Anonymous wrote:Wow. The negativity here is awful. It's hard to lose weight. A good permanent weight loss is life change diet forever and activity. It would be great if your husband told you what was bothering him and was supportive with a plan for the two of you to work on it. For God's sake, you just had a baby. Isn't there any compassion for what you just went through?

People, stop being so mean. It doesn't help, and it makes you all look like dicks.

She did NOT just have a baby. Re-read the OP. In fact, she has gained another 20 pounds since the baby was born!!
When it comes to losing weight, compassion is useless.
But diet and exercise works every time.
Simple law of physics: calories in - calories burned = weight loss/gain

She didn't ask for judgment. She asked what to do to lose weight. The nastiness is not helpful. Support and encouragement might be. Losing weight would likely ha e other health benefits besides your marriage and your confidence. It would help if husband was supportive.

Lose weight by making life changes that are permanent, not a quick fix in diet and activity.

Really, people, there is no excuse not to be polite. You're all using the excuse of "truth" to be asses. And you weren't even addressing the question.

Jesus, this thread has seen an influx of the illiterate.

OP, if your husband isn't ok with 190, your options are limited. You could wait to see if he comes around or put the effort into getting fitter. Get a fitness app and start exercising. Once you make it habit, it's much easier.

Really depends where the weight is. If it's all hips and boobs, then yum.

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Anonymous wrote:190 is obese. I feel sorry for both you and your DH. You are physically mismatched.

OP, you need to lose weight and your DH needs to bulk up. Maybe you both need to hit the gym.

Um, what? I am 5'11 and at 205 had 26% body fat. Hardly obese.

That's just gross. My DH is 6'2" and 216 and could easily stand to cut 20lbs. He's fit as well.

Your husband weighs 135 lbs? Is he 5'2?

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Anonymous wrote:I dont know what to tell you. I think it's gross that your DH would be turned off by such a small weight gain after kids, especially considering your height.

What's small about 40 pounds? 20 were after the baby.

At 40 pounds it is like carrying 5-6 full term babies on your person all the time.

I'd say that would be viewed as being pretty overweight quite apart from your weight/size ratio. You should aim for about 140-145 pounds. Your husband would be all over you.

She is 5'10". And you think she should aim for 140? Please.

I am just over 5'9". At my thinnest, 153, I was a size 4.
Height distributes weight. If you are 5 feet tall you won't understand.

Run to the gym

Anonymous wrote:Wow. The negativity here is awful. It's hard to lose weight. A good permanent weight loss is life change diet forever and activity. It would be great if your husband told you what was bothering him and was supportive with a plan for the two of you to work on it. For God's sake, you just had a baby. Isn't there any compassion for what you just went through?

People, stop being so mean. It doesn't help, and it makes you all look like dicks.

OP posed a question and you want people to sugar coat their responses? She specifically said that her weight bothers her husband so she knows what the issue is and there is no need to find out what is "bothering" him.

Weight loss is not difficult to achieve if one does not have a medical problem. Eat less, eat right and exercise. It is really incredible how people endlessly make excuses for why people are overweight as if they don't have any role in why this happens.

Also follow up on a routine physical including getting your blood sugar and thyroid checked

Wow. The negativity here is awful. It's hard to lose weight. A good permanent weight loss is life change diet forever and activity. It would be great if your husband told you what was bothering him and was supportive with a plan for the two of you to work on it. For God's sake, you just had a baby. Isn't there any compassion for what you just went through?

People, stop being so mean. It doesn't help, and it makes you all look like dicks.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont know what to tell you. I think it's gross that your DH would be turned off by such a small weight gain after kids, especially considering your height.

What's small about 40 pounds? 20 were after the baby.

At 40 pounds it is like carrying 5-6 full term babies on your person all the time.

I'd say that would be viewed as being pretty overweight quite apart from your weight/size ratio. You should aim for about 140-145 pounds. Your husband would be all over you.

LOL no.

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Anonymous wrote:I dont know what to tell you. I think it's gross that your DH would be turned off by such a small weight gain after kids, especially considering your height.

What's small about 40 pounds? 20 were after the baby.

At 40 pounds it is like carrying 5-6 full term babies on your person all the time.

I'd say that would be viewed as being pretty overweight quite apart from your weight/size ratio. You should aim for about 140-145 pounds. Your husband would be all over you.

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Anonymous wrote:190 is obese. I feel sorry for both you and your DH. You are physically mismatched.

OP, you need to lose weight and your DH needs to bulk up. Maybe you both need to hit the gym.

Um, what? I am 5'11 and at 205 had 26% body fat. Hardly obese.

Exactly. People are cray.

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Anonymous wrote:I dont know what to tell you. I think it's gross that your DH would be turned off by such a small weight gain after kids, especially considering your height.

40 pounds is not a "small weight gain."

+1

I know exactly what to tell you: lose the 40 pounds. I think it's perfectly normal for H to be turned off by 40 pound weight gain.
Sorry but kids/height are no excuse for fatness.