Anonymous
Post 12/28/2014 21:24     Subject: Going nuts already?! Post here!!
I took my kids to visit husband's sibling and didn't know her kids were on antibiotics for whooping cough. Soon after my kids had their fevers and coughs, now I know they don't have whooping cough but I wish she told me this before we arrived.

It's been miserable.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2014 21:17     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Yes! It's been three years, but I still shake with anger remembering when the MIL locked herself in a room with my 4 m.o. and would not let me come in. God, I hope I remember this feeling when I become a MIL myself.


I'm the PP and OMG I'm shaking on your behalf! When my MIL had her hands on DD's arm and leg and was trying to pull her out of my arms, I got up and had to go to another room to calm us both down, and then she acted like nothing went wrong. I let it go because I had no idea how to even mention it. Now I kind of wish I had so I could make sure she doesn't escalate to what your mil did. Did you ever talk about it? Not see her for a while like a PP mentioned? Is it better now?


The original PP here. It actually did escalate to the point where after she physically pushed me from the crib away "to protect the sleeping baby", I blew up and it was not pretty. Prior to that, DH would just say that MIL is a grandma and just wants to spend some time with the baby. After the incident, he talked to her and really limited my interactions with her. I mean, she did not change, I did not change, but it is easier to coexist when we see each other once a month (she meets with DC and DH without me).
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2014 17:17     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Trying to decide whether to go visit my family for a few days. I just am so tired from work, the Christmas rush, having a feisty toddler, and I do not feel like chitchatting with anyone right now. Usually there is some drama about what I'm not doing correctly (re: parenting) or snide remarks about my Diet Coke intake. I would get a hotel, but cannot afford it right now. Want to just postpone the whole trip.....
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2014 16:57     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Yes! It's been three years, but I still shake with anger remembering when the MIL locked herself in a room with my 4 m.o. and would not let me come in. God, I hope I remember this feeling when I become a MIL myself.


I strongly suspect I would have physically kicked down the door if someone did that to me.


Why? Overreact much? What did you think she would do to the baby?


It doesn't matter. You don't keep a parent away from a child, especially against the parent's will

+1.

To immediately be followed by a serious come to Jesus conversation about appropriate boundaries. And an immediate exit to a hotel.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2014 16:44     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
My rant is about my dh. Spending Xmas with my parents and dh is annoying the shit out of me. Listen I get it. Everyone misses their own family and would rather be with them. But it really annoys me how wa wa he gets and doesn't attempt to hide it. put on your big boy pants and fake a smile on your face. Find something pleasant.

He was awake 5 hours before we needed to be somewhere. I told him last night that we needed to be ready to leave At 220 with my parents. At 212 he got up to shave. He's all exasperated bc he has to "rush to shave."

You didn't have to rush. You've been up for hours. Why didn't you do it already? I want to strangle him.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2014 11:23     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Yes! It's been three years, but I still shake with anger remembering when the MIL locked herself in a room with my 4 m.o. and would not let me come in. God, I hope I remember this feeling when I become a MIL myself.


I strongly suspect I would have physically kicked down the door if someone did that to me.


Why? Overreact much? What did you think she would do to the baby?


It doesn't matter. You don't keep a parent away from a child, especially against the parent's will
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2014 10:49     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Yes! It's been three years, but I still shake with anger remembering when the MIL locked herself in a room with my 4 m.o. and would not let me come in. God, I hope I remember this feeling when I become a MIL myself.


I strongly suspect I would have physically kicked down the door if someone did that to me.


Why? Overreact much? What did you think she would do to the baby?
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2014 10:46     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Yes! It's been three years, but I still shake with anger remembering when the MIL locked herself in a room with my 4 m.o. and would not let me come in. God, I hope I remember this feeling when I become a MIL myself.


I'm the PP and OMG I'm shaking on your behalf! When my MIL had her hands on DD's arm and leg and was trying to pull her out of my arms, I got up and had to go to another room to calm us both down, and then she acted like nothing went wrong. I let it go because I had no idea how to even mention it. Now I kind of wish I had so I could make sure she doesn't escalate to what your mil did. Did you ever talk about it? Not see her for a while like a PP mentioned? Is it better now?
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2014 22:03     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Yes! It's been three years, but I still shake with anger remembering when the MIL locked herself in a room with my 4 m.o. and would not let me come in. God, I hope I remember this feeling when I become a MIL myself.


I strongly suspect I would have physically kicked down the door if someone did that to me.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2014 08:02     Subject: Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:We had a wonderful Christmas with the family but now my MIL is posting tons of pictures of me looking huge (and in my pajamas, to boot) on FB. I am untagging myself as fast as she can put 'em up there and hoping she doesn't notice! Love her, but really?


Quick tip: you can make your privacy settings so that if someone tags you, you have to approve it first before the tag can be seen. I do that for everyone including my siblings.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2014 07:57     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Yes! It's been three years, but I still shake with anger remembering when the MIL locked herself in a room with my 4 m.o. and would not let me come in. God, I hope I remember this feeling when I become a MIL myself.


Wow--I hope you either yelled at her or didn't see her again for a long, long time, possibly both?
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2014 02:11     Subject: Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:My ILs came before Christmas and left yesterday. DH is an only and we have two kids, so you might think they would enjoy Christmas with the grandkids. Guess not. They called ahead to tell DH that he "better" have FIL's favorite chair in the room with the tv (normally, the chair is in a different room). We moved the chair, then they came in, cleared off my ipad and stack of bills/mail from a table, moved the table next to FIL, cleared off the holiday cards I had on display on a shelf, put FIL's things on the shelf, and then turned on the tv, which remained on for the next 36 hours approximately. DH made a nice brunch. FIL declined and instead ate Froot Loops, which he had brought from home, directly from the box. They also brought their own soda, granola bars, and chips, and then FIL requested two large baby ruth candy bars and more chips so we went to the store. They brought tons of presents for DD, all of which are princess themed. FIL and DH argued constantly about politics and current events, and over the remote. FIL did not leave the house all weekend.

We did have a very nice time with MIL at zoolights. That memory will give me strength for the next visit.


They are so incredibly rude to take over your house like that. Why do you let them stay with you?
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2014 02:08     Subject: Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:Most people wouldn't find this annoying but I am sick and tired of MIL going on and on about how DD is clearly gifted and ahead of her peers. Sure she's a smart kid but not atypically so. I get the proud grandparent thing but she talks about it ALL the time. It's odd especially because dd is pretty much just a normal curious kid.

Other end of the spectrum, the comment I heard a few years ago from a grandparent. "If I didn't know any better I would say he is retarted" my response " he doesn't have Down syndrome "
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2014 01:51     Subject: Re:Going nuts already?! Post here!!
Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Yes! It's been three years, but I still shake with anger remembering when the MIL locked herself in a room with my 4 m.o. and would not let me come in. God, I hope I remember this feeling when I become a MIL myself.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2014 01:32     Subject: Going nuts already?! Post here!!
We had a wonderful Christmas with the family but now my MIL is posting tons of pictures of me looking huge (and in my pajamas, to boot) on FB. I am untagging myself as fast as she can put 'em up there and hoping she doesn't notice! Love her, but really?