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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to decide what to do as well.

To the PP who picked up her straws and de-thawed at home ... What clinic? Was it SG?
I didn't know that was an option. I kind of like that idea.

Hi, that was me. No, it wasn't SG, I don't know if SG has that option... but they might, if you asked them! I found it kind of comforting. I didn't like the idea of them just being tossed as medical waste. The outcome was the same, but at least I felt like I honored the process a bit. And the defined time and space to cry was good.

Good luck to you. This is hard stuff.

Thank you for replying. I appreciate it.

Anonymous wrote:We are in the same situation. When I was 41, we decided to do IVF with my own eggs hoping to get just one good egg. (We had been warned that it might be difficult). At the time, we made a commitment to give every embryo a chance at life. Well, they over stimulated me and we ended up with 28 embryos!!!! We put 1 back in and had our DD. Two FETs later we had our DS, but still have 21 embryos remaining. Uggh. We can't possibly give everyone a chance at life. We would love to donate them but no one will accept them due to our ages and some issues in our medical history. Never imagined we'd be in this situation.

O.M.G.

how about a surrogate in India for the remaining embryos? you could have lots of children if you "rented" a womb?? Im sure someone loving with want to adopt. please dont give up...

Anonymous wrote:We are in the same situation. When I was 41, we decided to do IVF with my own eggs hoping to get just one good egg. (We had been warned that it might be difficult). At the time, we made a commitment to give every embryo a chance at life. Well, they over stimulated me and we ended up with 28 embryos!!!! We put 1 back in and had our DD. Two FETs later we had our DS, but still have 21 embryos remaining. Uggh. We can't possibly give everyone a chance at life. We would love to donate them but no one will accept them due to our ages and some issues in our medical history. Never imagined we'd be in this situation.

please dont give up, someone will want them!

have you tried these or post an add and screen the potential new parents?

http://www.embryodonation.org/

Nightlight Christian Adoptions

https://www.nightlight.org/snowflakes-embryo-donation-adoption/

please consider donating your "unwanted" eggs or embryos to help an infertile couple become pregnant. Give your babies a chance. Life begins at conception, they are not "just" cells...

here are a few options

http://www.embryodonation.org/

Nightlight Christian Adoptions

https://www.nightlight.org/snowflakes-embryo-donation-adoption/

Anonymous wrote:We are trying to decide what to do as well.

To the PP who picked up her straws and de-thawed at home ... What clinic? Was it SG?
I didn't know that was an option. I kind of like that idea.

Hi, that was me. No, it wasn't SG, I don't know if SG has that option... but they might, if you asked them! I found it kind of comforting. I didn't like the idea of them just being tossed as medical waste. The outcome was the same, but at least I felt like I honored the process a bit. And the defined time and space to cry was good.

Good luck to you. This is hard stuff.

Anonymous wrote:We are not perfect people. DH has some health issues. His genetics are both very good and bad. So I don't think he would pass the screening. Also we just inherited a lot of money and the way things are so crazy, I would predict someday in the far future, the offspring would ask us for money. Some way, some how. DNA?

No good deed goes unpunished.

We are in the same situation. When I was 41, we decided to do IVF with my own eggs hoping to get just one good egg. (We had been warned that it might be difficult). At the time, we made a commitment to give every embryo a chance at life. Well, they over stimulated me and we ended up with 28 embryos!!!! We put 1 back in and had our DD. Two FETs later we had our DS, but still have 21 embryos remaining. Uggh. We can't possibly give everyone a chance at life. We would love to donate them but no one will accept them due to our ages and some issues in our medical history. Never imagined we'd be in this situation.

Anonymous wrote:We are not perfect people. DH has some health issues. His genetics are both very good and bad. So I don't think he would pass the screening. Also we just inherited a lot of money and the way things are so crazy, I would predict someday in the far future, the offspring would ask us for money. Some way, some how. DNA?

We have three frozen and are about to do FETs. If we're blessed and the FET works on the first or second try we are going to have to make a decision about any that are left because we will be too old to have more children. I need to understand better what they do with them when you donate to science but I think this would probably be my preferred route. My husband is ok with adoption but I can't bear the thought of having another child out there that I did not raise and don't know. We have used birth control since having our first to minimize the number that will be destroyed, if any. It's weird, having any left seems like such a remote possibility when you have been trying for years for your first child but here we all are.

We are not perfect people. DH has some health issues. His genetics are both very good and bad. So I don't think he would pass the screening. Also we just inherited a lot of money and the way things are so crazy, I would predict someday in the far future, the offspring would ask us for money. Some way, some how. DNA?

We are trying to decide what to do as well.

To the PP who picked up her straws and de-thawed at home ... What clinic? Was it SG?
I didn't know that was an option. I kind of like that idea.

I thought I would donate to a couple - but ended up donating to research. I ended up feeling more like it would be like I'd given up kids to adoption who I wouldn't know and also about how my kids would feel about having bio-siblings they had no contact when that would likely eventually arise. It was a more complicated set of feelings than I thought.