Anonymous
Post 01/26/2015 15:18     Subject: DH makes no effort to spend time with me
Anonymous wrote:OP - in your scenario you've just come back from dinner with DH. Wasn't that quality time? How much more attention do you need and what exactly is it you want him to do?
Also, is there any chance he is an only child and you are not? Some people like a little quiet "off" time by themselves, while others can't stand to be left to their own devices. So maybe it's just a personality difference?


This is an excellent point.

Also, OP, you need to talk to him and spell it out for him. Don't expect him to read your mind. That's not productive, and it's a lose-lose situation.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2015 15:02     Subject: DH makes no effort to spend time with me
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Anonymous wrote:It's probably not the attention alone - she probably wants him to want to pay attention to her. So, when he immediately checks out after dinner, it makes her feel like maybe he was just going through the motions at dinner -- undoing all of the positives of that dinner.
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I think if you're setting the bar for proving love and affection that high, you're setting yourself up for disappointment.


Sounds like when men get upset that their women are bored or aren't that into it during sex.


I don't know that I'd quite make that comparison. To me it sounds more like when a woman is having enthusiastic sex with her husband a few times a week, and instead of enjoying that he's pouting that he's not getting it more often.


No but some of them complain that "my wife wasn't into sex", it's only "duty" or "pity" sex. Wah wah wah. OP's complaint sounds much more legitimate, imo.




Anonymous
Post 01/26/2015 10:34     Subject: DH makes no effort to spend time with me
Agreed op, what do you want? There isn't much you can do this time of year, it's cold and nasty out. Also, how's your sex life? If it is bad, that coupled with the lack of effort means you have a problem. If he's into you physically and you're just in a rut, spring should cure it.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 18:02     Subject: DH makes no effort to spend time with me
Want do you want from him?

You aren't articulating it here.