I'm surprised so many people thought this was no big deal.

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ps OP: my friend was dating a habitual felon and sending him sexy time pics her was requesting in various, um, action poses. I advised she peruse his inmate record before she sent him any more images and she became angry. After telling me all this. That's when I decided I did not want to her about her private life anymore and distance myself. Too much drama.

So, it could be worse.

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I'm very happily married. However, I've been having to "save her" from bad male decisions since college. Whether is almost going home with a random creepy guy from a bar in college or wanting to marry the first guy who says yes. And when she does go home with the guy she blames me the next day! So yes I'm the mother hen but I also have to be.

I have a friend like this too OP. Not your fault. I have had to stop being the "saver" and just let her screw up, partially because she was blaming me for her bad decisions. Just tell her "you would not do this, but it is her life and she can do what she wants. You can not save her and it is not your fault afterwards."

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I'm very happily married. However, I've been having to "save her" from bad male decisions since college. Whether is almost going home with a random creepy guy from a bar in college or wanting to marry the first guy who says yes. And when she does go home with the guy she blames me the next day! So yes I'm the mother hen but I also have to be.

Maybe you need to have kids. Then you can be a real mother hen. The shit you're doing now is for you. You seem to enjoy her life much more than your own.

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I'm very happily married. However, I've been having to "save her" from bad male decisions since college. Whether is almost going home with a random creepy guy from a bar in college or wanting to marry the first guy who says yes. And when she does go home with the guy she blames me the next day! So yes I'm the mother hen but I also have to be.

You've assigned yourself mother hen role but by no means do you 'have to' take it. If she makes a decision you don't agree with tell her there is only so much of the aftermath you will listen to. You don't have to be involved in her dramas unless you want to. And it's sounds like you really get off on trying to put her pieces back together. Maybe it makes you feel like you aren't a mess, I don't know, but stop. That's not how real friendships go.

OP these are just flamers. Don't take it too seriously. You told your friend you don't think it's a good move, that's why you're a good friend. You tell it like you see it, not taking the easy say nothing, don't rock the boat politically gentle way out. It's all you can do, your friend has the decision to make.

You're fine.

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I'm very happily married. However, I've been having to "save her" from bad male decisions since college. Whether is almost going home with a random creepy guy from a bar in college or wanting to marry the first guy who says yes. And when she does go home with the guy she blames me the next day! So yes I'm the mother hen but I also have to be.

You don't have to be. It doesn't sound like you are helping her. You sound incredibly annoying.

Actually, I'm very happily married. However, I've been having to "save her" from bad male decisions since college. Whether is almost going home with a random creepy guy from a bar in college or wanting to marry the first guy who says yes. And when she does go home with the guy she blames me the next day! So yes I'm the mother hen but I also have to be.

If you dislike the way she behaves, you can stop being her friend and explain why.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I texted her will night last night and no response. She still hasn't reutned my texts or calls and its almost 10am. Even if she convinced me she didn't sleep with him I know she spent the night there.

You seem overly invested in your friend's life. Live your own life, focus on your own problems.

Yep. OP, you sound crazy.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I texted her will night last night and no response. She still hasn't reutned my texts or calls and its almost 10am. Even if she convinced me she didn't sleep with him I know she spent the night there.

OP, you just want the details. Get a life or a man of your own. I feel very sorry for you.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I texted her will night last night and no response. She still hasn't reutned my texts or calls and its almost 10am. Even if she convinced me she didn't sleep with him I know she spent the night there.

You seem overly invested in your friend's life. Live your own life, focus on your own problems.

I have a number of married, male friends who I would drive 45 minutes to meet up for coffee or a drink with if they were in town. Baltimore is not far, at all.

The jealous friend who can't get laid attempting to cock block (or, at this point, hoping it just didn't happen). LOL.

Go away, fatty.