our marriage, smoked cigarettes and is opting out of a lung transplant.

She is a horrible woman.

Many of you who have posted are VERY lucky. I am green with envy.


Another negative post.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 23:06     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
MIL - who I haven't spoken to in 15 years and was the reason DH and I almost divorced ever week for years 3-8 of our marriage, smoked cigarettes and is opting out of a lung transplant.

She is a horrible woman.

Many of you who have posted are VERY lucky. I am green with envy.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 17:44     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had an injury where I was essentially on bed rest at home for a few days. MIL came the very next day after it happened, cleaned my house, did my laundry, and the rest of my chores that I save for the weekend, and went with me to the doctor to be my advocate (she is a nurse). On top of that, she does her best to not intrude or give unwanted advice, she's always supportive of my family, and loves DS very much. Man, I'm going to call her tomorrow!


Why was your house such a mess that it needed cleaning? Why do you let your laundry pile up? I would never have allowed my MIL to be my maid. You should keep your house reasonably clean or hire a maid.


This makes me LOL. I can just imagine you sitting there with a scowl on your face typing this.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 16:02     Subject: Re:What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Quit her job so she could provide childcare for my kids until they reach school age. They both go to pre-school now but she is there to pick them up and watch them until I get home. She was also incredibly supportive of my decision to be a working mom, unlike my own mother who makes digs at my choices all the time.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 09:20     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
I'd like to bookmark this thread for when I'm a MIL. Though I will say, just being kind and welcoming seems to go pretty far. Also recognizing that your DIL is a good mom/wife and telling her so. Huge things. I'd LOVE to hear either thing from my MIL and I'm also pretty sure I never will.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2015 09:14     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Anonymous wrote:MIL and FIL cleaned up our first apartment in prep for a local move to our first house. I was sixth months pregnant and very ill.



This is great. I shouldn't chime in and ruin everything. But I had the exact opposite happen with my MIL. While 6 months pregnant and moving from an apt to our first home she kept asking how she could help over and over again. I finally asked her to help clean the apt when we moved out. She told me I was treating her like a maid. I cleaned the apt myself.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2015 18:19     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Mine is not a warm person and does not do babysitting or cooking, but she takes us to dinner and provides financially for the kids without strings/guilt. She is also good with birthday cards and holiday cards - never misses. And she hands out compliments on our home, my appearance, etc that I appreciate.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2015 18:01     Subject: Re:What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
MIL spent one year making a beautiful cross-stitch piece for me. She is the sweetest and most nurturing woman. DH still talks to her on the phone a few hours a week. I think she builds him up.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2015 15:58     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Anonymous wrote:My MIL calls me her daughter in love. Cheesy but v sweet


That is so cute. Thank you for keeping this thread uplifting! It's good to know that their are so many nice MILs (and moms) out there and DILs who appreciate them.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2015 15:33     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Anonymous wrote:So, basically, as long as they provide free childcare, clean and cook for you, tell you how wonderful you are, then you have a good MIL.


Well, if you're going to be negative about it, the converse is that I'm considered a good DIL for bailing her and FIL out of medical bills, paying for their flights to come visit their grandchildren, and not getting involved when they lobby my husband to come live with us indefinitely.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2015 14:12     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
My MIL calls me her daughter in love. Cheesy but v sweet
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2015 13:28     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had an injury where I was essentially on bed rest at home for a few days. MIL came the very next day after it happened, cleaned my house, did my laundry, and the rest of my chores that I save for the weekend, and went with me to the doctor to be my advocate (she is a nurse). On top of that, she does her best to not intrude or give unwanted advice, she's always supportive of my family, and loves DS very much. Man, I'm going to call her tomorrow!


Why was your house such a mess that it needed cleaning? Why do you let your laundry pile up? I would never have allowed my MIL to be my maid. You should keep your house reasonably clean or hire a maid.


Why are you turning a positive post into a negative one, pp? Are you really that unhappy? She has a wonderful MIL and it's nice to hear her story.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2015 00:59     Subject: What's the best thing your MIL has done for you?
Anonymous wrote:I had an injury where I was essentially on bed rest at home for a few days. MIL came the very next day after it happened, cleaned my house, did my laundry, and the rest of my chores that I save for the weekend, and went with me to the doctor to be my advocate (she is a nurse). On top of that, she does her best to not intrude or give unwanted advice, she's always supportive of my family, and loves DS very much. Man, I'm going to call her tomorrow!


Why was your house such a mess that it needed cleaning? Why do you let your laundry pile up? I would never have allowed my MIL to be my maid. You should keep your house reasonably clean or hire a maid.