I say go do some counseling.

DW was doing some complaining to me a few months ago (even though I work all day as the sole income AND put in a good solid 50% on that "third shift" work. No crap...I cook dinner and basically pull my full weight with the kids in the afternoon/evening) I said "I'm glad to go do some counseling if you think that would help us, no problem" I was serious, I'm always about self improvement.

She quieted right up and things have been going just great since.

Anonymous wrote:I kind of hear what you're saying. But, we are talking basic tasks here (in your examples). If you don't want to be treated like the bumbling fathers, as I often hear on this Board, then act like. Learn to not shrink the laundry by drying it. Learn to make a stinking grilled cheese, guys. It's not rocket science. Sorry, but I have not patience for the martyr card.

I understand what you're saying- however, you should have patience of some mistakes while your partner is learning a skill that's outside their area of comfort/expertise. Very few people can move from bumbling to advanced level at the flip of a switch.

If I try and make a mistake- I get grief. If I don't try- I still get grief but its less frequent and I don't have to try.

If you don't want to be treated like the nagging bitch, as I so often hear on this Board, then act like. Take some responsibility for your role in the dynamic as well.