Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 19:07     Subject: Re:lack of sex
Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for any of the children that you two may create. I truly hope that this is a fake post.


That's cruel. You feel sorry for my future children because my husband drinks and can't get it up? My husband is a loving man and you don't even know us.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 18:54     Subject: Re:lack of sex
I feel sorry for any of the children that you two may create. I truly hope that this is a fake post.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 18:35     Subject: Re:lack of sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Did you guys ever have sex or was it just infrequently? We have been dealing with this problem since we were engaged. I had cold feet and almost called off the wedding.

Problem he is is my best friend and I took vows. I can't let him down by leaving him. It is hard though because I really want a normal sex life and to conceive naturally, if possible.


You are not alone.


But you are staying?


Why would I leave my DH who I love dearly? I partially blame infertility for these problems (performance anxiety drove down his sex drive) and we talk about how we hope things can get back on track after we have success via IVF.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 15:59     Subject: lack of sex
Anonymous wrote:You want a baby for all the wrong reasons.


Explain to me what the right reasons are vs wronf reasons? I'd love to have a family with my husband and care for a child.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 15:51     Subject: lack of sex
You want a baby for all the wrong reasons.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 15:41     Subject: lack of sex
You could have sex in the morning or when he first starts drinking. You don't have kids so just jump his bones anytime. There is no reason to wait until he comes to bed.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 15:28     Subject: lack of sex
Follow your gut and don't bring a kid into this mess.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 15:14     Subject: lack of sex
Anonymous wrote:No conceiving is the least of your worries right now. You can't say he loves alcohol more than you and drinks to the point of not being able to perform when you need him to in one breath and then say he is a good partner in the next.
Even putting the baby issue aside, you aren't having sex anywhere near as much as you'd like and he doesn't seem to care. This is pretty shabby behavior from a supposed best friend.


Yeah it is shitty. I hate that he withholds something from me that I really need from him.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 14:22     Subject: lack of sex
No conceiving is the least of your worries right now. You can't say he loves alcohol more than you and drinks to the point of not being able to perform when you need him to in one breath and then say he is a good partner in the next.
Even putting the baby issue aside, you aren't having sex anywhere near as much as you'd like and he doesn't seem to care. This is pretty shabby behavior from a supposed best friend.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 14:09     Subject: Re:lack of sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You care more about having a baby than your life and your husbands life. That is not good. You two are not in a good, healthy relationship to bring and raise a baby into this world. Please hold off on having a child to figure you two out together and individually.


I don't care more about having a baby! I'm not even sure I want a baby anymore. Outside of the lack of sex, we have a very healthy relationshios. We are best friends and great partners in life.


Yet it sounds like you both like the bottle.


That's what my therapist told me. She wants us to attend AA together.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 14:08     Subject: lack of sex
Anonymous wrote:As someone who had a baby with an alcoholic before she realized that yes, he was an alcoholic, don't do it. I love my son and our family, but we went through hell and back. You will end up being a single parent because your husband will not be able to functionally take care of your child. If your husband is having performance problems and passing asleep in a chair, I can pretty much guarantee you he's an alcoholic, and he's probably drinking more than you think he is. Stop trying to get pregnant and tell him you will not have a baby with him until he gets sober. And mean it.



OK. My husband is a functioning alcoholic if he's an alcoholic. By oassing out in a chair I mean at 2 am. He performs well at work, dies half of the housework and has good relationships with others.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 14:01     Subject: lack of sex
As someone who had a baby with an alcoholic before she realized that yes, he was an alcoholic, don't do it. I love my son and our family, but we went through hell and back. You will end up being a single parent because your husband will not be able to functionally take care of your child. If your husband is having performance problems and passing asleep in a chair, I can pretty much guarantee you he's an alcoholic, and he's probably drinking more than you think he is. Stop trying to get pregnant and tell him you will not have a baby with him until he gets sober. And mean it.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 13:55     Subject: Re:lack of sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You care more about having a baby than your life and your husbands life. That is not good. You two are not in a good, healthy relationship to bring and raise a baby into this world. Please hold off on having a child to figure you two out together and individually.


I don't care more about having a baby! I'm not even sure I want a baby anymore. Outside of the lack of sex, we have a very healthy relationshios. We are best friends and great partners in life.


Yet it sounds like you both like the bottle.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 13:52     Subject: Re:lack of sex
Anonymous wrote:You care more about having a baby than your life and your husbands life. That is not good. You two are not in a good, healthy relationship to bring and raise a baby into this world. Please hold off on having a child to figure you two out together and individually.


I don't care more about having a baby! I'm not even sure I want a baby anymore. Outside of the lack of sex, we have a very healthy relationshios. We are best friends and great partners in life.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2015 13:43     Subject: Re:lack of sex
You care more about having a baby than your life and your husbands life. That is not good. You two are not in a good, healthy relationship to bring and raise a baby into this world. Please hold off on having a child to figure you two out together and individually.