Your child should not have been throwing things in a community playroom. That's just not necessary and YOU need to intervene.

My son loves to throw stuff, too, but I redirect him when that behavior is inappropriate.

Anonymous wrote:If I was in that situation I really would have liked to hear what the nanny suggested, not just that I needed to "do something." I welcome help on difficult situations, especially if the person has lots of experience.

????

If a child is throwing blocks, you tell them don't throw blocks and then redirect them. You can show them a more appropriate use for the blocks. You can show them another toy to play with. You can take them out.

She should have been more polite (unless she already said something to you.) You should never let your kids throw toys when other kids are around .

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Anonymous wrote:She was. You kid was doing something that had no chance of harming anyone. Unless she's preventing someone from getting seriously hurt, it isn't her place.

Haha, that's a good one. Oh, you were serious?

Really. I love the "it wasn't her place".


BTW, OP, I would have been far, far ruder if I sat there and watched you do NOTHING while your brat was throwing blocks in a community playroom. You got off easy.

You were.

Anonymous wrote:She was. You kid was doing something that had no chance of harming anyone. Unless she's preventing someone from getting seriously hurt, it isn't her place.

This might be true-ish if she said something rude directly to the kid, but she approached his mother. As she should. Also, no good nanny/mother/caregiver should be satisfied that your two year old they don't know has "good aim."

Anonymous wrote:She was. You kid was doing something that had no chance of harming anyone. Unless she's preventing someone from getting seriously hurt, it isn't her place.

Haha, that's a good one. Oh, you were serious?

She was. You kid was doing something that had no chance of harming anyone. Unless she's preventing someone from getting seriously hurt, it isn't her place.

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Anonymous wrote:If I was in that situation I really would have liked to hear what the nanny suggested, not just that I needed to "do something." I welcome help on difficult situations, especially if the person has lots of experience.

It's your own child and you need a suggestion from a stranger? How about taking the blocks away and telling him firmly that that is not allowed. What is wrong with everyone? It's like you're scared of your own children disliking you for disciplining them. If you don't want to discipline, then you need to keep a child like that at home.

It takes a village.

Anonymous wrote:You were in the wrong - the child shouldn't be throwing blocks in the library. I wouldn't have said anything though if I was the nanny, I would just have picked up my kid and moved them to another area.

Me too. And where are all of these libraries with playrooms? I hear about them on DCUM but have never actually seen one.

I love how OP posted this, probably hoping that everyone would flock to her side and tell her how wrong that nanny was for daring to speak to her about her precious little snowflake, only to have almost everyone agree that she was in the wrong.

Seriously. How can you possibly think that letting your child throw blocks around at the library is ok? It doesn't matter that they were soft or that no other kids were around. Don't let your kid throw things indoors.

Your kid shouldn't have been throwing them. The fact that anyone felt they had to say something should be your clue.

Enjoy your son's energy, but also teach him appropriate behavior. I had one like yours too. He would not have been allowed to throw anything in that sort of a setting. Blocks weren't thrown anywhere.

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The nanny sounds like a keeper. She did now cower and look the other way. She actually spoke up. The horror!

+1

Anonymous wrote:Even if the blocks weren't going to hit anybody, the library isn't the place for that kind of play. Even energetic little children can learn what kind of activities are ok in what kind of settings - it's just part of helping them learn how to be good neighbors in the world.

But the nanny definitely could have been kinder about what she said. It sounds like she waited to say something until she was fed up - sorry nanny, ESP doesn't work!

Nonsense. OP is dense. I would have said the same as the nanny but worse.

Even if the blocks weren't going to hit anybody, the library isn't the place for that kind of play. Even energetic little children can learn what kind of activities are ok in what kind of settings - it's just part of helping them learn how to be good neighbors in the world.

But the nanny definitely could have been kinder about what she said. It sounds like she waited to say something until she was fed up - sorry nanny, ESP doesn't work!