I would not be annoyed but I get why it would bother others. My dad announced that they were doing a grandkids only Christmas card this year. He didn't exactly ask us, but we were informed ahead of time. I think it's fine. They're excited to have grandkids and want to brag about it - I'm not going to begrudge them that.

Is this a big deal? Really?? My MIL has done this in the past. It never occurred to me to be upset about it. She's sending the cards to her family and friends. What's wrong with that?

I wouldn't be "mad," but I would be annoyed. And I would ask DH to say something about it.

Yes, you should be upset. Not because she did it, but because she didnt ask you first. She overstepped her bounds big time!

Political families have a very thick skin. OP, your MIL will think you are very touchy and sensitive.

I think you are reasonable. But if this is the most extreme thing the ILs do that irritates you, you are very lucky.

I would talk w/MIL briefly and alone and mention that it feels uncomfortable to you, that you are still thinking about if it makes you feel a little uncomfortable of a lot. If you get immediate push-back from MIL, you might decide to let it go. It may be worth bringing it up since MIL may have never thought about the possibility that there was anything negative about it. In her mind she's going out of her way to show-off your children - and maybe she thought you would like that.

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Anonymous wrote:It's VERY weird, and an over-stepping of bounds on their part. It'd be one thing if all three generations did a family holiday photo with the intent you'd ALL send out the same pic. But this is not that.

+1

You are the parent, not them.

Get a life -- seriously!

My ILs do this. It makes me bristle every year. Especially because they really aren't interested in their grandchildren, they just like to put on a show of being "involved."

The year she sent the one out with a newborn pic of my new niece before my SIL had a chance to send birth announcements took the cake though.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL does a newsletter and includes pics that are notoriously unflattering of everyone but her.

Okay - this made me Laugh Out Loud. I had to read this one to my husband!

So glad it gave someone a laugh! The first year I was insulted but now I think it is funny and kind of look forward to getting it.

I'm very private, so much so that I don't do Facebook etc, but I don't understand what's wrong with them sending out photos of their grandkids. These are the people who created your husband and raised him, feeling the same bond and love you feel for your kids.

Guess what, that attachment doesn't disappear when your kid grows up and make their own life. And you feel the bond for your child's children, as they are your flesh and blood.

One day, your kids will grow up and have kids, and do you want your SIL or DIL to treat you like a stranger with no ties to your own flesh and blood?

Stop trying to control everything, and put yourself in their shoes. They're not hurting anyone. I'm assuming they didn't send out naked photos, with prices for each kid and a note that their mom has flabby thighs.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL would have come to the hospital during birth, taken pictures at her own self assigned liberty, acted completely oblivious to my presence, and posted my vajayjay on Facebook. So what the hell do I know.

22:5 here. Your comment made me laugh out loud, although you do have my sympathy!

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL would have come to the hospital during birth, taken pictures at her own self assigned liberty, acted completely oblivious to my presence, and posted my vajayjay on Facebook. So what the hell do I know.

22:5 here. Your comment made me laugh out loud, although you do have my sympathy!

Each year, my husband and I send out Christmas cards with just our grandchildren on the card. Most of our friends and older family members do the same, and we love receiving them! I've never thought of it as weird or offensive. Will add that I wouldn't use pictures without first consulting with our kids and their spouses--they always help us choose the best pics.

My MIL would have come to the hospital during birth, taken pictures at her own self assigned liberty, acted completely oblivious to my presence, and posted my vajayjay on Facebook. So what the hell do I know.