Anonymous wrote:If you're resentful with a two week stay (who wouldn't be), you do THEM no favors but structuring (agreeing to) the visit this way, feeling resentful, and then (you can't help it) enjoying them less and having it negatively impact your view of them.

Take charge.

The in-laws live very far away.

If you trust the ILs to watch your kids, then go out on date nights while they're here and find a decent balance between giving them alone time with the grandkids and not overwhelming them with responsibilities. I mind guests less who end up helping out in some way - so for my dad, his contribution is he makes dinner & gives us a date night; for my mom, she clears up the dishes after dinner each night she's visiting; my sister just generally entertains the kids while I cook and tend to the house so I can do something in peace; my MIL totally takes over my kitchen and makes awesome food. I don't expect contributions from my elderly grandmother when she visits, but the rest of the family? If they're staying for more than two days, they're going to pitch in and that helps balance it all out.