Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In THE ACT, in our bedroom. I opened the door, saw, closed the door and walked out. He called me to say i didn't see what i saw. I really don't get the denial. I just don't get the break with reality. I mean, really? I don't get it.
I'm still shaking. I'm staying at a hotel for the week. I couldn't go back home. It's so surreal.
Why deny at this point?
Been there, OP. Sorry you had to see that. Even sorrier that your DH's reaction was to try to gaslight you to think you didn't see it. But, why the hell are you staying in a hotel? Go back to the house. Don't engage. Move your DH into a separate room or make him sleep on the sofa or move out. (Or maybe you want to move into a separate room
if you can't stomach the thought of sleeping in the same bed where they've been having sex.)
I promise you, you are shaking now, but in a few years, when all of this is over, you will laugh at the sheer insanity of him.
My DH did a lot of crazy things. And, now with the perspective of the rearview mirror, I laugh and marvel sometimes at how completely ridiculous he is.
Hope you will see the humor in it some day.