Anonymous
03/25/2015 17:44
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:DS is named after his grandfathers: Thomas Edward D****. We call him Teddy because my late father (Edward) went by Ted and his initials are TED and since DH and his father are Tom and Thomas. SIL (DH's sister) is having a baby boy due this summer and just announced that she is naming him Theodore (not a family name on either side) and plans on calling him Teddy. MIL, who for once seems to be on "our" side, pointed out that Theo is a cute nickname for Theodore, but is pretty against SIL using it. DS and his cousin will be growing up together in close proximity. We all live in the area and see each other almost weekly. I haven't said anything (other than to DH), but I'm just ridiculously annoyed by it all. I guess I'm not really looking for any advice, just wanted to vent!
We had cousins with the same name growing up. It wasn't a big deal.
Anonymous
03/25/2015 16:53
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
My cousin is Robert. Named for his grandfather and his uncle (my father). A few years later my brother was born and was named Robert (once again for grandfather and my dad). Both were called Bobby as kids. Nobody was ever confused as to which one was which. Now as adults they use different names: cousin is still Bobby, brother is a nickname from school.
Anonymous
03/25/2015 16:53
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Dude, I hope your SIL doesn't read DCUM, because this is some really specific info you've given here.
Anonymous
03/25/2015 15:47
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:How, exactly, does this hurt you, in any way? I'm genuinely curious. You are annoyed that she is using one of the two common nicknames for Theodore, which is a perfectly normal name, which happens to be the much more convoluted nickname for your kid, whose name is Thomas. So there will be two cousins nicknamed Teddy. And this is so awful, why?
It's not too late to start calling your son Tommy
Anonymous
03/25/2015 15:43
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Growing up a good friend's dad married one of his old friend's (second marriage). They were such good friends before marrying each other they had both named their kids Melinda and Garret. So the blended family had big and little Melinda and big and little Garret. There was one extra kid with his own name. Everyone survived.
That is downright bizarre!
I know someone named Kari whose parents divorced when she was young. Her dad remarried and had more kids and named one of them--Kari.
You win the thread. Holy crap.
Anonymous
03/25/2015 14:54
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
How, exactly, does this hurt you, in any way? I'm genuinely curious. You are annoyed that she is using one of the two common nicknames for Theodore, which is a perfectly normal name, which happens to be the much more convoluted nickname for your kid, whose name is Thomas. So there will be two cousins nicknamed Teddy. And this is so awful, why?
Anonymous
03/25/2015 13:20
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:This is annoying for sure. Super annoying. I would make a big deal over how touched you are that they are naming their baby after your baby..."Oh my, that's so sweet you want to honor our Teddy by using his name!".
Except OP's kid's name is Thomas. FYI, OP, you may think you were super clever coming up with this nickname, but Teddys are a dime a dozen and your kid probably won't want to be "Teddy" forever.
OP, it's stressful enough being pregnant. If God forbid something happens to your SIL's baby at the same time you are holding on to this grudge, you will be the biggest wanker ever. Focus on the big picture and be glad two cousins will grow up together.
Anonymous
03/25/2015 12:36
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:Start calling her unborn child "Teddy JUNIOR!" or "LITTLE TEDDY!" in an excited voice every time you see her. She'll name him something else I guarantee it.
Please don't try to do passive aggressive crap. Also, OP, this isn't something that needs "sides." Let it go.
I've always loved the name Teddy, and having two to love, what could be better?
Anonymous
03/25/2015 12:31
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:This is annoying for sure. Super annoying. I would make a big deal over how touched you are that they are naming their baby after your baby..."Oh my, that's so sweet you want to honor our Teddy by using his name!".
Don't do this. You're putting your SIL in the position of having to silently take your crap, or say that they aren't doing it to honor your kid. Your SIL knows perfectly well that you call your son "Teddy." You don't own the nickname. Either she'll change her mind and name the kid something else or nickname him Theo, or she won't. Having cousins with different names who use the same nickname is really not the end of the world. Just call them Big Teddy and Little Teddy, or Teddy One and Teddy Two. I had a cousin with the same name as me. It caused zero issues.
Anonymous
03/25/2015 12:31
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:This is annoying for sure. Super annoying. I would make a big deal over how touched you are that they are naming their baby after your baby..."Oh my, that's so sweet you want to honor our Teddy by using his name!".
Except that SIL is not naming her baby after OP's DS. SIL is just naming her baby Teddy!
I hope OP realizes that there are millions of Teddy's in the world!
This has to be one of the dumbest ass things to be worried about.
DUMB
ASS!!!
Anonymous
03/25/2015 11:31
Subject: Re:SIL Baby Name Woes
My first cousin is a week younger and we were both named after our late grandmother. Growing up, we lived on the same street, went to the same school, and had many common friends. People often referred to us as "Larlas". I don't remember having any problems or discomfort of having the same name. It's just a small part of one's identity.
Anonymous
03/25/2015 11:27
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
This is annoying for sure. Super annoying. I would make a big deal over how touched you are that they are naming their baby after your baby..."Oh my, that's so sweet you want to honor our Teddy by using his name!".
Anonymous
03/25/2015 11:26
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Growing up a good friend's dad married one of his old friend's (second marriage). They were such good friends before marrying each other they had both named their kids Melinda and Garret. So the blended family had big and little Melinda and big and little Garret. There was one extra kid with his own name. Everyone survived.
That is downright bizarre!
I know someone named Kari whose parents divorced when she was young. Her dad remarried and had more kids and named one of them--Kari.
I hope he also helped fund Kari #1's therapy bills. What a jerk!
Anonymous
03/25/2015 11:23
Subject: SIL Baby Name Woes
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Growing up a good friend's dad married one of his old friend's (second marriage). They were such good friends before marrying each other they had both named their kids Melinda and Garret. So the blended family had big and little Melinda and big and little Garret. There was one extra kid with his own name. Everyone survived.
That is downright bizarre!
I know someone named Kari whose parents divorced when she was young. Her dad remarried and had more kids and named one of them--Kari.
Anonymous
03/25/2015 11:17
Subject: Re:SIL Baby Name Woes
It's a little strange, but there's not much you can do. I'd say let it go and try to make the best of it.