Anonymous wrote:Until OP shows us all how a pacifier is filled with honey, this thread is BS!!!!

Has no one get seen those medicine dispensing pacifier? I assume it was something like that.

Until OP shows us all how a pacifier is filled with honey, this thread is BS!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:How does she have access to the baby to give a pacifier? If my MIL behaved that way, she wouldn't get into my house. Long ago, I stopped facilitating my husband's relationship with his mother. It's up to him to call her and make plans to spend time together. He doesn't do that so we only see her when I make the plans. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and her birthday.

If my DIL ever stopped me from going into her home to see my grandchild I would break the door down with an ax. And if my DIL had a problem with me breaking down her door I would turn the ax on her just to shut her up

Criminal Minds episode.

more like a lifetime movie

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Anonymous wrote:How did she fill the pacifier with honey and how would the 2 mos old break the pacifier to get the honey?

I was wondering that, too (not that it is relevant to OP's dilemma). I'm assuming there is a tiny hole in the pacifier so that when the baby sucks on it the baby gets honey. If that is how it works, I would like one for myself!

I was wondering too. And wouldn't the honey be too thick to go through the tiny hole?
I am assuming OP meant she covered the pacifier in honey?
Either way, it's just a weird thing to do for a baby.

OP, kindness comes first. There are things that she may be totally ignorant about, that mean a lot to you. Doesn't mean she is vile and vicious. Don't let this come in the way of baby-grandma bond. I cherish my grandparents so much , I still miss them after all these years.

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Anonymous wrote:How does she have access to the baby to give a pacifier? If my MIL behaved that way, she wouldn't get into my house. Long ago, I stopped facilitating my husband's relationship with his mother. It's up to him to call her and make plans to spend time together. He doesn't do that so we only see her when I make the plans. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and her birthday.

Remember, that your child learning how to treat elderly from watching how you great your parents and IL. Don't be surprise many years later when your child will only see you on Christmas, Thanksgiving and your bd.

May I borrow your crystal ball?

Anonymous wrote:How does she have access to the baby to give a pacifier? If my MIL behaved that way, she wouldn't get into my house. Long ago, I stopped facilitating my husband's relationship with his mother. It's up to him to call her and make plans to spend time together. He doesn't do that so we only see her when I make the plans. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and her birthday.

Remember, that your child learning how to treat elderly from watching how you great your parents and IL. Don't be surprise many years later when your child will only see you on Christmas, Thanksgiving and your bd.

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Anonymous wrote:How does she have access to the baby to give a pacifier? If my MIL behaved that way, she wouldn't get into my house. Long ago, I stopped facilitating my husband's relationship with his mother. It's up to him to call her and make plans to spend time together. He doesn't do that so we only see her when I make the plans. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and her birthday.

If my DIL ever stopped me from going into her home to see my grandchild I would break the door down with an ax. And if my DIL had a problem with me breaking down her door I would turn the ax on her just to shut her up

Criminal Minds episode.

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Anonymous wrote:How does she have access to the baby to give a pacifier? If my MIL behaved that way, she wouldn't get into my house. Long ago, I stopped facilitating my husband's relationship with his mother. It's up to him to call her and make plans to spend time together. He doesn't do that so we only see her when I make the plans. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and her birthday.

If my DIL ever stopped me from going into her home to see my grandchild I would break the door down with an ax. And if my DIL had a problem with me breaking down her door I would turn the ax on her just to shut her up

Yeah. You are a fucking nut job.

My live-in MIL is also foreign-born and has some weird and outdated ideas about parenting. I mentioned the grandparent class to her a couple times. The first time she blew off my comment, but the second time, after baby had come and she realized how out of practice and behind the times she is (ie I had to explain things like disposable diapers and not giving newborn DD water for her hiccups) she was suddenly a lot more interested.

Lucky for us, she mostly listens when we tell her not to do something...so far. We are only 4 weeks in. She still drives me nuts, but that's more a function of her being my live-in MIL. I feel your pain OP and I would totally freak in your situation.

grandparenting class, LOL

^^ You would wake up in jail or institutionalized.

Anonymous wrote:How does she have access to the baby to give a pacifier? If my MIL behaved that way, she wouldn't get into my house. Long ago, I stopped facilitating my husband's relationship with his mother. It's up to him to call her and make plans to spend time together. He doesn't do that so we only see her when I make the plans. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and her birthday.

If my DIL ever stopped me from going into her home to see my grandchild I would break the door down with an ax. And if my DIL had a problem with me breaking down her door I would turn the ax on her just to shut her up

Anonymous wrote:I don't trust my ILs with the kids anymore; they've aged and are forgetful. They still get to see the kids plenty, but they don't have an opportunity to make any decisions on behalf of the kids - they would never be the ones to decide that the baby is going to have a pacifier. So they can play with the kids, but it's not a break for me, I just expect to feed/clothe/bathe/change kids as usual.

Same, only it's my parents not ILs.

Anonymous wrote:How did she fill the pacifier with honey and how would the 2 mos old break the pacifier to get the honey?

I was wondering that, too (not that it is relevant to OP's dilemma). I'm assuming there is a tiny hole in the pacifier so that when the baby sucks on it the baby gets honey. If that is how it works, I would like one for myself!