Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 14:19     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks

Oops, parent being crazy
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 14:04     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
Anonymous wrote:My DC K teacher received a Christmas gift from us early this week and I didn't hear a thank you. She didn't bother sending a quick note. Do some teachers assume parents HAVE to send gifts and they don't need to give thanks for that?



Miss Manners says that thank you cards should be sent within 14 days.

Emily Post says that thank you cards for Christmas gifts should be sent before January 1.

Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 13:59     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
If she thanked your child in person, her etiquette obligations are complete.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:52     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher has no children and I think a brief note (just one sentence) doesn't hurt her time. I'm not a tight ass, I've been helping her in the classroom as volunteer, have two children, a husband, a profession, a house, my health to take care of. Every time I receive a gift, even if it's simple, write a brief thank you note the following day or the same week.


Wow. Aren't you perfect? Since she doesn't have kids, she surely has nothing else to do. Stop giving gifts. Please.


Don't worry. That was the last gift. You sound like zone of those teachers.


Terrific! Even better, stop volunteering in her classroom.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:48     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
Anonymous wrote:As a teacher, I did not sed thank you notes to students. I thanked them in person for the gift. If for some reason they didn't hand it to me and get thanked in person, I would send a note over break. I am astounded that a parent would be this mean spirited about her child's teacher. Miss Manners is VERY clear that written thank you notes are not required for gifts when the giver is thanked in person. Frankly, I had 125+ students a year in 5 classes. If I had to write a note for every tchotchke I got at Christmastime, I'd spend days over break writing them. Since I always spent most of my break catching up with work and grading papers, no, that wasn't going to happen.

Please refrain from giving teacher's gifts if your main objective is to audit the quality and timeliness of a written thank you. You're not giving in the spirit of giving, and it's frankly not worth the hassle and resentment that you create.


Apologies for the autocorrect typos!
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:46     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
As a teacher, I did not sed thank you notes to students. I thanked them in person for the gift. If for some reason they didn't hand it to me and get thanked in person, I would send a note over break. I am astounded that a parent would be this mean spirited about her child's teacher. Miss Manners is VERY clear that written thank you notes are not required for gifts when the giver is thanked in person. Frankly, I had 125+ students a year in 5 classes. If I had to write a note for every tchotchke I got at Christmastime, I'd spend days over break writing them. Since I always spent most of my break catching up with work and grading papers, no, that wasn't going to happen.

Please refrain from giving teacher's gifts if your main objective is to audit the quality and timeliness of a written thank you. You're not giving in the spirit of giving, and it's frankly not worth the hassle and resentment that you create.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:43     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher has no children and I think a brief note (just one sentence) doesn't hurt her time. I'm not a tight ass, I've been helping her in the classroom as volunteer, have two children, a husband, a profession, a house, my health to take care of. Every time I receive a gift, even if it's simple, write a brief thank you note the following day or the same week.


Where do we send your Nobel Prize?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:42     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
Our K teacher made a big production of giving DS a hug and a thanks when the gift was presented. That was good enough for us! He knew she appreciated it and felt good; I don't need a thank you.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:41     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher has no children and I think a brief note (just one sentence) doesn't hurt her time. I'm not a tight ass, I've been helping her in the classroom as volunteer, have two children, a husband, a profession, a house, my health to take care of. Every time I receive a gift, even if it's simple, write a brief thank you note the following day or the same week.


Wow. Aren't you perfect? Since she doesn't have kids, she surely has nothing else to do. Stop giving gifts. Please.


Don't worry. That was the last gift. You sound like zone of those teachers.


You are really pathetic. I give gift cards to my kids' teachers to thank them for all they do for my kids. I don't expect a thank you for thanking them for taking care of and teaching my kids for so many hours of their day. If I get one great, if not, I'm still grateful for what they do and don't care. Clearly you want credit and a pat on the back for giving a gift to the teacher. I know my kids had tests and project this week. Maybe the teacher was busy and waiting until she had time. I wouldn't want you in my classroom if I were a teacher. You probably do it to get benefits for your kid if this is how you are reacting because the teacher didn't drop everything and pat you on the back and thank you immediately. I hope you learn to be a more genuine and giving person.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:41     Subject: Re:Oops, teacher not giving thanks
p.s. that was a long time ago when all my students celebrated Christmas.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:40     Subject: Re:Oops, teacher not giving thanks
As a teacher, I wrote thank you's on Christmas cards and mailed them. That way, I knew they got to the house. Every child received one--even those who had given no gift.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:39     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
People obsessed with hearing "thank you" are obnoxious. Obviously it's more polite but who made you the polite police? Christmas is about giving, not receiving.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:24     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
Another teacher here. I write thank you notes over the break and give them in person to each student when they return. This way I can say thank you again, in person. My children's teachers have not sent thank you notes yet. Some years we have not received any at all and I'm not offended. Life gets busy and I gave the gift to say thank you to them.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:20     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
Anonymous wrote:I've never received a thank you note from any teacher


The way I see it, these gifts are Thank You gifts and Thank You gift cards. My kid even writes Thank you for all that you do. It is ridiculous to write a Thank you for a Thank you! We are thanking the teachers!
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 12:03     Subject: Oops, teacher not giving thanks
I'm at SAHM with probably more time than most (kids in elementary during the day) and even I would never expect a thank you from the teacher until after the holiday break. This is a busy month for them. It sounds like your making the present and the noted appreciation for it about you. Stop now before you make things even more miserable for yourself and your kids.