The obsession with thin is incorrect. I am thin, fit, and pretty. My husband left me for a fatter woman.

Altruism is very attractive.

OP here. I don't understand women who know they can make little tweaks in their life to make their man happier but choose not to. I'm not talking about changing your personality or get 5 plastic surgeries, I'm referring to being open to the idea of wanting to please your husband.

I'm too old fashioned, perhaps. I love dressing up for my husband sometimes, just so he can look at me anew and realize what a hottie I am. I like to occasionally treat him to a nice home cooked meal after a long day at work. I want to please him and make him happy since he does so much for me all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Can anyone seriously answer OPs question? First, assume no one is nagging, then . . .

Those *are* serious answers: be nice and don't get out-of-shape. That's truly is most of it. Men are very simple.

If you are an out-of-shape nag, it will not matter that you got your hair done, and a mani/pedi, or are wearing perfume, or a nice dress, or use x brand make-up vs y brand make-up.

I am in shape and generally nice, but wanted to take it up a notch. Without asking, so he doesn't know what hit him.

I honestly am not sure. I would have to think about it.

A woman who fulfills the first two criteria is basically a unicorn, so I'm not used to having the luxury of thinking of a #3.

Go back to enjoying your parents' basement, bitter misogynist.

Fatty and/or nag detected.

Anonymous wrote:Make me feel like I'm the most important guy in your life and that you're grateful for our marriage and the years committed to our family.

Translation: stop telling me I'm not fun whenever you're annoyed with me. Stop telling your friends that your marriage is a series of sacrifices. Recognize that your daily indulgence of your online crush is disrespectful to me and it makes me insecure.

You're beautiful. I love you. Stop dismissing my feelings.

oh love this!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a DH who volunteers at my kids school once a month. Whenever I go there and see the other mothers I return home so grateful foe my beautiful wife. She exercises daily, eats healthy, is thin, strong, and as a result sexy as hell. I truly am shocked at the physical condition of these other similar aged mothers.

Where do you live??

My kids school is like a mommy-war competition for who can be the hottest. Don't even get me started on the pool during the summer.

I think there are 2 kinds of moms...those who go all out and those who stopped giving a shit.

I am a man who cannot stand mommy war women. Too damn phony and superficial.

Anonymous wrote:Make me feel like I'm the most important guy in your life and that you're grateful for our marriage and the years committed to our family.

Translation: stop telling me I'm not fun whenever you're annoyed with me. Stop telling your friends that your marriage is a series of sacrifices. Recognize that your daily indulgence of your online crush is disrespectful to me and it makes me insecure.

You're beautiful. I love you. Stop dismissing my feelings.

Yikes. Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd rather be on my own and comfortable in my own skin than contort myself into someone else's ideal that always feels like a lot of work.

So, is this recent or have you been single your whole life?

I'm actually quite contentedly married these days. But I spend plenty of time single in my younger years, and was okay with the idea of never getting married if I didn't find someone who suited me. When I did, it was just a happy thing that enriched my life, not something that made it harder.

Do you have kids?

Yes, we have two kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate threads like this. What the hell are you thinking? Women don't exist to please men.

Here's what you're going to get: Be thin! Don't nag! Blow jobs every day! Wear high heels! Shorter skirts! No sweatpants! Do that awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight!

--happily married to man who wanted an equal partner, not a decorative Stepford wife.

And you'll be surprised and indignant when he leaves you for a younger, thinner woman who isn't obsessed with her asinine career and the feminist dogma of "equality".

Just because your career is asinine doesn't mean hers is. And if he leaves her because he wants someone thinner and stupid, then adios.

Make me feel like I'm the most important guy in your life and that you're grateful for our marriage and the years committed to our family.

Translation: stop telling me I'm not fun whenever you're annoyed with me. Stop telling your friends that your marriage is a series of sacrifices. Recognize that your daily indulgence of your online crush is disrespectful to me and it makes me insecure.

You're beautiful. I love you. Stop dismissing my feelings.

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Anonymous wrote:Can anyone seriously answer OPs question? First, assume no one is nagging, then . . .

Those *are* serious answers: be nice and don't get out-of-shape. That's truly is most of it. Men are very simple.

If you are an out-of-shape nag, it will not matter that you got your hair done, and a mani/pedi, or are wearing perfume, or a nice dress, or use x brand make-up vs y brand make-up.

I am in shape and generally nice, but wanted to take it up a notch. Without asking, so he doesn't know what hit him.

I honestly am not sure. I would have to think about it.

A woman who fulfills the first two criteria is basically a unicorn, so I'm not used to having the luxury of thinking of a #3.

Go back to enjoying your parents' basement, bitter misogynist.

Anonymous wrote:I hate threads like this. What the hell are you thinking? Women don't exist to please men.

Here's what you're going to get: Be thin! Don't nag! Blow jobs every day! Wear high heels! Shorter skirts! No sweatpants! Do that awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight!

--happily married to man who wanted an equal partner, not a decorative Stepford wife.

And you'll be surprised and indignant when he leaves you for a younger, thinner woman who isn't obsessed with her asinine career and the feminist dogma of "equality".

Anonymous wrote:I'm a DH who volunteers at my kids school once a month. Whenever I go there and see the other mothers I return home so grateful foe my beautiful wife. She exercises daily, eats healthy, is thin, strong, and as a result sexy as hell. I truly am shocked at the physical condition of these other similar aged mothers.

Where do you live??

My kids school is like a mommy-war competition for who can be the hottest. Don't even get me started on the pool during the summer.

I think there are 2 kinds of moms...those who go all out and those who stopped giving a shit.

Be fit and in shape. No, that doesn't mean skinny because skinny isn't always attractive (especially skinny-fat). But be fit. Of course, that also goes for men too but you asked about how women can be more attractive.

Be confident in yourself!